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    I am originally from London and studying at a London university. When I was at school there was a funny, clever, shy, awkward and average looking guy (give him a 6/10) who really fancied me. At the time I was madly obsessed with another guy (he was a 9/10 and I was shallow and felt that as I would give myself an 9/10, I should have been with someone better looking - terrible, I know!).

    I recently started to really regret not getting together with the funny guy and now realise that he is perfect for me. I found him on Facebook and asked him to be my friend. He accepted immediately (I presume he wanted to stalk my profile) but when I tried to chat to him, comment on his status etc, I've had no response from him. I know he is studying in London too and was hoping that he might ask me out on a date. I sent him a Facebook message as a last straw to ask him generally how he was etc but I got no response. I know for a fact that he is single and he is still straight (!). We have no mutual friends.

    Have I really blown it? What can I do to get him back? I know what I did was shallow and wrong but I have grown as a person and recognise the error of my ways. Is it too late?
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    No. He did not add you to stalk your profile. He added you because when people get a facebook request they accept if they know the person, even if they have no relevance in their life anymore.

    But yes. It sounds like you might have blown it.
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    Nice guys strike back 2.0 :pierre:

    It's the way the world works son, take it as a valuable lesson.
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    You presume he wanted to stalk your profile?
    Get a life
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    He may well be playing a very clever mind game. As a clever guy, he's realised that you kind of like him, and to increase your desire, he's playing hard to get. It's a bloody risky route to take, but it looks like it's paid off. All you need to do is completely ignore him for a while, therefore turning the tables.
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    Who's to say he was ever interested in you in the first place?
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    Maybe he doesn't really use his facebook much. :dontknow:

    And wouldn't that be a bit weird - you expecting him to ask you on a date just because he accepted your friend request? :curious:
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      I give you 1 out of 10.
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      I know he liked me because his best friend told me so (years ago). I was hoping that he would get chatting on FB which would eventually result in a date (I was happy to do the asking if he replied to my message!).
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      Cant wait till your 35 and single, crying everynight cos each day is a day closer to menopause
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      You thought you were too good for him. That says a lot about your personality to be honest. Not too sure he'd be happy being called a 6 out of 10 or any number for that matter. Stop ranking people and judge the whole package which can't be quantified.
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      (Original post by greeneyedgirl)
      He added you because when people get a facebook request they accept if they know the person, even if they have no relevance in their life anymore.
      I never understand why people do that.
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      you're approaching him years later...i presume after not getting anywhere near mr. 9/10...
      blown it.
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      (Original post by Overmars)
      I never understand why people do that.
      Because you feel mean rejecting them.
      A friend from primary school who I haven't spoken to since then added me a few days ago. I added them because they were important at one point in my life and wouldn't want to reject them!
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      (Original post by greeneyedgirl)
      Because you feel mean rejecting them.
      A friend from primary school who I haven't spoken to since then added me a few days ago. I added them because they were important at one point in my life and wouldn't want to reject them!
      Well, ok, I guess I'm more annoyed at the people that friend you when you're not friends. But still...I couldn't care less if I hurt the feelings of some kid that happened to sit in the same class as me 5 years ago. If you're not going to say 2 words to them, who gives a ****? If their feelings are hurt, consider it an emotional tax on stupidity.
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      (Original post by Ericaca)
      I am originally from London and studying at a London university. When I was at school there was a funny, clever, shy, awkward and average looking guy (give him a 6/10) who really fancied me. At the time I was madly obsessed with another guy (he was a 9/10 and I was shallow and felt that as I would give myself an 9/10, I should have been with someone better looking - terrible, I know!).

      I recently started to really regret not getting together with the funny guy and now realise that he is perfect for me. I found him on Facebook and asked him to be my friend. He accepted immediately (I presume he wanted to stalk my profile) but when I tried to chat to him, comment on his status etc, I've had no response from him. I know he is studying in London too and was hoping that he might ask me out on a date. I sent him a Facebook message as a last straw to ask him generally how he was etc but I got no response. I know for a fact that he is single and he is still straight (!). We have no mutual friends.

      Have I really blown it? What can I do to get him back? I know what I did was shallow and wrong but I have grown as a person and recognise the error of my ways. Is it too late?
      Ask him directly if he'd be interested in meeting for a drink. He probably doesn't have a clue how you feel about him. Take it from me, it's far better to be rejected than never to have asked.
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      he is mind****ing you
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      (Original post by Ericaca)
      I am originally from London and studying at a London university. When I was at school there was a funny, clever, shy, awkward and average looking guy (give him a 6/10) who really fancied me. At the time I was madly obsessed with another guy (he was a 9/10 and I was shallow and felt that as I would give myself an 9/10, I should have been with someone better looking - terrible, I know!).

      I recently started to really regret not getting together with the funny guy and now realise that he is perfect for me. I found him on Facebook and asked him to be my friend. He accepted immediately (I presume he wanted to stalk my profile) but when I tried to chat to him, comment on his status etc, I've had no response from him. I know he is studying in London too and was hoping that he might ask me out on a date. I sent him a Facebook message as a last straw to ask him generally how he was etc but I got no response. I know for a fact that he is single and he is still straight (!). We have no mutual friends.

      Have I really blown it? What can I do to get him back? I know what I did was shallow and wrong but I have grown as a person and recognise the error of my ways. Is it too late?

      He could just have not replied yet. I often get messages and don't reply for a few days mainly because I'm lazy. If he doesn't reply by Friday, shoot him a message saying that you're around and was wondering if he felt like going for a drink!
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      (Original post by Ericaca)
      I am originally from London and studying at a London university. When I was at school there was a funny, clever, shy, awkward and average looking guy (give him a 6/10) who really fancied me. At the time I was madly obsessed with another guy (he was a 9/10 and I was shallow and felt that as I would give myself an 9/10, I should have been with someone better looking - terrible, I know!).

      I recently started to really regret not getting together with the funny guy and now realise that he is perfect for me. I found him on Facebook and asked him to be my friend. He accepted immediately (I presume he wanted to stalk my profile) but when I tried to chat to him, comment on his status etc, I've had no response from him. I know he is studying in London too and was hoping that he might ask me out on a date. I sent him a Facebook message as a last straw to ask him generally how he was etc but I got no response. I know for a fact that he is single and he is still straight (!). We have no mutual friends.

      Have I really blown it? What can I do to get him back? I know what I did was shallow and wrong but I have grown as a person and recognise the error of my ways. Is it too late?
      Maybe he's not responding because he now considers himself a 9/10 and you a 6/10? Or maybe he just realised you were shallow.
     
     
     
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