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    My best friend is male. He's the one person I talk to 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We know we like each other, but we're taking it slowly. It's lovely

    I've always felt protective over him. When I first met him, I thought he was adorable. He doesn't talk to any girls other than me, and family friends. He's amazing in every way and I know he'd never, ever cheat on me.

    BUT when he does talk to other girls, I feel like a mother lioness. I honestly cannot stop myself from getting jealous. I don't mind when he talks to my mates but if they're other girls that he knows, and knows well (family friends) then I just feel...awful inside.

    And I know it's totally irrational. Totally.

    But I can't help it I really don't know why I feel like that.

    And I don't know why I feel so protective over him. I've had close mates in the past that I've spoken to 24/7 but this feels different.

    I guess I'm just asking for advice on how to over-come my irrational jealousy?
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      By the sounds of things, subconsiously you want to take things further, make things more official.
      If you get me.
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      (Original post by Roxannabelle)
      By the sounds of things, subconsiously you want to take things further, make things more official.
      If you get me.
      It's not that.

      I value his friendship more than anything, regardless of what 'status' we have.

      I care so much about him that it actually hurts. It's not healthy but we both feel that way. I think my care has developed my protectiveness even further.

      He's not the usual type of guy - he's not a lad. He's quite shy and timid.
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      You like him; you think you don't but you really do! Especially if you're getting THAT jealous, it's a classic sign.
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      (Original post by iced_dragon_agility)
      You like him; you think you don't but you really do! Especially if you're getting THAT jealous, it's a classic sign.
      I know I like him, and I know he likes me back. I honestly don't have a problem with things going slowly.

      My problem is I'm worried about how jealous/over protective I am for no reason. He's talking to one of my mates atm and they're sharing a joke and not telling me, and I'm actually really down about it.

      I don't expect him to tell me everything! I know it's completely irrational!

      Argh I don't know what my problem is.
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      You really need to nip that in the bud, jealousy and being controlling will ruin any potential relationship.
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      (Original post by MovingOn)
      You really need to nip that in the bud, jealousy and being controlling will ruin any potential relationship.
      I know, but how?

      I'm always the advice giver but I'm stuck for advice for myself because I don't know what the problem is in the first place!
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      God help him if/when your relationship becomes 'official' is all I can say. He's in for a real treat.

      clicking this is a step in the right direction, albeit a minor step

      or even this
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      I know, but how?

      I'm always the advice giver but I'm stuck for advice for myself because I don't know what the problem is in the first place!
      The more he speaks to other girls the better, you need to realise that him doing that isn't a threat to you or your relationship with him. Don't discourage him from mixing with other girls.
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      (Original post by MovingOn)
      The more he speaks to other girls the better, you need to realise that him doing that isn't a threat to you or your relationship with him. Don't discourage him from mixing with other girls.
      It's not that though, I like him socialising and talking to girls! I want him to gain confidence! But some girls I just ... feel weird about.

      One's a family friend and I know nothing will happen.
      The other's his best mates girl, again nothing will happen.

      But I still feel uncomfortable
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      Also let me add that I'm not a jealous person at all. I'm not jealous of anyone or anything - I'm a very happy person.

      I just.. gah :|
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      i've kinda been through this with my girl mates,i'm the one they get jealous of talking to other girls, it gets awkward.
      At first glance it sounds like you fancy him, however, it seems to me your just a great friend to him. Like Bromance*
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      He knows I like him, I know he likes me. We're taking it slow because it's his first relationship.
      So I'm not worried that some other girl is gonna take him or anything... =|
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      You want his man juice :sexface:
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      That's not protectiveness, that's possessiveness. And yes, you are jealous, at least for this guy.
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      Seems like you got it bad for this guy, take a slight step back and let him get on with it, as another reader said, it could potentially ruin a possible relationship, as much as you feel jealous and over protective of him, you have to let him see that you're not going to go over-board about him talking to "certain" girls. I would suggest telling him exactly how you feel so it doesn't start to eat you up inside.
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      it'a cos you love him so much it's totally fine.same with me..i go mad even if he looks at i dunno the most ugliest girl in the world.

      it would've been weird if you wasn't jelous of him..just try to keep it inside you though..or you could have arguments in the future :s
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      If you two don’t make it to the ‘next step’ …one of you will… with someone else.

      Best Wishes
     
     
     
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