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    Basically my ex dumped me in May so it's been a good seven months now. I am completely over her(that's what I keep telling myself). The breakup affected me pretty badly, I must admit, ESPECIALLY SINCE SHE HAD SAID SHE WANTED TO MARRY ME A MONTH EARLIER(we're both 22). We had a very bitter post-breakup and lots of fights and disappointment from my side and we ultimately cut off all contact with each other.
    I moved on, tried to get with this new girl who said she didn't want to get into a relationship. Almost got with this other girl, but she was moving away and said she didn't want an LDR. It had got to a stage where I was trying to get with every new girl I met(I know, terrible, I should have just waited it out). Anyway, since June, I had tried to add my ex on facebook and call her atleast 15 times but she rejected. A couple of weeks ago, I was thinking to myself that she's a really nice girl and we shouldn't be enemies for life; even if we weren't meant to be together, we can atleast be on talking terms and friends. So I rang her out of the blue. She answered, we had a talk for around half an hour. I add her today on facebook, she just accepted and I'm over the ****ing moon. Why? Why does she still affect me so much? I am over her!
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    (Original post by beatlesnut)
    Basically my ex dumped me in May so it's been a good seven months now. I am completely over her(that's what I keep telling myself). The breakup affected me pretty badly, I must admit, ESPECIALLY SINCE SHE HAD SAID SHE WANTED TO MARRY ME A MONTH EARLIER(we're both 22). We had a very bitter post-breakup and lots of fights and disappointment from my side and we ultimately cut off all contact with each other.
    I moved on, tried to get with this new girl who said she didn't want to get into a relationship. Almost got with this other girl, but she was moving away and said she didn't want an LDR. It had got to a stage where I was trying to get with every new girl I met(I know, terrible, I should have just waited it out). Anyway, since June, I had tried to add my ex on facebook and call her atleast 15 times but she rejected. A couple of weeks ago, I was thinking to myself that she's a really nice girl and we shouldn't be enemies for life; even if we weren't meant to be together, we can atleast be on talking terms and friends. So I rang her out of the blue. She answered, we had a talk for around half an hour. I add her today on facebook, she just accepted and I'm over the ****ing moon. Why? Why does she still affect me so much? I am over her!

    because your obviously not over her
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    The Beatles suck!
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    (Original post by Hooj)
    The Beatles suck!
    irrelevance personified
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    (Original post by sam8472)
    because your obviously not over her
    I am mate. Trust me. I would never want to get back with her. The things she did to me ..annoy me so much.
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    (Original post by beatlesnut)
    I am mate. Trust me. I would never want to get back with her. The things she did to me ..annoy me so much.
    I hate to say it man but if you were over her you wouldn't give a **** about her or what she did. you may not want her back but there is a whole difference between that and being over her.
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    You got your attention, now go away and let us talk about university fees and amazing grades.
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    (Original post by sam8472)
    I hate to say it man but if you were over her you wouldn't give a **** about her or what she did. you may not want her back but there is a whole difference between that and being over her.
    Let's say I am not over her. Maybe. However, there is zero chance of her getting back with me ever(she has told me that to my face). And it's in my best interests if I move on. It's ****ing with my head. It's been seven months. I can't think about anything else.
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    (Original post by sam8472)
    I hate to say it man but if you were over her you wouldn't give a **** about her or what she did. you may not want her back but there is a whole difference between that and being over her.
    this
    you still care about what she does, even if it's got a negative slant now
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    (Original post by beatlesnut)
    Let's say I am not over her. Maybe. However, there is zero chance of her getting back with me ever(she has told me that to my face). And it's in my best interests if I move on. It's ****ing with my head. It's been seven months. I can't think about anything else.
    so go find someone better the only true way to get over the ex
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    This song is perfect for you tbh.

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    (Original post by sango)
    This song is perfect for you tbh.

    Oh cmon man
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    (Original post by Hooj)
    The Beatles suck!
    What!

    Oh I get it.
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    You should not have bothered getting in contact as this will just make it harder/longer to get over her.

    Feeling anger or annoyance toward her for what she has done is not getting over her, feeling indifferent about what she does is.
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    Maybe this one then?

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SR6iYWJxHqs

    LOL, on a serious note, You're not over her. You can't blame yourself or beat yourself up about it, but seems like that's the case.

    I'm in the same siituation at the moment.

    Just try and talk to her as LESS as possible, and don't stalk her facebook page.
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    I broke up with her 2 years ago, same situation, but I know I'm not over her. Wouldn't get back with her because I wouldn't trust her, I know sleeping with her wuold be a terrible mistake but I might still do it, you just get this way with particular girls, can't help it.
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    sorry to say it but you clearly still love her mate... id really suggest staying away for now until this doesnt bother you so much!
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    (Original post by Jellybean91)
    sorry to say it but you clearly still love her mate... id really suggest staying away for now until this doesnt bother you so much!
    I don't love her..i guess i just haven't found anyone else as good as she WAS.
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    You're not over her yet.
    Your mind is over her, but you're heart isnt over her.
    It takes time. It takes months or even years to get over someone.
    You just need to be patient or if itll help, you should try and go out with someone you fancy and see what happens there.
 
 
 
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