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    I've been in a relationship for 2 months, I see him everyday, and the days we don't see each other we ring each other. I love him and he loves me and we're great together.. support each other, make each other happy/laugh.. have a great sex life etc.
    Only problem is that i was cheated on in my relationship.. my ex told me he loved me, that i meant the world to him and when i said it back i meant it.. he then cheated on me and told me he just used me for sex and could'nt stand me. I know i shouldn't keep sayn to myself 'well if i believed him my boyfriend now could be lying aswel' but i just can't help it, i get parnoid.. scared that he is going to leave me and hurt me i've tried to leave him and just hugs me and tells me he knows im just scared and to trust him but the thing is i can't keep doing this, he doesn't deserve this and i know i'm going to end up driving him away.. how do i learn to trust him.. his the most amazing guy i've ever met. the reason i believe he loves me is because he puts up with my constant paranoia but i have to stop... please help!
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    Loving someone after two months...highly unlikely!

    Way I regained trust after ****ty relationships (cheating etc.) was through taking my next relationships incredibly slowly, and just rebuilding myself too.
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    (Original post by AmieeDaniels)
    I've been in a relationship for 2 months, I see him everyday, and the days we don't see each other we ring each other. I love him and he loves me and we're great together.. support each other, make each other happy/laugh.. have a great sex life etc.
    Only problem is that i was cheated on in my relationship.. my ex told me he loved me, that i meant the world to him and when i said it back i meant it.. he then cheated on me and told me he just used me for sex and could'nt stand me. I know i shouldn't keep sayn to myself 'well if i believed him my boyfriend now could be lying aswel' but i just can't help it, i get parnoid.. scared that he is going to leave me and hurt me i've tried to leave him and just hugs me and tells me he knows im just scared and to trust him but the thing is i can't keep doing this, he doesn't deserve this and i know i'm going to end up driving him away.. how do i learn to trust him.. his the most amazing guy i've ever met. the reason i believe he loves me is because he puts up with my constant paranoia but i have to stop... please help!
    well think about it this way...I don't think he'd put up with u if he was just looking for sex
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    Don't worry, you'll trust him slowly you wont even notice it.
    Just don't act on your paranoia if you don't want to drive him away.
 
 
 
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