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So im sure that most of you know I had a fight with my parents about 8 months ago, perhaps more. I havent spoken to my parents in that long and i only see my sister at school. It got so bad that immediately after, my parents refused to talk to anyone who helped me out - eg I moved to my grandads and for 3 months they never saw or spoke to her.
I have sent an apology and heard nothing back of it. Shes sent some spiteful messages to me and the like though. Also she mailed me my baby photos...
Moving on, Im at work tonight. I see my dad, whos walkign out the shop with a pharmacy bag - He walks right past me at me till. I nod at him and say Hello..nice and loud - even the person at the kiosk (further away than my father) heard it. He continues walking, without even so much as turning his head to say hello, or awknowledging me
Several oddities. There are plenty of other pharmacies around the area, and my dad never comes to safeways one. He knows i work there and the days i work...odd, no? What makes it worse is that the main fued is between me and my mother. she is the dominant one and He is on the leash - her pet, almost. shes spiteful and petty, and hes weak minded. Hes never bothered to contact me even though i had no actal fued with him at all...
Its just **** and I dont know what to do. Is there any hope for a relationship again with my parents..at all? What can I do? I cant keep this up. Im pretending that everythings fine and dandy. Ive only ever said this here..now to a bunch of peopel ill never know. My school work isnt done at all im falling so far behind that its become v difficult to catch abck up. I darnt go out because my self esteems been knocked to pieces. I cant keep a girlfriend because i fear that they are all like *her*, and I dont want to be hurt the way they are hurting me... I hav no relationships at all... Im pretty distant from my friends.. im not usually invited out with them or anything so perhaps i should use friends in qupte marks
Help me...
I have sent an apology and heard nothing back of it. Shes sent some spiteful messages to me and the like though. Also she mailed me my baby photos...
Moving on, Im at work tonight. I see my dad, whos walkign out the shop with a pharmacy bag - He walks right past me at me till. I nod at him and say Hello..nice and loud - even the person at the kiosk (further away than my father) heard it. He continues walking, without even so much as turning his head to say hello, or awknowledging me
Several oddities. There are plenty of other pharmacies around the area, and my dad never comes to safeways one. He knows i work there and the days i work...odd, no? What makes it worse is that the main fued is between me and my mother. she is the dominant one and He is on the leash - her pet, almost. shes spiteful and petty, and hes weak minded. Hes never bothered to contact me even though i had no actal fued with him at all...
Its just **** and I dont know what to do. Is there any hope for a relationship again with my parents..at all? What can I do? I cant keep this up. Im pretending that everythings fine and dandy. Ive only ever said this here..now to a bunch of peopel ill never know. My school work isnt done at all im falling so far behind that its become v difficult to catch abck up. I darnt go out because my self esteems been knocked to pieces. I cant keep a girlfriend because i fear that they are all like *her*, and I dont want to be hurt the way they are hurting me... I hav no relationships at all... Im pretty distant from my friends.. im not usually invited out with them or anything so perhaps i should use friends in qupte marks
Help me...
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Awww 
I had tears in my eyes reading that You sound like you really want to make a go of things, yet no matter what you do, you can't get through to them.
I guess, if I was in your situation, and I'm not so I can't say I completely understand how you feel hun, I'd try and make way through your sister. You say you see her at school, does she talk to you? Can't you ask her to maybe talk to them? Or even get your Dad to talk to you in Safeways? Maybe just go to your house and knock on the door, and if they slam it in your face, just sit on the step...so everyone can see how they're treating you. They might be so embaressed at their behaviour in front of the neighbours, that they invite you in, then at least you have a foot in the door (literally).
Also you say you're really behind with school work, could you talk to a teacher that you trust and explain things? Maybe they could ring your parents and have a word?
I wish I could help more, but I don't know what else to suggest. I'll have a think though, and see if I can come up with any better advice, but for now, please don't lose hope, maybe with Christmas coming up, and it being family time and all that, they might mellow? Big hugs
I had tears in my eyes reading that You sound like you really want to make a go of things, yet no matter what you do, you can't get through to them. I guess, if I was in your situation, and I'm not so I can't say I completely understand how you feel hun, I'd try and make way through your sister. You say you see her at school, does she talk to you? Can't you ask her to maybe talk to them? Or even get your Dad to talk to you in Safeways? Maybe just go to your house and knock on the door, and if they slam it in your face, just sit on the step...so everyone can see how they're treating you. They might be so embaressed at their behaviour in front of the neighbours, that they invite you in, then at least you have a foot in the door (literally).
Also you say you're really behind with school work, could you talk to a teacher that you trust and explain things? Maybe they could ring your parents and have a word?
I wish I could help more, but I don't know what else to suggest. I'll have a think though, and see if I can come up with any better advice, but for now, please don't lose hope, maybe with Christmas coming up, and it being family time and all that, they might mellow? Big hugs
mynameis
i know it doesnt help, but your parents are just as shallow as you.
dont let this get out of hand.. take care of it quickly. if necessary, beg for forgiveness
dont let this get out of hand.. take care of it quickly. if necessary, beg for forgiveness
Mr_JR isn't shallow
Can't you see he's upset? Your comments really don't help, if you have nothing useful to say, then don't bother saying anything at all Note to Mr_JR: Ignore mynameis
mynameis
i know it doesnt help[1], but your parents are just as shallow as you[2].
dont let this get out of hand[3].. take care of it quickly[4]. if necessary, beg for forgiveness[5]
dont let this get out of hand[3].. take care of it quickly[4]. if necessary, beg for forgiveness[5]
Before I reply to you, I would like to remind you that I dont make emotional posts...normally.
