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    Ok, so, I'm 17, I messed up my A Levels due to depression caused by family problems. (bcdd = AS Grades, A*-C GCSE, 10). I've applied to universities with low requirements, and I'm resitting some units (as many as I can), but due to the family problems being present, I can't get amazing grades.

    So, if I don't get the grades I need to get into my 'best' course (CCC), then, I don't want to do a course I won't get a job (e.g. Nutrition).

    I have some savings, but not much, I've saved up the majority of my EMA (I'm struggling now).

    If I move out of my parents house, and move to another country (I'm from England), like Ireland, (NI), redo my A Levels, and live in a small flat (I don't mind sharing with other people), how much would it cost? (monthly or yearly?). I don't smoke or drink or buy any fancy things/eat out (well, 'cept for McDonalds every now and then).

    Will they charge me to do my A Levels at college if I'm 18?

    Is it possible to survive? (I have no back up, my family won't/can't support me, especially if I move out).

    Anyone moved out and lived alone?

    Any help appreciated.

    Thanks!
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    Why would you go to Ireland, of all places?
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    Ireland is the worst place to be right now for surviving prospects. Well, in the Republic anyway. Poor lad Not much I can say really! Perhaps stick it out at home? Or go to the house of a relation where you can study in peace perhaps?
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    (Original post by Ideot)
    Ireland is the worst place to be right now for surviving prospects. Well, in the Republic anyway. Poor lad Not much I can say really! Perhaps stick it out at home? Or go to the house of a relation where you can study in peace perhaps?
    I'm a girl and my relatives are all abroad and do not like me. I'm not a bad person, I just am more modern, for example, I believe that women and men are equal in the world...
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    (Original post by fran.ha)
    Why would you go to Ireland, of all places?
    It's cheaper than England for starters
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      (Original post by why_)
      It's cheaper than England for starters
      I wouldn't be so sure, if I were you.
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      (Original post by ch0llima)
      I wouldn't be so sure, if I were you.
      I'm not so sure
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      (Original post by why_)
      Ok, so, I'm 17, I messed up my A Levels due to depression caused by family problems. (bcdd = AS Grades, A*-C GCSE, 10). I've applied to universities with low requirements, and I'm resitting some units (as many as I can), but due to the family problems being present, I can't get amazing grades.

      So, if I don't get the grades I need to get into my 'best' course (CCC), then, I don't want to do a course I won't get a job (e.g. Nutrition).

      I have some savings, but not much, I've saved up the majority of my EMA (I'm struggling now).

      If I move out of my parents house, and move to another country (I'm from England), like Ireland, (NI), redo my A Levels, and live in a small flat (I don't mind sharing with other people), how much would it cost? (monthly or yearly?). I don't smoke or drink or buy any fancy things/eat out (well, 'cept for McDonalds every now and then).

      Will they charge me to do my A Levels at college if I'm 18?

      Is it possible to survive? (I have no back up, my family won't/can't support me, especially if I move out).

      Anyone moved out and lived alone?

      Any help appreciated.

      Thanks!
      you could start your own little freelance business, maybe find some people who are interested in helping out, leech off them til the business takes off, and see what happens from there

      everyone's a ladder, but don't forget some go higher than others
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      (Original post by why_)
      It's cheaper than England for starters
      I wouldn't say so. If you want somewhere cheaper what about Germany?
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      (Original post by fran.ha)
      I wouldn't say so. If you want somewhere cheaper what about Germany?
      I can't speak German, and I need A Levels
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      Its hard to say how much itll cost.

      Firstly. The south do not have A levels and its a very high cost of living. The north do A levels being part of the UK, so its the same A levels youd do in England. Its also cheaper than almost all parts of England to live in and imo Belfast is a better city than most English cities. Its about the size of Cardiff.

      I only know about Belfast, I live here and grew up here, I've not lived anywhere else in Ireland.

      You're looking at the initial cost of getting your stuff here, then finding somewhere to live. I'd suggest to go onto gumtree and look at places in south belfast and the holylands, £150-£200 a month, not including bills or shopping. Visit the place for a few days first and go look at houses. You could move over within the month if you really wanted to, work full time and save yourself some money and get settled in time for September.

      You can do A levels here: http://www.belfastmet.ac.uk/ its in the city centre. Thats where I did mine.

      They'll cost less if you're working part time and not living with parents.

      You'll definitely need to work. There arent many jobs going, most of them are call centres that are always recruiting. I worked in one for 4-5 months, earned a few grand then ****ed off to a better job, it was cold calling but the bonus was good at the craic with the people you work with is always good. Easy job, but repetitive and frustrating. I know a place you could get part time hours working 5-9 monday to thursday, and saturday 10-4 (easiest shift in the world).

      Yes, its more than possible to survive. We do it when we go to England for university.
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      (Original post by Jim-ie)
      Its hard to say how much itll cost.

      Firstly. The south do not have A levels and its a very high cost of living. The north do A levels being part of the UK, so its the same A levels youd do in England. Its also cheaper than almost all parts of England to live in and imo Belfast is a better city than most English cities. Its about the size of Cardiff.

