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    If you have to choose between buying something or spending the money on a memorable experience, go with the experience. According to a study conducted at San Francisco State University, the things you own can't make you as happy as the things you do. One reason is adaptation: we adapt to all things material in our lives in a matter of weeks, no matter how infatuated we were with the coveted possession the day we got it. Another reason is that experience, unlike possession, generally involves other people, and fosters or strengthens relationships that are more edifying over time than owning something.

    Take the advice, yo.
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    Totally agree. I actually believe that all of life is memories. As you get older, all you have is memories, and they are either good or bad ones. So choose the life experiences that will give you the best memories.
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    (Original post by Neil_K)
    Totally agree. I actually believe that all of life is memories. As you get older, all you have is memories, and they are either good or bad ones. So choose the life experiences that will give you the best memories.
    Tbf, it is so easy to fake memories really. They are called "dreams". (Not talking about dreams in the sense of one's aspirations, but dreams as in your thoughts).

    Essentially, there will be a time in society where we cannot differentiate between a "dream", a "thought" and a "memory". One day we will acknowledge that they are in fact the very same thing.
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    (Original post by Neil_K)
    Totally agree. I actually believe that all of life is memories. As you get older, all you have is memories, and they are either good or bad ones. So choose the life experiences that will give you the best memories.
    In all fairness, as you get older all you have is memories and everything you've bought. Your argument means nothing in favour of posessions or of experiences.
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    (Original post by Bobifier)
    In all fairness, as you get older all you have is memories and everything you've bought. Your argument means nothing in favour of posessions or of experiences.
    It does to me....possessions don't mean anything to me, I'm a very minimal possessions sort of guy. I collect experiences and memories over possessions. But other people can do what they want.
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    I prefer possessions from experiences. A broken drum stick may mean nothing to one person, but to another, it can bring back memories of their favourite gig.
    The possessions that are priceless are far better than mere memories.
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    (Original post by Neil_K)
    It does to me....possessions don't mean anything to me, I'm a very minimal possessions sort of guy. I collect experiences and memories over possessions. But other people can do what they want.
    But you still have them. Your argument was that as you grow old all you have is your memories. This is clearly not true, so your argument has no meaning.
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    (Original post by Bobifier)
    But you still have them. Your argument was that as you grow old all you have is your memories. This is clearly not true, so your argument has no meaning.
    No, I stand by what I said. You can lose/get rid of your possessions, but your memories will always be with you, and those memories will make you happy (or sad) when you look back on them.
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    (Original post by MissFanatical)
    has your mum not brought your hot milk up yet?
    hahahahahah.
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    (Original post by Neil_K)
    Totally agree. I actually believe that all of life is memories. As you get older, all you have is memories, and they are either good or bad ones. So choose the life experiences that will give you the best memories.
    As you get older alzheimer's and various other diseases of age rob you of your memories and everything that ever was. At least alzheimer's can't take your possessions away :holmes:
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    Tbf, it is so easy to fake memories really. They are called "dreams". (Not talking about dreams in the sense of one's aspirations, but dreams as in your thoughts).

    Essentially, there will be a time in society where we cannot differentiate between a "dream", a "thought" and a "memory". One day we will acknowledge that they are in fact the very same thing.
    Well reading your comment and currently watching Inception...you have either seen it and believed it or have no Idea what you're talking about.

    OP, I was going to make a sarcastic comment but what you say is true. People may think its obvious but its easy to get lost in all the luxuries and the "happiness" they bring. From personal experience, when I get something new..yes im excited but that eventually dies down. Till today however, I have lots of past memories and remember them thinking good times!
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    I was materialistic once... It can be an obsession. Vanity... it's pathetic. Fast car, Iphone, PS3, blah blah blah... give me experiences over possesion any day.

    Anyone seen the episode of Fresh Prince.. Will's uncle talking about his upbringing? Made me think. When I have kids... its not the material things that matter... What your child needs to learn from the parent is knowledge, respect, courage, bravery, confidence... these are the things that are difficult to obtain when you are a young adult... and need to be taught at a young age... Just a thought..
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    I see arguments both ways, I come from a poor family so am a mini hoarder as such.

    Up till 4 years ago, my possessions were like a PS2, Xbox and gamecube and a 20" CRT tv and a pc, I was happy with them, and enjoyed going for a drink.

    However even then I thought to myself, why go out and spend money on a night out, perhaps more than once a week then next morning feel ill and have nothing to show for it when that same cash could of bought me some video games, or a take away and luxuries for a few days and/or things like pay a entire months electricity bill etc.

    The problem I have now is I am at a situation where I am stuck in the middle, havent been on a night out since New Years Eve last year, had about 4 drinks in a bar all year, wheras 2 years ago I went out about 2 or 3 times a month, would go to a bar for a hour or two if bored, buy a takeaway if hungry(as a replacement for the days food) or bought a few cans of beer and drank those instead of going out.

    I stil have some large WKDs I bought around Feburary this year unopened in fridge still!

