Have you ever felt inadequate? If so, explain how and why.
Do you perhaps feel your appearance is 'inadequate', or do you have insecurities regarding your intelligence/personality etc?
I find that, even if I have achieved something good, I will feel inexplicably upset if I was not the best/no.1. An example - albeit a stupid one - is the game Checkers. Even if I beat most of the high ranked people, I will feel demoralised as soon as I lose to one guy, even if it's because he/she is the no.1 player.
I realise that's a poor example, but I think you get the picture. For me, despite my grades/university/any achievements I make etc, I always feel as if I am, in more than one way, inferior to others.
Perhaps you feel socially inadequate; inadequate in the sense that you feel almost guilty/unworthy of being around other people.
Whatever it may be, I'd like to hear how you feel, even if you're just brimming with confidence and have no latent insecurities.
- Thread Starter
- 19-12-2010 00:27
- PS Reviewer
- 19-12-2010 00:33
I think lots of people get these feelings from time to time. That's the trouble with being a perfectionist: you always have to be the best!
I felt pretty inadequate at uni and often feel like I'm a bad daughter/sibling/friend/insert relationship here. I feel inadequate as a musician and get annoyed when I can't do things, coz I can't accept that being ill and able to do less things than I used to
- 19-12-2010 00:34
sorry my mind turned itself off when i got to the part where it goes 'the game Checkers.'
- 19-12-2010 00:37
Yes. In pretty much every aspect! It's not something i like about myself at all.
In particular when it comes to grades, i'll want to do the best of the best, and anything below the "best" is not good enough and dissapointing. Verrry stupid.
Appearance wise, well, pretty sure i'm always going to stay inadequate when it comes to that =|Last edited by RoshniDiya; 19-12-2010 at 00:39.
- Thread Starter
- 19-12-2010 03:05
- 19-12-2010 03:11
I feel inadequate about things that really shouldn't matter... especially now. But I'm usually rather self-confident. It really comes down to outside influence... people aren't always very tactful, and deconstructive criticism is especially true concerning this.
- 19-12-2010 03:13
perfectionism reeks my friend, it reeks. have you ever tried telling yourself that sometimes good enough is good enough? or that maybe it's good to lose every now and then - it humbles you
i feel inadequate socially sometimes, when i'm around the big characters. and with appearance if i like someone and know that there are better looking girls out there that he could have
but i can't say i've ever felt inadequate enough to go home and think about it, i think that's what years of your mum telling you you're the most beautiful person ever does to you, even though you know deep down she's saying it because you're her daughter