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    I know how crap I am at mingling and chatting in social + work situations. People have no paitence with me. I try my very hardest to impress though!!

    Strangers are always giving me dirty looks too. And I think my face must offend them. I try smiling and giving encouragement, but I get nothing back.

    I don't fit in with other people. As a result I feel like an outcast. I feel miserable in my heart. I am also repressed. I tried telling my parents how I'm feeling, and I couldn't get the words out... They wouldn't understand. They would just say I'm paranoid.

    I fear I'm destined to live out the rest of my life as an outcast.
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    It may be other things, other than you. What makes you say your 'face' offends them? That's a pretty hard statement to say in regards to yourself.
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    i don't mix well either but if they are too snooty and up their own arse to talk to you, then who gives a ****, their loss
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    Believe in yourself.
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    (Original post by Roo Bix)
    It may be other things, other than you. What makes you say your 'face' offends them? That's a pretty hard statement to say in regards to yourself.
    I feel the same and honestly have no idea why :confused:

    either I'm dead attractive, orrrrr...piss ugly :eek:
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    Surround yourself with the people you care about. The ones who are horrible and spiteful to you are not people you would want as friends anyway. But there are always people who you can talk to so you feel better
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    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r0U0AlLVqpk
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know how crap I am at mingling and chatting in social + work situations. People have no paitence with me. I try my very hardest to impress though!!

    Strangers are always giving me dirty looks too. And I think my face must offend them. I try smiling and giving encouragement, but I get nothing back.

    I don't fit in with other people. As a result I feel like an outcast. I feel miserable in my heart. I am also repressed. I tried telling my parents how I'm feeling, and I couldn't get the words out... They wouldn't understand. They would just say I'm paranoid.

    I fear I'm destined to live out the rest of my life as an outcast.
    Shutup and revise.
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    I feel like that sometimes. People don't hate you, you just have to keep trying and soon you will find a group of friends that make you feel better about yourself
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    Maybe you are a bit paranoid - I highly doubt everyone is giving you evils, unless you have a swastika tattooed to your forehead or something.
    I can relate to you somewhat in the sense I feel hated by many, when in fact it may not be all that true (or at least I hope). You sound like you have low self esteem, more than anything.
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    I feel like you except more messed up. I'm so introverted, I just can't talk to anyone without the conversation getting completely awkward. I have just no social skills at all and the main conversation in my head consists of, "Say something. Say something.... you really should say something now...". I feel everyone hates me because of it. I "fix it"by exaggerating everyones hate for me so I'll never let myself be lulled into a false sense of security by think anyone likes me or trust anyone... sad.

    Are you at school or uni now? Hopefully home, so it might get better at uni. It really did for me. I'm much better than I was when I started uni. Still a lot worse than most other people but I'm good for me!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know how crap I am at mingling and chatting in social + work situations. People have no paitence with me. I try my very hardest to impress though!!

    Strangers are always giving me dirty looks too. And I think my face must offend them. I try smiling and giving encouragement, but I get nothing back.

    I don't fit in with other people. As a result I feel like an outcast. I feel miserable in my heart. I am also repressed. I tried telling my parents how I'm feeling, and I couldn't get the words out... They wouldn't understand. They would just say I'm paranoid.

    I fear I'm destined to live out the rest of my life as an outcast.
    Please don't feel like that! Like someone else commented about, it's not you it's just the people who you are surrounded by. You say you don't fit in with other people? that's not true. you do fit in. You just don't fit in with them as their in a different league than you. ( maybe their likes and interests differ slightly from yours) I'm sure if you were with a group of people like yourself, you'd fit in perfectly. As for you thinking people are giving you dirty looks, maybe your just putting 2 and 2 together.Maybe they look miserable with something going on in their own lives. I like your attitude when you say that you smile and offer encouragement. I like you man and I haven't even met you, so that's saying something isn't it? hope things improve for you soon mate
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    (Original post by Sprockette)
    I feel like you except more messed up. I'm so introverted, I just can't talk to anyone without the conversation getting completely awkward. I have just no social skills at all and the main conversation in my head consists of, "Say something. Say something.... you really should say something now...". I feel everyone hates me because of it. I "fix it"by exaggerating everyones hate for me so I'll never let myself be lulled into a false sense of security by think anyone likes me or trust anyone... sad.

    Are you at school or uni now? Hopefully home, so it might get better at uni. It really did for me. I'm much better than I was when I started uni. Still a lot worse than most other people but I'm good for me!
    You, Sprockette, just need to let go of those demands and objectives! Try socialising and conversing for the moment, in the moment.
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    from the people I've met in my lifetime, I know that there are quite a few people similar to you.
    I suppose some of the tips I could advise is to have your own pre-set conversation questions and not be openly too awkward. People feed off it like vultures....
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    (Original post by ElectronicPanda)
    from the people I've met in my lifetime, I know that there are quite a few people similar to you.
    I suppose some of the tips I could advise is to have your own pre-set conversation questions and not be openly too awkward. People feed off it like vultures....
    And be a better judge of character, look around for friendly people and initiate a conversation with them.
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    Social interactions are just a part of life amongst others. Don't let it spoil the rest of your time on earth. Also, try to diagnose what exactly people hate about you. Your jokes? Your looks? Your laugh? Your smile? Your smell? Your guts? Your very existence? (our most glaring flaws are always invisible to us)
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    Got work today. Trying to pluck up the confidence to go in front of all those people, knowing I'll be judged.
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    (Original post by Glowy Amoeba)
    Social interactions are just a part of life amongst others. Don't let it spoil the rest of your time on earth. Also, try to diagnose what exactly people hate about you. Your jokes? Your looks? Your laugh? Your smile? Your smell? Your guts? Your very existence? (our most glaring flaws are always invisible to us)
    Over anaylsis can sometimes cause more problems than it solves though. It's good to be yourself I think, but still make some changes.
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    (Original post by Roo Bix)
    You, Sprockette, just need to let go of those demands and objectives! Try socialising and conversing for the moment, in the moment.
    I have. I'm better than I was, when I was a kid, at school, I used to just tense up and lower my head at school when someone talked to me When I got to uni though, I had to do presentations and group work and I got a job working in a shop where I had to talk to people all the time. Living with people I didn't know helped a bit too.

    I still have issues (lots of them!) but I can live with them. I just had to meet the right people, no-one seemed right at home or maybe just the first people I met bullied me and made me think everyone would. I know I'm too sensitive.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Got work today. Trying to pluck up the confidence to go in front of all those people, knowing I'll be judged.
    Try and tell yourself that it doesn't matter what they think and that that's not why you're there. I know, easier said than done but... Try to focus on something else. It gets easier. Just try and copy the other people there with you. It should be easy enough to just get into a routine, it'll seem the same with every customer and (depending on the customer!) they won't last long. Good luck

    (OK, I'm just assuming it's a shop. What are you working as?)
 
 
 
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