How many people here have never had a girlfriend or boyfriend?

"Is it just that you have a lack of confidence or is it that you can't be bothered and prefer to be single"

Bit of both. It's stupid because I do want a girlfriend but I get into these "can't be bothered" moods. These moods are influenced by fear of rejection but I know that if I don't take that risk, I'll never get any "yes" answers either. I also have no girl aquaintances (I used to be even shyer/lazier than I am now) so any potential GF's are going to be strangers.

Why have I remained single? Because I have literally made zero effort to ever get a girl. I've never asked one out and as I mentioned, I haven't really flirted with one either.

21 year old male here and never had a girlfriend. Not only that but I've literally done NOTHING with a girl i.e no dates, no kisses, not even flirted with one (if a girl at any point in my life has flirted with me, then I was probably oblivious to it).

Its weird though because I think I've got so many things going for me: I'm tall, muscular, have an awesome finance grad job secured and go to a good university.

Why have I remained single? Because I have literally made zero effort to ever get a girl. I've never asked one out and as I mentioned, I haven't really flirted with one either. I'm also not a very sociable person and only go to a social outing where I might have the chance to meet females about 5 times a year. And although I may be confident and a leader in workshops and group projects, I am absolutely hopeless at talking to girls. Even if I did get the chance to talk to one, I always run out of ideas very quickly so nothing ever happens.

I have never had a girlfriend due to various reasons, two of them being my strong morals and the preference of academic interests over social interactions, but I do not see it as a huge problem.

As for me, well, I'm young and I prefer "older" men (bearing in mind older for me means people in their 20s), so it wouldn't work legally.

21 year old male here and never had a girlfriend. Not only that but I've literally done NOTHING with a girl i.e no dates, no kisses, not even flirted with one (if a girl at any point in my life has flirted with me, then I was probably oblivious to it).

Its weird though because I think I've got so many things going for me: I'm tall, muscular, have an awesome finance grad job secured and go to a good university.

Why have I remained single? Because I have literally made zero effort to ever get a girl. I've never asked one out and as I mentioned, I haven't really flirted with one either. I'm also not a very sociable person and only go to a social outing where I might have the chance to meet females about 5 times a year. And although I may be confident and a leader in workshops and group projects, I am absolutely hopeless at talking to girls. Even if I did get the chance to talk to one, I always run out of ideas very quickly so nothing ever happens.

if your under 16 surly you should be looking for people closer your age?

I don't like "boys" closer to my age. Men are way more nicer, intelligent, mature, appealing, attractive etc etc.

intelligence and maturity go with age but i confused as to why older men would go after a younger women specially if there 20+ and no offence but your jail bait?

21 year old male here and never had a girlfriend. Not only that but I've literally done NOTHING with a girl i.e no dates, no kisses, not even flirted with one (if a girl at any point in my life has flirted with me, then I was probably oblivious to it).

Its weird though because I think I've got so many things going for me: I'm tall, muscular, have an awesome finance grad job secured and go to a good university.

Why have I remained single? Because I have literally made zero effort to ever get a girl. I've never asked one out and as I mentioned, I haven't really flirted with one either. I'm also not a very sociable person and only go to a social outing where I might have the chance to meet females about 5 times a year. And although I may be confident and a leader in workshops and group projects, I am absolutely hopeless at talking to girls. Even if I did get the chance to talk to one, I always run out of ideas very quickly so nothing ever happens.

Make an effort. Talk to us girls - we won't bite! I always see cute guys around who I really want to talk to but they don't make an effort to talk and it's really sad. It seems like you're a great catch so just get out there, so we can all see what a great guy you are. Girls want you to talk to them.

If you do run out of ideas, just talk about whatever comes to your mind, even cheese. Or even play a game, whatever. Be yourself. You don't have to be talking all the time.

Having said all that, I have never actually had a boyfriend myself or even been close, so you know. But, I do know that "tall, muscular" guys who "have an awesome finance grad job secured and go to a good university" are favoured by girls I know. Good luck with life.

To ugly, have no social life and girls inthe 21st century have a very high snce of entitlement

Thank you for all the nice comments. I really would like to talk to girls more but its often an issue of being unable to think of what to say. If I do have something to say, then approaching is dead easy.

Thank you for all the nice comments. I really would like to talk to girls more but its often an issue of being unable to think of what to say. If I do have something to say, then approaching is dead easy.