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    I CAN'T AND NEVER DO and it's so FRUSTRATING!

    I'm a girl, and have been told numerous times that i'm pretty/gorgeous and yet on every night out either no one normal and attractive approaches me, or i'm too drunk to know what's going on and as a result all the decent guys aren't *****ish enough to come on to me. And also being too drunk reduces ones appeal significantly... (but I am working on being less of a lightweight...)
    But STILL, even at parties, less pretty girls get off with guys and the situation just never arises for me!
    I don't know whether I give off some sort of unapproachable vibe or what, I seem to get the regular old man/weirdo attention on the street that most girls get, so I don't think it's that problem.
    It's not my personality either because I'm pretty nice (inb4 you're arrogant, i'm not, I just want to put across all the facts), and also not a slut - maybe this is what guys are looking for?!
    Help me, what can I do? Have you been in the same situation and gotten out of it? Do I just need to wear less clothes
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    Have you considered the possibility that, despite what you may think, you bear more than a passing resemblance to a shaved cocker spaniel?
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    Maybe it's your attitude...?
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    I don't like you either... maybe the problem is in you despite the fact that you deny it?
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    ever considered approaching someone rather than waiting for them to approach you?
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    it's the opposite of push?
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    As fellow tsr guys would agree, we need pics
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    Read The Game, start peacockin', neggin' and DHV. :pimp:
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    maybe u should take the first step, and then u get to pick instead of just settling for someone
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    Yawn. Shut up you greetbag. How about you go and approach a guy? IT'S NOT AGAINST THE LAW ZZZ
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    But dudes, if I approach a guy FIRST, he's probably not into me? Otherwise why wouldn't he approach me like most guys do to most girls? EXACTLY.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I CAN'T AND NEVER DO and it's so FRUSTRATING!

    I'm a girl, and have been told numerous times that i'm pretty/gorgeous and yet on every night out either no one normal and attractive approaches me, or i'm too drunk to know what's going on and as a result all the decent guys aren't *****ish enough to come on to me. And also being too drunk reduces ones appeal significantly... (but I am working on being less of a lightweight...)
    But STILL, even at parties, less pretty girls get off with guys and the situation just never arises for me!
    I don't know whether I give off some sort of unapproachable vibe or what, I seem to get the regular old man/weirdo attention on the street that most girls get, so I don't think it's that problem.
    It's not my personality either because I'm pretty nice (inb4 you're arrogant, i'm not, I just want to put across all the facts), and also not a slut - maybe this is what guys are looking for?!
    Help me, what can I do? Have you been in the same situation and gotten out of it? Do I just need to wear less clothes
    YOU OOZE DESPERATION! Chill, find a new hobby. Clubs and parties are not the only places u can pull.

    why do you use the word pull anyway?..If you're just lookin for some fun then surely u can just walk up to someone and make the first step. Just remember: boys are not self esteem boosters ok?

    On the other hand you may also be surrounded by boys just as desperate and inexperienced as you so (if you really are all u say u are) they prolly just go for the fuglies who dont usually get that much attention to increase their chances.
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    I'm the same, but I think my problem isn't with getting approached, it's what I do then. I have a tendency to be completely unalluring, for example one guy I really fancied came and started chatting to me at a party, and I started talking about eyebrows (?!). I had him laughing but it probably didn't fill him with lust. It's an okay thing for a relationship I suppose but I'm not sure I'll ever be a heat of the moment kinda gal :/
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I CAN'T AND NEVER DO and it's so FRUSTRATING!

    I'm a girl, and have been told numerous times that i'm pretty/gorgeous and yet on every night out either no one normal and attractive approaches me, or i'm too drunk to know what's going on and as a result all the decent guys aren't *****ish enough to come on to me. And also being too drunk reduces ones appeal significantly... (but I am working on being less of a lightweight...)
    But STILL, even at parties, less pretty girls get off with guys and the situation just never arises for me!
    I don't know whether I give off some sort of unapproachable vibe or what, I seem to get the regular old man/weirdo attention on the street that most girls get, so I don't think it's that problem.
    It's not my personality either because I'm pretty nice (inb4 you're arrogant, i'm not, I just want to put across all the facts), and also not a slut - maybe this is what guys are looking for?!
    Help me, what can I do? Have you been in the same situation and gotten out of it? Do I just need to wear less clothes
    I'm a decent guy, i wouldn't pull a girl that is drunk, it reduces the appeal. Don't wait for guys to come to you, flirt like hell with guys and they'll respond
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I CAN'T AND NEVER DO and it's so FRUSTRATING!

