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    I started a new job a fewmonths ago, and I get on with people there well. I feel comfortable talking to everone one on one, or in groups of 3 or 4, but if everyone's talking in a group of around 6 or more, I feel really shy for some reason and don't know how to join in. And if I do say something, I feel like I sound unconfident, and I feel like I'm slightly ignored by the others in the converstaion. Does anyone else have this problem? With most people it's the other way round - they feel comfortable in big groups but not one on one.
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    Yeah exactly the same here. Really good 1 on 1, pretty alright in groups of 3 maybe 4, but then complete crap in larger groups.
    Probably because I feel I won't be heard/will be ignored in these bigger groups. And everyone's all just talking at once.
    Guess the only thing to do is just be more assertive, and don't give a crap what people think, and just talk.
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    In large groups where I know the people well then I'm okay...but if I only know a few of them I feel more uncomfortable as it always feels like I'm butting into the conversation...
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    its not that bad, just try to comment on other peoples coments x
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    I'm fine in any situation where I know the person, and am comfortable with them, and their opinion of me.
    If I don't know/ like the person, I'll be just as scared whether there's one of them or 100 lol.
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    Yeah, I've always felt uncomfortable in big groups and I can never follow the conversation. I'm much better when there's only a few people.
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    I find it far worse in small groups, the moment there's a silence it's really awkward for everyone. At least in a large group there's always conversation, even if you have nothing to say you can still smile and agree. I'm quite an extroverted person so I don't have a problem talking in large groups, but I can see why shyer people perhaps don't like it.
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    Yeah, I get this all the time.
    The only way I'm confident in a group is if I'm friends with all of them....
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    I'm glad other people understand what I mean. If we go to the pub after work, I feel comfortable if lots of people go, because then everyone usually talks in small groups because there are too many people to have one big conversation. But if only about 8 of us go, then we usually talk in a big group and I feel really awkward.
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    Me too. I always prefer it with less people.
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    To those of you who have the same problem as me, why do you think you have this problem? Do you feel that you will be ignored in large groups? I often worry about being ignored, but try to join in anyway, and then end up getting ignored! But these people ignoring me are the same people I have good conversation with one on one.
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    I don't like talking to people I don't know in a bigger group then 3.

    I'm fine talking to large groups if I know them well enough.
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    yes, extremely! I'm exactly the same x
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    (Original post by IndigoRockGirl)
    yes, extremely! I'm exactly the same x
    Why do you think you are like this?
 
 
 
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