So basically I've been in a very loose relationship with a guy for a few weeks. At the beginning I was just told that he really, really liked me so I decided to go on a few dates with him and see where things went from there. I started to like him and so obviously we got together (just kissing). He kept on saying how much he really liked me and because we seemed to get on really well in person I was inclined to believe him.
Then we started going out together and things started turning sour. If I saw him hit on a girl, I would flirt with a guy, so I would grind with this girl, and then I would pull this guy etc. We would have little arguments but then we would always end up back together again.
Now the thing is that he seems to blow hot and cold. We went through a period where he was really into me and I could make him jealous at the drop of a hat, but recently he's stopped going out without me, he tends to ignore me if we all go out together, and just generally is very distant in person, but then really keen over text/facebook chat. Needless to say, I'm confused.
He has a bit of reputation as a player and I found out recently through a friend that he is going to be spending some time with another girl over Christmas. We haven't spoken for a while and the fact that he failed to mention this to me worried me. Okay, we weren't in a committed relationship, but didn't I still deserve to know?
One of my friends suggested that maybe he has a thing about 'the chase', as in now he has 'had' me he wants to move onto someone else. But if that is the case why is he still sometimes really overly friendly with me? We haven't slept together yet so I doubt it's a 'friends with benefits' sort of thing - he knows I'm not like that.
Upon reflection the whole 'chase' thing makes sense. I've been the one contacting him recently, where normally he'd do most of the legwork. I still really like him, despite out complications and I was wondering whether anyone can give me any advice about how to instill the 'chase' instinct back into him? At the moment I'm avoiding him, but that doesn't seem like such a great idea, neither does making him jealous as it only seems to upset him...
Guys, what makes you 'chase' a girl?
The Chase Watch
- Thread Starter
- 12-12-2010 00:55
- 12-12-2010 01:36
do you really want to be running all the time?
- Thread Starter
- 12-12-2010 21:11
Any other thoughts people?
TLDR VERSION: I think the guy I like has lost interest. How can I make him want me again? A.k.a. how do I make him want the 'chase'?