I moved into a house this year from halls. I live with 2 girls now, neither of whom I lived with in halls ...
I really like them as friends, but one of them is really hard to live with ...
She is a super neat freak!! Everything has to be soo tidy ... and HER way. My room also doubles up as a living room when we need it (most of the time we can use the kitchen as a communal space but its nice if we're having a sit down dinner or friends over), but if she thinks its too messy, she'll tidy/ clean it! For example, I was ill this week, and the first day I was well enough to drag myself to my waitressing job, she took the oppotunity to clean my room!
I can't stand it, and I have told her this, and she refuses (to my face) to stop! I really don't know what to do, I feel like I have no personal space - this is my only home, my parents don't live in England.
Any advice welcome!
Also, if you're wondering - it's not massively untidy or dirty usually either, just maybe a pile of washing in the corner and a couple of mugs and some lecture notes. I feel like I can't do stuff in my own room because I'll have to tidy it up for her.
Housemate trouble Watch
- Thread Starter
- 19-12-2010 04:21
- 19-12-2010 11:54
Tell her, and if you can, lock your room. Tell him if she doesn't go into your room, she won't see the mess.
- 19-12-2010 12:00
- 19-12-2010 12:01
fair enough if she wants to keep the kitchen clean but she has no right to dictate to you how your own bedroom should be... you're paying your bit of the rent so it belongs to you. have you tried telling her how bad her cleaning is affecting you? she probably doesn't realise it's actually upsetting.
- 19-12-2010 12:05
Piss over everything to mark your territory
- Thread Starter
- 19-12-2010 14:50
I have no lock on my door ....
I have told her!! And I was obviously upset by it when I did, so I think she must know, but I think she expects me to be GRATEFUL for her doing it!
When I asked her to stop, she said, "If you don't want me to tidy it, don't leave it in a mess." !!!
I don't want to have a massive row, but I'm getting to the stage where I don't like living here. I actually spend more time at my friends houses than at home. =(