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Won't go into details but basically I'm heart broken at loosing my girlfriend of 2.5 years. My fault, which makes it worse.
Anyway, i've had my uni exams so not really been in a position to start thinking about how to get over it, but now that they're done I'd like to try.
For those that have been in my situation, how did you cope? I personally have little motivation to do anything at all.
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- Thread Starter
- 18-12-2010 18:20
- 18-12-2010 18:24
enjoy the beauty of sadness, but know that time will heal. keep your wounds private and not on display. this will make it more sincere and not showy and hollow.
take your time and absorb things. don't rush on and leave yourself hollow and empty, but equally do not dwell excessively.
- 18-12-2010 18:25
What exactly did you do to lose (I hate to be pedantic but it has one o) her? Did she dump you? If it's not that bad, she might take you back. Have you spoken to her at all since you broke up? Then again, if you know you have no chance, it probably won't help. In that case, you'll just have to move on.
- 18-12-2010 18:27
Eat, Drink and create Art.
- 18-12-2010 18:28
The sad truth is, the only way to combat heart-brokenness is to give it time to heal. Even the biggest, boldest and most independant personalities wither to ugliness and sadness when heartbroken. Try:
(1) Dating other people.
(2) Socialising more.
(3) Focussing harder on your work.
Ultimately, nothing will seem to work. But acceptance and time are key.
P.s. if you were able to ignore the entire ordeal for the purpose of completing your exams, you cannot be half as upset as you seem. When I first broke up with someone, it affected my exam performance.
Anyway, try your best to move on. **** happens.
EDIT: Which ever ****head negrepped this is an arse.
EDIT 2: The posreppers: you are beautiful.Last edited by Scientific Calculator; 19-12-2010 at 20:09.
- 18-12-2010 18:34
I know this might sound quite silly but when I was heart broken I found that exercise/gym did wonders for me. If you are angry, upset or got too much whirring around in your head... just go to gym and work out until you are exhausted. Might feel like a lot of effort initially because of your lack of motivation at the moment, but it's really important to break through that otherwise you can find yourself stuck in a rut.
I used to find I felt a lot calmer and rational after going to the gym. Exercise also releases endorphines which can lift your mood a bit.
Also try to fill your time with productive things rather than wasting time feeling down in the dumps. Spending time with good friends can also help.
- Thread Starter
- 18-12-2010 18:37
@Philbert - Yeah, absolutely no chance of getting back
Calculator, what I meant was, during study time I wasn't gonna try and get over it, by the likes of what you said, socialising etc, as I had to study. Studying was almost impossible, and without doubt exam performance dipped, I know this and I don't even have my results back!
- 18-12-2010 18:40
keep busy, try not to think about what ifs
don't give in to nostalgia when it hurts to think
surround yourself with your friends & life
one day you'll wake up and realise you can manage without her.
good luck x
- PS Reviewer
- 18-12-2010 18:40
Whatever you do, PLEASE don't listen to depressing music on repeat. Especially if it's Barry Manilow. It's OK for a little while but don't spend a whole afternoon doing it. Especially if it's Barry Manilow
That said, I found listening to music really helped. Also writing poetry
- 18-12-2010 19:48
Friends, friends and more friends.
My ex recently broke up with me and when it first happened, I literally thought I would die. 3 months later and I'm getting there. It gets easier every day. Everyone says time is a healer, and as much as it sucks, it's true.
- 18-12-2010 21:00
I just had to accept that time was the only thing that could get me over it. I often turned my thoughts and feelings into poetry/lyrics or even diary accounts as writing down your feelings gets it off your mind
Nowadays when I undergo any kind of heartbreak I remind myself I've been through worse than this so I can get through this too
Hope you feel better soon anyways ^_^
- 19-12-2010 02:40
only time heals unfortunately. dont try and date, its too soon and you'll just compare them to your ex and make you miss her more.