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    im attractive girl so i get attention from guys, though i always still feel inferior because im shy and have little experience with guys, especially for my age, 21. its not just that, ive had sex. once. and thought it was ****. i dont really know if im in to sex. i dont even know if im into guys......ive felt more emotionally attracted to women because they are sensitive, pretty looking, and funny, personality wise i feel more attracted to women. though i dont reallly think i want to sleep with a woman much, and i have no desire to dress in a baggy jeans or like a boy ( thts not to say i like to dress rly feminime however).
    i really feel this is holding back my confidence, i feel like i should be sure of my sexualityand im too embarrassed to express my doubts. therefore i make few friends and appear innocent, anti social and quiet. alot of peopel like to talk about sex and relationship, i suppose my fear that questions will be directed at me, put me of socialising properly.
    this knocks my confidence even worse so when guys like me for my looks, i am put off cuz i think thy wouldnt liek me if thy knew i was so anti social but also because i myself im not sure if i like guyys.

    how do i get over this predicament? especially when i have little friends.
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    You need to let go of this generalization on sex. And you need a hug.

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    You sound like you're asexual. However, that doesn't mean to say you'll always feel like this. Enjoy being with friends, enjoy life, not everything revolves around sex. As for not being sure whether you're more attracted to guys or girls, both is allowed!
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    (Original post by m90)
    You sound like you're asexual. However, that doesn't mean to say you'll always feel like this. Enjoy being with friends, enjoy life, not everything revolves around sex. As for not being sure whether you're more attracted to guys or girls, both is allowed!
    but making friends usually involves an element of sex. making friends with girls, they talk alot about relationships, making friends with guys - they might fancy you.
    i know both is allowed but i often feel like i have no grounds to say i am any orientation. for some reason i think id enjoy pulling girls more, being chatted up buy girls, but at the same time i think im indifferent to sleeping with them.
    i fantasize sexually about being dominated by a strong male, yet i generally dont feel that attracted to men or drawn to men
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    but making friends usually involves an element of sex. making friends with girls, they talk alot about relationships, making friends with guys - they might fancy you.
    i know both is allowed but i often feel like i have no grounds to say i am any orientation. for some reason i think id enjoy pulling girls more, being chatted up buy girls, but at the same time i think im indifferent to sleeping with them.
    i fantasize sexually about being dominated by a strong male, yet i generally dont feel that attracted to men or drawn to men
    Making friends does not always involve even an element of sex. I'm friends with guys who I have never and will never find sexually attractive, doesn't mean to say I don't think they're great people or physically good looking - I just don't feel in any way sexually towards them.

    Not all girls gossip about sex, and even if they do, it's only usually occasionally! You can't let that stop you from making friends with people! Who cares if you don't join in with talking about it?! People understand that some people like to keep things private - it's thought of as a good quality by a lot of people anyway, not telling the world about your sexual activity!

    You say you fantasize about being dominated by men, well chances are, you are attracted to the idea, but the man to fulfil this fantasy hasn't come along yet - no need to panic! He will!
 
 
 
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