    I'm a girl, and have been told numerous times that i'm pretty/gorgeous and yet on every night out either no one normal and attractive approaches me, or i'm too drunk to know what's going on and as a result all the decent guys aren't *****ish enough to come on to me. And also being too drunk reduces ones appeal significantly... (but I am working on being less of a lightweight...)
    But STILL, even at parties, less pretty girls get off with guys and the situation just never arises for me!
    I don't know whether I give off some sort of unapproachable vibe or what, I seem to get the regular old man/weirdo attention on the street that most girls get, so I don't think it's that problem.
    It's not my personality either because I'm pretty nice (inb4 you're arrogant, i'm not, I just want to put across all the facts), and also not a slut - maybe this is what guys are looking for?!
    Help me, what can I do? Have you been in the same situation and gotten out of it? Do I just need to wear less clothes
    ...You need to stop drinking then, not become less of a lightweight. :rolleyes:
    I think it's the drinking that's turn off, not the being drunk, so drinking more to stop being a lightweight isn't going to help.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I CAN'T AND NEVER DO and it's so FRUSTRATING!

    I'm a girl, and have been told numerous times that i'm pretty/gorgeous and yet on every night out either no one normal and attractive approaches me, or i'm too drunk to know what's going on and as a result all the decent guys aren't *****ish enough to come on to me. And also being too drunk reduces ones appeal significantly... (but I am working on being less of a lightweight...)
    But STILL, even at parties, less pretty girls get off with guys and the situation just never arises for me!
    I don't know whether I give off some sort of unapproachable vibe or what, I seem to get the regular old man/weirdo attention on the street that most girls get, so I don't think it's that problem.
    It's not my personality either because I'm pretty nice (inb4 you're arrogant, i'm not, I just want to put across all the facts), and also not a slut - maybe this is what guys are looking for?!
    Help me, what can I do? Have you been in the same situation and gotten out of it? Do I just need to wear less clothes
    Also, no offense, maybe you should stop being so full of yourself, and having the attitude that you're just too good for anyone who approaches you..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I CAN'T AND NEVER DO and it's so FRUSTRATING!

    I'm a girl, and have been told numerous times that i'm pretty/gorgeous and yet on every night out either no one normal and attractive approaches me, or i'm too drunk to know what's going on and as a result all the decent guys aren't *****ish enough to come on to me. And also being too drunk reduces ones appeal significantly... (but I am working on being less of a lightweight...)
    But STILL, even at parties, less pretty girls get off with guys and the situation just never arises for me!
    I don't know whether I give off some sort of unapproachable vibe or what, I seem to get the regular old man/weirdo attention on the street that most girls get, so I don't think it's that problem.
    It's not my personality either because I'm pretty nice (inb4 you're arrogant, i'm not, I just want to put across all the facts), and also not a slut - maybe this is what guys are looking for?!
    Help me, what can I do? Have you been in the same situation and gotten out of it? Do I just need to wear less clothes
    I don't tend to approach girls when I can't see their face... Because it's that far up their own arse. Seriously. If you act like you are the hottest thing on earth you will be unaproachable, especially if you are not.

    Also, you say that everyone says you are gorgeous etc. But I have friends who tell the ugliest girls on earth they are pretty just to make them feel better.
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    Get lost. Literally. If you are dancing in a big group of girls you reduce your chances of getting pulled by guys because it is intimidating. It takes a lot of courage for a guy to approach a girl so you need to make yourself as approachable as possible.

    I never fail to grab at least a few guys attentions if I'm by myself because I've been seperated from the pack haha. Also, if that doesn't work try approaching the guy. Gauge where you are in the 'attractive heirarchy' and go for someone about your level. "Excuse me do you know where X is?" etc etc. Trust me, being alone makes you seem like an easy target for the nice guy with little self-esteem, (and it's the nice guy you want at the end of the day) and hence chances of pulling are heightened

    Oh and don't wear less clothes/act slutty. That helps nothing.
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    http://www.iqcontent.com/blog/files/...eg%20small.jpg

    This is probably why.
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    (Original post by unknownking321)
    Read The Game, start peacockin', neggin' and DHV. :pimp:
    LOL, just no. Life isn't written in an amateur book.
 
 
 
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