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    Someone I was at school with died in a car accident over the weekend. I didn't particularly know him - he wasn't a close friend - I did know him, and he was a pleasant enough person.

    I feel very ... odd. I used to stand behind him in the queue for dinner, watch him compete in sports day, sit next to him in exams. I have school photos of him, and now he's just gone. He was my age, and now he's dead.

    Like I say, I didn't really know him so it would be inappropriate to post on his Facebook memorial or go to the service, but knowing he died so quickly makes me feel very fragile. Is that normal?
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    Same happened to me...... Its normal. Crap but normal.
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    Death is a weird thing. Knowing that a person no longer exists. You will never hear them, see them, smell them ever again. It's a strange feeling.
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    I had a mate who went like this - cancer took him. Again, not a close friend, but someone I hung about with at school.

    When he passed I was gutted for him and his family, again a wholly decent bloke. I can't say that it affected my look on life.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Someone I was at school with died in a car accident over the weekend. I didn't particularly know him - he wasn't a close friend - I did know him, and he was a pleasant enough person.

    I feel very ... odd. I used to stand behind him in the queue for dinner, watch him compete in sports day, sit next to him in exams. I have school photos of him, and now he's just gone. He was my age, and now he's dead.

    Like I say, I didn't really know him so it would be inappropriate to post on his Facebook memorial or go to the service, but knowing he died so quickly makes me feel very fragile. Is that normal?
    perfectly normal.

    you got to accept death is a part of life. it is okay to be upset about it but try not to get too upset over it, it will make it worse
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    perfectly normal.

    you got to accept death is a part of life. it is okay to be upset about it but try not to get too upset over it, it will make it worse
    I'm not particularly upset, and that sounds awful but, like I say, I wasn't close with him. It's thoughts like, if we have a school reunion, he won't be there.

    Maybe it's because he's the first to go, as well. He was just so young, and it hasn't been that long since we were all still at school...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not particularly upset, and that sounds awful but, like I say, I wasn't close with him. It's thoughts like, if we have a school reunion, he won't be there.

    Maybe it's because he's the first to go, as well. He was just so young, and it hasn't been that long since we were all still at school...
    that is perfectly reasonable and you should be upset of course. just achknowledge that you are not the only one that feels like this it is a part of life and unfortunately there is nothing you can do about it
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    Yeah it's normal. I think it's because we're young, we don't think we need to worry about dying because it's so many years in the future. When something like this happens, it hits you that it may not be years in the future. It could be today, tomorrow, next year, in 100 years. It's the uncertainty of it all. Like, you're driving in your car and full of life then crash and that's it, it's all over within the blink of an eye. Wow TSR has really put me in a cheery mood tonight...!
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    It's completely normal. Death is a tragic thing. It doesn't just affect those close to the person. If anything, I think it shows the strong compassion you have for others.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Someone I was at school with died in a car accident over the weekend. I didn't particularly know him - he wasn't a close friend - I did know him, and he was a pleasant enough person.

    I feel very ... odd. I used to stand behind him in the queue for dinner, watch him compete in sports day, sit next to him in exams. I have school photos of him, and now he's just gone. He was my age, and now he's dead.

    Like I say, I didn't really know him so it would be inappropriate to post on his Facebook memorial or go to the service, but knowing he died so quickly makes me feel very fragile. Is that normal?
    It's perfectly fine to feel that way.

    My friend's cousin died a few weeks ago in a car accident too. I've never met him, but because so many of my friends knew him and just knowing someone so close to my close friends has gone forever, made feel so small and vulnerable and sad.

    I think it's the realization that we're so small in this massive world, and anything can happen, at any time, out of our hands, without us expecting it.
 
 
 
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