    Point is dont go too far in one way or other i.e all work and no play is similar idea, go for a drink and have a good time if you want, just dont do it so much that it loses its meaning, and dont buy every new gadget you can at the expense of not socialising.
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    I disagree...
    For example, I'm going to be spending my money soon on a Trek Session 88.
    It will be far more useful then an experience as I can actually use this at any time in the future... What will I use an experience for apart from a direct situation which may require me to remember it...? The Trek I can use at any point in the future, it will benefit me far more, and it will have a direct use in my life from now on...
    Surely that's a situation when spending money on something materialistic is better... No?
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    (Original post by EarlHickey)
    I see arguments both ways, I come from a poor family so am a mini hoarder as such.

    Up till 4 years ago, my possessions were like a PS2, Xbox and gamecube and a 20" CRT tv and a pc, I was happy with them, and enjoyed going for a drink.

    However even then I thought to myself, why go out and spend money on a night out, perhaps more than once a week then next morning feel ill and have nothing to show for it when that same cash could of bought me some video games, or a take away and luxuries for a few days and/or things like pay a entire months electricity bill etc.

    The problem I have now is I am at a situation where I am stuck in the middle, havent been on a night out since New Years Eve last year, had about 4 drinks in a bar all year, wheras 2 years ago I went out about 2 or 3 times a month, would go to a bar for a hour or two if bored, buy a takeaway if hungry(as a replacement for the days food) or bought a few cans of beer and drank those instead of going out.

    I stil have some large WKDs I bought around Feburary this year unopened in fridge still!

    Point is dont go too far in one way or other i.e all work and no play is similar idea, go for a drink and have a good time if you want, just dont do it so much that it loses its meaning, and dont buy every new gadget you can at the expense of not socialising.
    It's not always about the night out drinking with your friends... I'm going travelling around europe in May... Thats an experience, not a night in the pub.
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    (Original post by DH-Biker)
    I disagree...
    For example, I'm going to be spending my money soon on a Trek Session 88.
    It will be far more useful then an experience as I can actually use this at any time in the future... What will I use an experience for apart from a direct situation which may require me to remember it...? The Trek I can use at any point in the future, it will benefit me far more, and it will have a direct use in my life from now on...
    Surely that's a situation when spending money on something materialistic is better... No?
    And mate, thats some nice bike right there... in this case, material possesion is going to lead to some good experiences. Think about it... Playing COD constantly is materail possesion, not an ecperience.
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    What about possessions that prove useful? A car for example would make my life a lot easier for many years to come. Going travelling would be a wonderful experience for a few weeks/months.
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    (Original post by Danamaganza)
    It's not always about the night out drinking with your friends... I'm going travelling around europe in May... Thats an experience, not a night in the pub.
    I wasnt saying that was the only experience, just listed one that I have experience with and one thats common with students who generally like to go out quite often expecially the younger ones then say they are skint, and when they see me with expensive posessions like a plasma tv they are like "wow how can you afford that" when I could easily afford it because I used the money I would have spent on a night out for a month or two combined.

    I have hitchiked through parts of Europe, I mean REAL hitchhiking where I may be awake for 2 days at a time and sleep in bushes with no sleeping bag as cant afford backpacking place, I lost 2 stone in about 10 days doing that as I was walking as much as 50 miles a time and starving for days and just drinking water.

    These days "experiences" are quite cliche in themselves with people thinking as they are students they could or should do things like volunteering, going to festivals etc which I can understand in some ways but they pay hundreds of pounds for a single festival just to do what thousands of others are doing and act as if they are unique
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    (Original post by EarlHickey)
    I wasnt saying that was the only experience, just listed one that I have experience with and one thats common with students who generally like to go out quite often expecially the younger ones then say they are skint, and when they see me with expensive posessions like a plasma tv they are like "wow how can you afford that" when I could easily afford it because I used the money I would have spent on a night out for a month or two combined.

    I have hitchiked through parts of Europe, I mean REAL hitchhiking where I may be awake for 2 days at a time and sleep in bushes with no sleeping bag as cant afford backpacking place, I lost 2 stone in about 10 days doing that as I was walking as much as 50 miles a time and starving for days and just drinking water.

    These days "experiences" are quite cliche in themselves with people thinking as they are students they could or should do things like volunteering, going to festivals etc which I can understand in some ways but they pay hundreds of pounds for a single festival just to do what thousands of others are doing and act as if they are unique
    Each to their own! I dont watch TV much, but like to socialise down the pub...

    That sounds like an aweful experience... experience nontheless! Something to tell the grandkids.

    A cliche is what's popular and fun in this sense. Both things can be an experience. I went to Glastonbury this year and it was one of the most amazing 'experiences' of my life. Feeling unique is a false sense... everything has been done before! Obviously most things cost money... but an experience bought with that money will last a life time. Possesion of an item might be enjoyed in real time, but looking back it could be a waste of time.

    (I'm talking from personal experience)
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    Possessions can remind you of experiences.
 
 
 
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