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    Anon or delete please.

    OK, so there's this girl I go to uni with who I really like. I've been speaking to her quite a lot over the past month, but the problem is I don't know how to tell her how I feel. For the past two nights I've walked home with her, probably the perfect opportunities, but I've just found it physically impossible to tell her how I feel about her. Even if she doesn't like me in the same way, I still want to get this off my chest and tell her I like her.

    But now I'm going home for uni tomorrow, and I probably won't see her for a month. I feel like I should try once again at telling her tomorrow, but I can't think of an excuse to see her. Would it be better to just wait a month before attempting to tell her how I feel when uni starts again, letting it eat away at me in the meantime, or is telling her how I feel over like a facebook message, text, or phonecall a viable option?

    I know I'm pathetic, and I loathe myself for it. Any replies would be much appreciated.
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    Why don't when you are walking her back just pop the question.

    "Wanna be my girlfriend?"

    And i suggest you wait over the holidays, dont use facebook or a text or any kind of messaging service.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    but I've just found it physically impossible to tell her how I feel about her
    Locked jaw? Try writing it down.
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    I would just approach it head on - text her asking her to meet you somewhere & then ask her out/tell her how you feel...if it goes belly up, you have the holidays to get over any embarassment
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    (Original post by Andrejispanickin)
    Why don't when you are walking her back just pop the question.

    "Wanna be my girlfriend?"

    And i suggest you wait over the holidays, dont use facebook or a text or any kind of messaging service.
    I wish it was that easy, but I am a pathetic human being who could only have such confidence in my wildest dreams.
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    (Original post by Anoodles)
    I would just approach it head on - text her asking her to meet you somewhere & then ask her out/tell her how you feel...if it goes belly up, you have the holidays to get over any embarassment
    Wouldn't you kind of feel weirded out if you got a text saying "meet me *insert place here*"? What else would I say in the text?
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    Do you flirt at all? If so you think that she is giving you positive signals back? I would ask her if she'd like to go for a coffee/lunch tomorrow casually and you could explain your feelings to her over that. Bear in mind if she has no idea that you like her it could be a bit of a shock. If you think that's the case try and stick it out over holidays but keep interest up by continuing chatting on FB/whatever of course. I would avoid saying "I like you" etc. anywhere but face to face, definitely not in text.
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    walk up to her, slap her across the face and say "your mine *****!"

    I jest. Domestic violence isnt fun kids!

    Just man up, and say to her something like "you know, i think im going to miss you over the holidays..."
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    ANON/DELETE- Related to my recent thread

    Definetly do it face to face. I am in the same exact position but I am a girl. Its going to be sooo hard to wait until after the holidays, trust me! With my guy I only see him once a week in lectures as it is.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon or delete please.

    OK, so there's this girl I go to uni with who I really like. I've been speaking to her quite a lot over the past month, but the problem is I don't know how to tell her how I feel. For the past two nights I've walked home with her, probably the perfect opportunities, but I've just found it physically impossible to tell her how I feel about her. Even if she doesn't like me in the same way, I still want to get this off my chest and tell her I like her.

    But now I'm going home for uni tomorrow, and I probably won't see her for a month. I feel like I should try once again at telling her tomorrow, but I can't think of an excuse to see her. Would it be better to just wait a month before attempting to tell her how I feel when uni starts again, letting it eat away at me in the meantime, or is telling her how I feel over like a facebook message, text, or phonecall a viable option?

    I know I'm pathetic, and I loathe myself for it. Any replies would be much appreciated.
    Dude, just wait until next semester. I'm in the same situation.

    Also, never tell a woman how you feel. It'll make everything awkward, and you'll be plunged head-first into the friend zone.

    You need to be cocky and funny, maintaining and air of confidence and scarcity. Don't always be available, and walk like you're Brad Pitt.
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    The easiest way you could do it is to be really nice to her.
    And ask her out really casually , like: " Oh im hungry/have you tasted blah blah.......(...).... Want to go get lunch/coffee/a sandwich..(...)... tomorrow/in a bit/ next week"
    Its so simple an indirect yet direct. Get me ? :smug:
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    Tell her face to face. Perhaps take some mistletoe to start off the kiss, given it's the festive season and all.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Wouldn't you kind of feel weirded out if you got a text saying "meet me *insert place here*"? What else would I say in the text?
    Hmmm, just try text her saying can we meet for coffee at *blahblah* tommorow - I have something I want to tell you.

    ^^ very obvious, so if she says she's busy...well it's a good indication she's not interested anyway.

    Or rephrase it to, something I want to run by you, something I want your opinion on, something I need to say - take your pick . I think you're building it up too much in your head OP.
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    Follow these steps

    http://memegenerator.net/Old-Spice-G...WE-HAVE-2-KIDS - Say that

    Then, this

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    (Original post by Inversion)
    Do you flirt at all? If so you think that she is giving you positive signals back? I would ask her if she'd like to go for a coffee/lunch tomorrow casually and you could explain your feelings to her over that. Bear in mind if she has no idea that you like her it could be a bit of a shock. If you think that's the case try and stick it out over holidays but keep interest up by continuing chatting on FB/whatever of course. I would avoid saying "I like you" etc. anywhere but face to face, definitely not in text.
    I don't really know if we flirt, but I think we have some great conversations, always making each other laugh etc. She probably knows I like her, I've made typical gestures such as offering her my jacket, my seat, holding doors for her, complimenting her etc.

    I feel like these holidays will be rather painful if I have this weight bearing down on me. It is possible that I may be able to see her over them, but I have the feeling I still won't have the courage to tell her I like her.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Wouldn't you kind of feel weirded out if you got a text saying "meet me *insert place here*"? What else would I say in the text?
    Hmmm, just try text her saying can we meet for coffee at *blahblah* tommorow - I have something I want to tell you.

    ^^ very obvious, so if she says she's busy...well it's a good indication she's not interested anyway.

    Or rephrase it to, something I want to run by you, something I want your opinion on, something I need to say - take your pick . I think you're building it up too much in your head OP.
 
 
 
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