A pair of my housemates bought a tree the other week, without me saying I wanted one or I'd contribute to one. The rest of my housemates then had a mulled wine & decorate tree sesh which I completely missed because I was an hour later than I thought I would be out of a meeting, and no one said that they were doing this at 5pm sharp, just 'this evening'. I got a text asking for a fifth of the money towards the tree later, which I ignored as I hadn't wanted it, bought it, or decorated it. To top this off, the one who paid for it on her card took it to her boyfriends the other day to stay over xmas as he hasn't got a tree! I got two texts off her today though asking for the money towards it, throwing in a guilt trip about needing the money to be able to buy her mum's xmas present. it's not a large amount of money, but I'm struggling too this time of year and don't feel I should just be assumed to be paying for things that other people want!
Thoughts? Bear in mind this is my favourite of all my housemates... :/
Potential row over xmas tree... Watch
- Thread Starter
- 19-12-2010 08:04
- 19-12-2010 09:53
How much is your share? If it's less than, say, £50, it really isn't worth the hassle. People have long memories and a small thing like not chipping in (even though you're fully right to not want to have to pay it) is something that can make things awkward. I'd just pay it and say something like 'next time, could you please ask me beforehand because money's a bit tight etc.' Really sucky of them to do that to you though.
- 19-12-2010 11:21
Tell her to sod off, just say what you said in this post.
- 19-12-2010 11:29
Just tell her what you put here, perfectly reasonable. If that doesnt work then show her she's in the wrong by emphasising how she went and bought it without checking that you actually wanted it. And maybe throw in some indignation about it being taken for xmas, I mean thats when it should be around for!