      I only know about Belfast, I live here and grew up here, I've not lived anywhere else in Ireland.

      You're looking at the initial cost of getting your stuff here, then finding somewhere to live. I'd suggest to go onto gumtree and look at places in south belfast and the holylands, £150-£200 a month, not including bills or shopping. Visit the place for a few days first and go look at houses. You could move over within the month if you really wanted to, work full time and save yourself some money and get settled in time for September.

      You can do A levels here: http://www.belfastmet.ac.uk/ its in the city centre. Thats where I did mine.

      They'll cost less if you're working part time and not living with parents.

      You'll definitely need to work. There arent many jobs going, most of them are call centres that are always recruiting. I worked in one for 4-5 months, earned a few grand then ****ed off to a better job, it was cold calling but the bonus was good at the craic with the people you work with is always good. Easy job, but repetitive and frustrating. I know a place you could get part time hours working 5-9 monday to thursday, and saturday 10-4 (easiest shift in the world).

      Yes, its more than possible to survive. We do it when we go to England for university.

      thanks so much! you make it sound so real! thanks!!!
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      (Original post by why_)
      thanks so much! you make it sound so real! thanks!!!
      no bother. if you've any questions about areas or nightlife or jobs or whatever let me know.
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      Have you spoken to your LEA about your situation? Explain that your family causes you distress/etc. that makes it hard to study. Explain that they won't help you at all, never mind just not making your life worse.

      There's a load of agencies you can try to contact, explain the sit. again and ask if they could not help you. If they say no, don't say "Bye" and hang up. Instead ask if they don't know any other agency/person/whatever you could contact. They may well not be able to help you directly but you can bootstrap your contacts this way.

      Contact a few places from here:
      http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Dl1/Dire...acts/index.htm

      Also have a look here:
      http://local.direct.gov.uk/LDGRedire...ocial+services

      Here too:
      http://www.google.co.uk/search?q=related:http://www.youthaccess.org.uk/&ie=UTF-8
      http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Disabled...are/DG_4000436
      http://www.dcsf.gov.uk/everychildmat.../childpoverty/
      http://www.dcsf.gov.uk/everychildmat...overtylocally/
      http://www.education.gov.uk/help/contactus
      http://www.supportline.org.uk/
      http://www.ncvys.org.uk/
      http://www.google.co.uk/search?q=related:http://www.youthaccess.org.uk/&ie=UTF-8

      I know this sounds really arduous, but I think that especially due to zero or negative effect of your family, you do stand a serious chance of getting help. But the first thing to do is getting your situation know more widely. If people who can help don't know about you, they can't help for sure.

      But whatever you do, please don't give up.
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      (Original post by jk451)
      Have you spoken to your LEA about your situation? Explain that your family causes you distress/etc. that makes it hard to study. Explain that they won't help you at all, never mind just not making your life worse.

      There's a load of agencies you can try to contact, explain the sit. again and ask if they could not help you. If they say no, don't say "Bye" and hang up. Instead ask if they don't know any other agency/person/whatever you could contact. They may well not be able to help you directly but you can bootstrap your contacts this way.

      Contact a few places from here:
      http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Dl1/Dire...acts/index.htm

      Also have a look here:
      http://local.direct.gov.uk/LDGRedire...ocial+services

      Here too:
      http://www.google.co.uk/search?q=related:http://www.youthaccess.org.uk/&ie=UTF-8
      http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Disabled...are/DG_4000436
      http://www.dcsf.gov.uk/everychildmat.../childpoverty/
      http://www.dcsf.gov.uk/everychildmat...overtylocally/
      http://www.education.gov.uk/help/contactus
      http://www.supportline.org.uk/
      http://www.ncvys.org.uk/
      http://www.google.co.uk/search?q=related:http://www.youthaccess.org.uk/&ie=UTF-8

      I know this sounds really arduous, but I think that especially due to zero or negative effect of your family, you do stand a serious chance of getting help. But the first thing to do is getting your situation know more widely. If people who can help don't know about you, they can't help for sure.

      But whatever you do, please don't give up.

      Wow, thank you!

      I can't explain, I'm too embarrassed about it
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      (Original post by why_)
      Wow, thank you!

      I can't explain, I'm too embarrassed about it
      No problem, but do do the work.

      I agree that it's not the easiest thing in the world to pick your phone up and tell such stuff to a stranger. However, keep in mind that being in such conditions is not something for you to be embarrassed about, but rather for your family and relatives to be embarrassed about. Any reasonable person will immediately understand this, and even in the HIGHLY unlikely scenario they don't, you don't lose anything -- they may well help you even then.

      The absolutely key thing to remember: you have nothing to lose by trying. By not trying, though, you can't win. So please, do fetch your phone as soon as business days return and dive into it head-front.
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      You are moving to Northern Ireland not Ireland get it right, Enj0y ( SARCASM)
     
     
     
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