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    Right this is an awkward post, hence anonymous.

    I'm a girl, 18. up until about 2 months ago i had a lump, down there, it was benign but i went through a longg time of doctors appointments etc before they could remove it.

    So anyway, thats not really the point. Because of it I never wanted to do anything with a guy, because I was embarressed about it so I always broke off relationships early before anything sexual could happen because, yeah.

    Now i've had it sorted, but with no previous sexual experience atall, not so much as giving a handjob, I'm kindof too nervous to do anything. I mean, everyone got their awkward fumbles and mistakes out of the way at like 15, and now at 18 i guess you're supposed to know what your doing. And i don't, atall, and i've worked it up to be some massive awkward deal in my head that i'm gunna make a fool out of myself by not knowing what to do. Telling him is definately not something I'd consider!

    Bit of a long winded account, but any advice on getting the confidence up would be appreciateddd or anyone in a similar position?
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    I can solve all your problems.
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    watch porn? you'll be a pro before you know it.

    Lol, I don't think its that big a deal, from what I've seen on Tsr, there are many 18+ year olds still virgins....
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    What kind of lump and where? (Just curious)
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      Right this is an awkward post, hence anonymous.

      I'm a girl, 18. up until about 2 months ago i had a lump, down there, it was benign but i went through a longg time of doctors appointments etc before they could remove it.

      So anyway, thats not really the point. Because of it I never wanted to do anything with a guy, because I was embarressed about it so I always broke off relationships early before anything sexual could happen because, yeah.

      Now i've had it sorted, but with no previous sexual experience atall, not so much as giving a handjob, I'm kindof too nervous to do anything. I mean, everyone got their awkward fumbles and mistakes out of the way at like 15, and now at 18 i guess you're supposed to know what your doing. And i don't, atall, and i've worked it up to be some massive awkward deal in my head that i'm gunna make a fool out of myself by not knowing what to do. Telling him is definately not something I'd consider!

      Bit of a long winded account, but any advice on getting the confidence up would be appreciateddd or anyone in a similar position?
      Though, sadly, the only option.

      If he's worth his salt, he'll understand and lot let it get in the way of a healthy relationship.
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      And simply have a one night stand with an upstanding randomer. Repeat until you achieve desired experience
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      (Original post by Arcanine)
      I can solve all your problems.
      Arcanine don't take the mick. She's obviously being very serious and is worried.
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      Now i've had it sorted, but with no previous sexual experience atall, not so much as giving a handjob, I'm kindof too nervous to do anything. I mean, everyone got their awkward fumbles and mistakes out of the way at like 15, and now at 18 i guess you're supposed to know what your doing. And i don't, atall, and i've worked it up to be some massive awkward deal in my head that i'm gunna make a fool out of myself by not knowing what to do. Telling him is definately not something I'd consider!

      Bit of a long winded account, but any advice on getting the confidence up would be appreciateddd or anyone in a similar position?
      actually, I'll think you'll find a lot of people (not just TSR haha) including me and I'm 17, that haven't. not 'everyone' has, so don't stress about it. watch videos/read forums if you need to but don't stress
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      (Original post by timiop2008)
      Arcanine don't take the mick. She's obviously being very serious and is worried.
      Lol, do one you moron.
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      Why wouldn't you tell they guy? 18 is a perfectly acceptable age to not have done that kind of stuff :dontknow:
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      If he is a decent boy who you are considering a relationship with i think it is unlikely he will be bothered about your lack of expirience he will look past that because he likes u. Every boy i have spoken to about it in the past thought it was a good thing i hadn't done anything with a boy it makes you more girlfriend material apparently. I wouldn't worry about it
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      thank you for your advice (most of you anyway, ha)

      sadly, randomly doing it with a stranger has crossed my mind but i reckon morally that would not be a wise choice and in reality i would probably not wana do that.

      i know quite a lot of people are inexperienced at 18 and its fine, its just that i do actually want to do stuff and have oppurtunity i just have this crippling lack of confidence about it and i don't know how to overcome it.

      those of you who are not virgins, is it always obvious when someone is inexperienced???? honest answer please!
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      I'm exactly in the same situation (just read the one or two posts I have made)...cept I'm 22 and a guy. If you get any useful advice, forward it onto me hah...it is like a neverending circle
     
     
     
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