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    Over the course of my gap year i lost 3 stone and a half stone, and then another stone in my first semester of uni. I weighed a whopping 20 and a half stone (!!!!) and now i am 16. I fit into size 16/18 clothes (compared to the 22 that i was!) And i mean this when i say i am big boned--i laughed when the doctor told me that!
    I know i still look like a blimp.
    A lot of people say that i am beautiful (...) which i can't accept, no matter who from.

    The current problem: i really like this guy. He is my good friend (also skinny) and i can't help what i feel. i don't want to feel like this. I don't want to like anybody until i have lost the weight, as i know how painful it is.
    He usually walks from class with me, will knock on my door if we go out, talk about work and other things. Talk over facebook and text.
    He even sent me an email saying that he knocked on my door to say goodbye for the christmas holidays, but i had already gone.
    I know that all he will ever be is my friend. That is what he feels, it's impossible to think he cares that way. I want to be like that.
    i am losing weight. That is hard enough. How can i just stop feeling this?
    (sorry for the essay!)
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    Wow, well done for losing so much weight! That's a real achievement, I hope you're proud of yourself.

    Obviously it would be nice for such things to wait until you're happy with your weight, but sadly we can never plan these things. It sounds like you get along well, he sounds like he's interested to me.

    Why do you think he'll never be anything other than a friend? Is it perhaps a self-confidence issue?
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    I'm with Vohamanah, congratulations on getting so far with your weight!

    I'm sure he's fond of you, why don't you talk your feelings through with him?
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    Congrats on losing so much weight You deserve to feel good about yourself!

    Why don't you take a risk and ask him out?
    Why do you feel that he will only ever like you as a friend?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Over the course of my gap year i lost 3 stone and a half stone, and then another stone in my first semester of uni. I weighed a whopping 20 and a half stone (!!!!) and now i am 16. I fit into size 16/18 clothes (compared to the 22 that i was!) And i mean this when i say i am big boned--i laughed when the doctor told me that!
    I know i still look like a blimp.
    A lot of people say that i am beautiful (...) which i can't accept, no matter who from.

    The current problem: i really like this guy. He is my good friend (also skinny) and i can't help what i feel. i don't want to feel like this. I don't want to like anybody until i have lost the weight, as i know how painful it is.
    He usually walks from class with me, will knock on my door if we go out, talk about work and other things. Talk over facebook and text.
    He even sent me an email saying that he knocked on my door to say goodbye for the christmas holidays, but i had already gone.
    I know that all he will ever be is my friend. That is what he feels, it's impossible to think he cares that way. I want to be like that.
    i am losing weight. That is hard enough. How can i just stop feeling this?
    (sorry for the essay!)
    Congratulations on losing so much weight. I have to point out, however, that your thread "name", i.e. "I will never be good enough" is extremely pessimistic. I've chosen to interpret this as "I've given up" - and I genuinely hope that isn't the case. If you've already lost four stone, you are half way there. Lose another four. A size 12 is normal and sexy. My word of warning: do not stop, and do not give up.

    Another word of warning: be careful not to misinterpret your friend's feelings. If he is that nice, he isn't going anywhere. Use the time to lose weight and get confident. I'm sure you could have a relationship in the near future if you are willing to plough on with the dieting and exercise first. Everything comes in due time.
 
 
 
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