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    I have a dilemma.

    I’ve recently gotten quite serious with a girl whose a a few years older than me. We’ve been dating for a while and I feel like im crazy about this girl and may even consider possibly wanting to pop the question. My concern though is her ex. I’ve had a bad experience with a previous girl who was cheating on me with her ex, obviously couldn’t let go and my current one now I worry may have a similar problem. She told me that she loved him with everything she had, he was the love of her life, they ended it cos he couldn’t fully commit himself and she was ready top settle down with him. She says she loves me and wants to settle down and I believe she’s about 8-0% committed to this maybe 90%

    Anyway to the point. I’ve figured out away to hack her email account without her knowing I’ve hacked it (not the secret question password reset) so if I wanted I could keep tabs on her for as long as I wish. She has a folder of all his old email and text messages.

    Will I be messing it up for myself by reading all this stuff or will I get some closure or peace of mind…more importantly will I be able to truly trust her or myself after having done this as I know it’s a very deceptive and slimy thing to do…but I have to know…I think.

    Also because she’s 10 years older than me at 34, I have this fear that maybe her best years are behind her in many respects (yes I mean the booty mainly)…should I be worried

    Advice guys???
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    Seriously is it that bad?

    I'm planning on marrying this woman btw so i think i have a right to know seeing as how open i've been with her... and if she's harbouring feelings for an ex which is just gonna put me in a loveless marriage or that of convenience alone then surely i deserve betetr than to have the wool pulled over my eyes...right?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a dilemma.

    I’ve recently gotten quite serious with a girl whose a a few years older than me. We’ve been dating for a while and I feel like im crazy about this girl and may even consider possibly wanting to pop the question. My concern though is her ex. I’ve had a bad experience with a previous girl who was cheating on me with her ex, obviously couldn’t let go and my current one now I worry may have a similar problem. She told me that she loved him with everything she had, he was the love of her life, they ended it cos he couldn’t fully commit himself and she was ready top settle down with him. She says she loves me and wants to settle down and I believe she’s about 8-0% committed to this maybe 90%

    Anyway to the point. I’ve figured out away to hack her email account without her knowing I’ve hacked it (not the secret question password reset) so if I wanted I could keep tabs on her for as long as I wish. She has a folder of all his old email and text messages.

    Will I be messing it up for myself by reading all this stuff or will I get some closure or peace of mind…more importantly will I be able to truly trust her or myself after having done this as I know it’s a very deceptive and slimy thing to do…but I have to know…I think.

    Also because she’s 10 years older than me at 34, I have this fear that maybe her best years are behind her in many respects (yes I mean the booty mainly)…should I be worried

    Advice guys???
    She's flirty, turned 30, ain't that the age a girl gets really dirty? :curious:
 
 
 
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