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    I'm often described as being 'quiet' which I don't think is meant to be an insult (hopefully). However, I do think being 'shy' or 'unconfident' is a negative thing. Do you think they are the same thing? Can someone be quiet and confident at the same time? What are the main differences do you think?
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    Quietly confident is the way to be.
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    No they are not the same thing. I'm quiet, mainly because I don't want to talk to people half the time because right now I'm going through a stage where everyone is fake and over the top and fighting for attention. Someone shy might not stand up for themselves whereas if you're quiet you can keep to yourself but stand up for yourself.
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    They aren't the same thing. I would say that to be shy you have to be quiet, since if you're a boistrous loudmouth the 'shy' label doesn't really apply but you can be quiet and confident at the same time. If you just choose your words carefully and speak when you feel you have to rather than just blabbering for the sake of it that doesn't mean that you're socially inept.
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    No, quiet is dead, shy is emotive.
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    Loads of very famous mime artists singers are quiet, but are not shy. So my answer is no, they are not the same.

    I would say that posting this thread anonymously was rather shy though
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    Shy people are often quiet, but quiet people aren't always shy.
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    I don't think they are the same. I am quiet, as in I don't talk much, but that doesn't mean that I can't go up to strangers and ask for directions, or even speak in front of an assembly.
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    obviously they are not, use your brain.
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    I know many people who socialise lots but are reserved and quiet - I think of them as someone of few choice words, and there's nothing wrong with that.

    Shy people would avoid talking to people.
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    (Original post by Sapientia)
    obviously they are not, use your brain.
    In that case, why are quiet people quiet? Is it because they can't be bothered to talk all the time?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    In that case, why are quiet people quiet? Is it because they can't be bothered to talk all the time?
    maybe? who knows/cares
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    I'm quiet but I'm not shy. I do assembly and team activity's but I prefer to speak less when I've got nothing to say.
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    They're definitely not the same thing. I'm usually quiet at schools in lessons. In every parents evening from about year 1 - 11, some teachers said I was too shy or not confident enough. It annoyed me slightly because it's not like I'm scared of answering questions or too shy to communicate with other people. I would describe myself as quite confident. I just don't feel the need to voice my opinion all the time.

    My Biol. teacher said I was "unconfident" last year at GCSE, so at the start of this year I made a special effort to be the annoying obnoxious person that tries to answer every question in her lessons. lol.
    I don't think she thinks I'm lacking confidence any more. :L
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    I suppose that they'd overlap on a Venn diagram. :idea:
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    I have quiet days where I just can't be bothered to be the centre of things, usually because I'm tired or lacking energy.

    Some people are quiet around people they don't know - not because they're shy but because they don't really have much to say to them.

    Each to their own. I don't think being quiet is a bad thing
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    they're both traits of an introverted person.. i'd say if we were gonna get pedantic about it, they are two different things (but still related) but i think in everyday usage, people often use the two terms interchangeably tbh
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    I'm quiet or shy with different people. I think being shy means you are nervous around certain people and don't want to speak to them whereas being quiet means you may not be nervous around these people, you just don't have much in common/much to say to them. Because quiet people don't speak a lot to some people, they are confused with shy people. However like I've stated above, the quiet ones don't speak for different reasons to the shy ones so they are different.
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    (Original post by jismith1989)
    I suppose that they'd overlap on a Venn diagram. :idea:
    yeah exactly what i was thinking; you can be quiet and quietly confident with yourself but then shyness indicates you're uncomfortable in social situations/human contact, so you could be both quiet AND shy

    but yeah, getting a bit pedantic
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    No.

    Being quiet is when you do not want to say something, or feel as though there is no need to speak.

    Being shy is when you want to say something, but you can't bring yourself to say it.

    You can be a confident quiet person, but you cannot be a confident shy person.

    I hope that helped.
 
 
 
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