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Get past lack of physical attraction? Watch

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    Right so there is this guy who I've been kindof seeing/ on off with for quite a while, and he is a reallyyy great guy and I've never got along with someone so well.

    But, now this sounds ridiculously shallow but I'm not attracted to him atall. Its not that he's terrible looking, its just the attraction isn't there, and when we're kissing and stuff I just feel, i duno, not really into it.

    The reason its been on/off for so long is because I decide: theres no attraction its not going to work. But then a little later i'll look back and kick myself - why did i let such a nice guy go who i had such a good time with? and on goes the cycle.

    My indecisiveness must be killing him, and i feel terrible and know i need to decide once and for all and not keep stringing him along. So is there any hope of a relationship working when every single element is there except you don't physically fancy them?????

    Hmm sounds like a shame he sucks at flirting. Other than that seems like he has a slim chance
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    I'm in a similar situation myself, although nothing physical has happened between us.

    He's a close friend, is so lovely, we have lots in common, and is such a genuinely nice person- someone who would make a good boyfriend, and he I know he likes me as more than a friend. BUT, I'm just not sure whether I feel enough physical attraction to become more than friends, and because of that I'm hesitant to risk our friendship.

    Don't lead him on though because that just isn't fair; make up your mind either way, but he needs to know where he stands or you could ruin your friendship.

    Double bagger.
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