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    Just curious if you're the one always escorting them around is it reasonable to ask for payment considering they would have to pay on public transport or is it not acceptable within a relationship?

    Does it make a difference how long the relationship has been?

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    I used to offer my boyfriend petrol money if he drove me into uni for exams - it's a 70 mile round trip and he always used to hang round to take me home so i didn't have to get the train. Would have cost me £15 on the train so that's what i gave him.

    now I can drive as well we just sort of call everything evens
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    Well since you're kinda deriving pleasure from them being there I'd say no. If you were doing a large trip out of your way which holds absolutely no interest to you then I would maybe expect a small donation but otherwise nope.
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    Lord, no. If your partner does something nice for you, maybe get them a gift or something. You don't try to hand him cash.

    Jeez. Etiquette.
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    My girlfriend drives and I don't, so I'm the one being escorted around. If it's around our town, or just nipping to the shop etc. I don't expect to pay anything, but I may buy her something like a chocolate bar etc. in return. However, if it's a journey out of her way, like taking me to uni, I would definitely offer petrol money.
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    I wouldn't, because the fact that i would give her oral sex negates me having to stump up any sort of cash.
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    No, in the early stages you're trying to be chivalrous and appear generous, and then later on in the relationship its very much the old "my money is our money" kinda thing.

    In general, I would say that its up to whoever earns the more money to make sure that he/she pays for a little bit more than their partner. For example, I earn twice as much as my gf, so when we go out I make sure to pay for 50% more stuff (at least).
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    I dont like to take it off her, but shes 40 miles away, we drive everywhere, We did a 1,000 mile trip in September and a 600 Mile one in July so she helped me out then
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    (Original post by Pawsies)
    Just curious if you're the one always escorting them around is it reasonable to ask for payment considering they would have to pay on public transport or is it not acceptable within a relationship?

    Does it make a difference how long the relationship has been?

    We used to go out in her car the 1st month in our relationship, but it was a relatively rare thing that we would use the car, usually it would be to get groceries or a quick ride into town for some errands.. If I asked her to bring me somewhere then I will give her a fiver regardless of the distance and tell her to use it next time she topped the car.

    But after that my new car arrived.. we went out a lot in it as I didn't like sitting in her car. I never took her money for petrol mostly because I could afford more than her and it wasn't fair as I loved driving the car at 4500rpm or above and usually had a hammering at the pump.... now she drives that car, she sends and gets me from work almost everyday which is on the way to her work and uni. I pay for all the petrol.
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    No, I've never paid for a boyfriends petrol. Mostly because I've always been earning significantly less than any of my partners, and lived fairly close to them all.

    Current boyfriend's been moaning about picking me up from Sheffield a lot recently. He forgets that I used to live in York (an hour away) and have moved to Sheffield to be closer to him. I think paying rent to live nearer him negates any sort of payment needed for petrol.
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    Never. Although tbh, I hate driving so he ends up driving everywhere.
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    yes, it isn't up to you to pay for him, he should contribute and pay his fair share!
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    I do if he's going out of his way to take me somewhere, or if he's short of money anyway, but not if we're going to do the food shopping or anything :p:

    I don't give him petrol money when he takes me to his house to stay, but then I let him stay over at mine a hell of a lot without having to contribute
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      No, I am not a cheapskate.
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      No. I enjoy driving so it's not a problem for me and I've never made an issue about it. Although I do feel like I live in the petrol station sometimes!
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        I've heard it's actually illegal, unless you're insured to drive the vehicle you're buying the fuel for. If it really is illegal (I'm really not sure) then I doubt it rates highly on the police priorities list.
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        I only offer if it's a long journey, but I wouldn't for short ones. That's just the kind of thing you do when you're in a relationship - sometimes I buy him a cookie, sometimes he takes me to the shops etc.
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        I choose to drive a gas guzzler, I know our 1,000 mile journey cost me over £200 in fuel
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        (Original post by Pawsies)
        Just curious if you're the one always escorting them around is it reasonable to ask for payment considering they would have to pay on public transport or is it not acceptable within a relationship?

        Does it make a difference how long the relationship has been?

        Are you dumb? If she was my wife, maybe, but if not, then not, because she could leave me and rather go to someone who wouldn't ask for it. It's a tight competition!!! No chance to risk something like that.
       
       
       
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