Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    I really fancy one of my teachers, and I don't like it at all.

    It's really confusing - I fancy him, but I wouldn't want to even kiss him, let alone have sex with him, which is different from people my own age. This is probably cos he's 30-40 so if it happened, that would make him a paedofile, which is incredibly offputting. And married, in case that wasn't a big enough reason \:

    But it's like I'm obsessed with seeing him out of school (not as in dates; as in literally seeing him, seeing him in shops randomly, that sort of thing) and finding stuff about him. And I want him to like me; not sexually, just think I'm a nice student or something (I don't know what teachers think of pupils they like, apart from clever if they're clever, or funny if they're funny, which I'm neither) I want him to remember him after I've left this school.

    I'm not asking for advice on how to get him to like me: I want advice on how to get over him. I swear I'm bright red every lesson and I don't want to be. In fact, I'm scared he'll work out I fancy him, cos then it'll be really awkward for him to teach, which I don't want. And I don't want to fancy him, it's really weird...I'm used to teachers being teachers and nothing else. This is really wrong and embarresing.
    Anyone been in this situation? Also, if you did, were you like me, in not wanting a intimate relationship or whatever, just wanting to be noticed.

    I'd like it if people didn't call me a stupid teenager
    Thankssssss
    • PS Reviewer
    Offline

    20
    ReputationRep:
    PS Reviewer
    I'm assuming you're female here: if you "fancy" him but don't seem to have any kinda sexual attraction to him, just wanting him to notice and like you... could it be more a father figure thing? :dontknow:
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    It could be because he presents a certain character that is impressive, much like how girl students like Gilderoy Lockhart :awesome:

    You need a boyfriend. Blunt, simple, but true! You will begin to see that your attraction is just infatuation.
    Offline

    19
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'd like it if people didn't call me a stupid teenager
    Thankssssss
    Damn it.

    Got nothing else to say then lol.
    Offline

    3
    ReputationRep:
    That's called involuntary limerence.

    It'll pass with time - or you'll have a psychotic episode and end up murdering everyone at your school.

    Oh well - at least it'll mix things up a bit.
    Offline

    10
    ReputationRep:
    It's quite common for pupils to fancy their teachers, yet usually that desire is just sexual. You appear to be infatuated, which again can't be that uncommon.
    Has he ever done anything you disliked? Does he have any negative aspects to his personality? Think about these and remember them. You may have something of an idealised image of him in your mind, so in doing this you should at least be able to dissolve that a little.
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    1.walk in after class with a retro sexy schoolgirl outfit
    2.sit on his lap
    3.say something sexy
    4.i may or may not watch too much porn,but thats irrelevant
    5??????????
    6.profit!


    but seriously!(i'll try) dont worry about this,time is the greatest kille-.err healer,it will pass with time.
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    [QUOTE=Roo Bix;28945673]You need a boyfriend. Blunt, simple, but true![QUOTE]

    If only it was that easy hahaha
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Roo Bix)
    You need a boyfriend. Blunt, simple, but true! You will begin to see that your attraction is just infatuation.
    If only it was that easy haha
    Offline

    10
    ReputationRep:
    I have the same thing with a lot of people, it's definitely a father figure thing for me, but sometimes I really do just genuinely fancy them lol x
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Dinodance)
    If only it was that easy haha
    Congrats on the quote! :giggle:

    What's difficult? (For you, anyway)
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    Hahahahaa
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    wow
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Roo Bix)
    Congrats on the quote! :giggle:

    What's difficult? (For you, anyway)
    I am not the type of person people fancy, putting it in the nicest way possible
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I really fancy one of my teachers, and I don't like it at all.

    It's really confusing - I fancy him, but I wouldn't want to even kiss him, let alone have sex with him, which is different from people my own age. This is probably cos he's 30-40 so if it happened, that would make him a paedofile, which is incredibly offputting. And married, in case that wasn't a big enough reason \:

    But it's like I'm obsessed with seeing him out of school (not as in dates; as in literally seeing him, seeing him in shops randomly, that sort of thing) and finding stuff about him. And I want him to like me; not sexually, just think I'm a nice student or something (I don't know what teachers think of pupils they like, apart from clever if they're clever, or funny if they're funny, which I'm neither) I want him to remember him after I've left this school.

    I'm not asking for advice on how to get him to like me: I want advice on how to get over him. I swear I'm bright red every lesson and I don't want to be. In fact, I'm scared he'll work out I fancy him, cos then it'll be really awkward for him to teach, which I don't want. And I don't want to fancy him, it's really weird...I'm used to teachers being teachers and nothing else. This is really wrong and embarresing.
    Anyone been in this situation? Also, if you did, were you like me, in not wanting a intimate relationship or whatever, just wanting to be noticed.

    I'd like it if people didn't call me a stupid teenager
    Thankssssss
    your not the same as that other girl who was on here. there are a lot of threads like this one. do you want him to lose his job?
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    wow I fail at annoynomous posts
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    I fancy one of my lecturers, she's a right ****.........keeps me awake at night.
    Offline

    13
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I really fancy one of my teachers, and I don't like it at all.

    It's really confusing - I fancy him, but I wouldn't want to even kiss him, let alone have sex with him, which is different from people my own age. This is probably cos he's 30-40 so if it happened, that would make him a paedofile, which is incredibly offputting. And married, in case that wasn't a big enough reason \:

    But it's like I'm obsessed with seeing him out of school (not as in dates; as in literally seeing him, seeing him in shops randomly, that sort of thing) and finding stuff about him. And I want him to like me; not sexually, just think I'm a nice student or something (I don't know what teachers think of pupils they like, apart from clever if they're clever, or funny if they're funny, which I'm neither) I want him to remember him after I've left this school.

    I'm not asking for advice on how to get him to like me: I want advice on how to get over him. I swear I'm bright red every lesson and I don't want to be. In fact, I'm scared he'll work out I fancy him, cos then it'll be really awkward for him to teach, which I don't want. And I don't want to fancy him, it's really weird...I'm used to teachers being teachers and nothing else. This is really wrong and embarresing.
    Anyone been in this situation? Also, if you did, were you like me, in not wanting a intimate relationship or whatever, just wanting to be noticed.

    I'd like it if people didn't call me a stupid teenager
    Thankssssss
    I know people who've been what you are going through. :unsure:

    PM me for more information, if you get what I mean...
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by kohler)
    your not the same as that other girl who was on here. there are a lot of threads like this one. do you want him to lose his job?
    I don't want him to lose his job - I don't want an illegal relationship with him, I'd thought I'd made that clear.
    I'm not the other girl btw, I made this thread cos I couldn't see any other one which helped me with my case.
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    Just wait it out until the end of school. :moon:
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: December 17, 2010
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • Poll
    Would you rather give up salt or pepper?
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

    Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

    Write a reply...
    Reply
    Hide
    Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.