[1] No, it doesnt
[2] Where do you get the impression I am shallow? Surely, taking this thread by itself, its pretty deeply emotional. I *am* confused and I *am* hurt. Im sure that in your perfect life you dont have the lttle inconveniences like being completely excommunicated from your cloe family. Or is that but a shallow, minor worry of mine?
[3] Surely, if youve read the post, it IS already out of hand
[4] 8 months have passed, as Ive already said... hardly a Quickly solved problem
[5] And no wrongs been done to me either. Of course, begging like the dog I no doubt percieved as would really be worth my while. If I cannot communicate on a basic human level then why commincate at all?
and i would like to add... this is an emotional release. I dont expect to have to defend myself to you, mynameis. If you want to have a dig at me, have some decency and go and have a jibe at any other post. For the best part of my posts, Who I am on TSR is different to who I am in real life...and, like george and martha, keeping it detatched is beneficial. I can deal with what you have to say but not when im open...
Before I reply to you, I would like to remind you that I dont make emotional posts...normally.
[1] No, it doesnt
agreed
[2] Where do you get the impression I am shallow? Surely, taking this thread by itself, its pretty deeply emotional. I *am* confused and I *am* hurt. Im sure that in your perfect life you dont have the lttle inconveniences like being completely excommunicated from your cloe family. Or is that but a shallow, minor worry of mine?
well.. moving out from your parents after a fight ? thats not shallow ? parents whom you owe so much to ?
[3] Surely, if youve read the post, it IS already out of hand
getting worse every minute
[4] 8 months have passed, as Ive already said... hardly a Quickly solved problem
again, getting worse every minute
[5] And no wrongs been done to me either. Of course, begging like the dog I no doubt percieved as would really be worth my while. If I cannot communicate on a basic human level then why commincate at all?
now, thats just an excuse.
im sure they regret what had happended and want to get back with you as soon as possible.
are you seriously saying you did your best ??
some suggestions - letter, friends, priest, teacher, social worker, even police ?
[1] No, it doesnt
agreed
[2] Where do you get the impression I am shallow? Surely, taking this thread by itself, its pretty deeply emotional. I *am* confused and I *am* hurt. Im sure that in your perfect life you dont have the lttle inconveniences like being completely excommunicated from your cloe family. Or is that but a shallow, minor worry of mine?
well.. moving out from your parents after a fight ? thats not shallow ? parents whom you owe so much to ?
[3] Surely, if youve read the post, it IS already out of hand
getting worse every minute
[4] 8 months have passed, as Ive already said... hardly a Quickly solved problem
again, getting worse every minute
[5] And no wrongs been done to me either. Of course, begging like the dog I no doubt percieved as would really be worth my while. If I cannot communicate on a basic human level then why commincate at all?
now, thats just an excuse.
im sure they regret what had happended and want to get back with you as soon as possible.
are you seriously saying you did your best ??
some suggestions - letter, friends, priest, teacher, social worker, even police ?
mynameis, you're not helping at all, it seems you're going out of your way to make things more difficult for Mr_JR so I would suggest you refrain from posting anymore, obviously its your choice, but I can't think of any person who would carry on, knowing they're clearly upsetting someone.
mynameis
Before I reply to you, I would like to remind you that I dont make emotional posts...normally.
[1] No, it doesnt
agreed
[2] Where do you get the impression I am shallow? Surely, taking this thread by itself, its pretty deeply emotional. I *am* confused and I *am* hurt. Im sure that in your perfect life you dont have the lttle inconveniences like being completely excommunicated from your cloe family. Or is that but a shallow, minor worry of mine?
well.. moving out from your parents after a fight ? thats not shallow ? parents whom you owe so much to ?
[3] Surely, if youve read the post, it IS already out of hand
getting worse every minute
[4] 8 months have passed, as Ive already said... hardly a Quickly solved problem
again, getting worse every minute
[5] And no wrongs been done to me either. Of course, begging like the dog I no doubt percieved as would really be worth my while. If I cannot communicate on a basic human level then why commincate at all?
now, thats just an excuse.
im sure they regret what had happended and want to get back with you as soon as possible.
are you seriously saying you did your best ??
some suggestions - letter, friends, priest, teacher, social worker, even police ?
[1] No, it doesnt
agreed
[2] Where do you get the impression I am shallow? Surely, taking this thread by itself, its pretty deeply emotional. I *am* confused and I *am* hurt. Im sure that in your perfect life you dont have the lttle inconveniences like being completely excommunicated from your cloe family. Or is that but a shallow, minor worry of mine?
well.. moving out from your parents after a fight ? thats not shallow ? parents whom you owe so much to ?
[3] Surely, if youve read the post, it IS already out of hand
getting worse every minute
[4] 8 months have passed, as Ive already said... hardly a Quickly solved problem
again, getting worse every minute
[5] And no wrongs been done to me either. Of course, begging like the dog I no doubt percieved as would really be worth my while. If I cannot communicate on a basic human level then why commincate at all?
now, thats just an excuse.
im sure they regret what had happended and want to get back with you as soon as possible.
are you seriously saying you did your best ??
some suggestions - letter, friends, priest, teacher, social worker, even police ?
Pardon me for not speaking so explicitely
OK. Harsh Truthes. I was kicked out. I was told in no uncertain terms I was never to retrn to see them.
Getting worse any minute - its already terrible enough. Its started terrible. Thank you for pointing out that im hopeless. Thanks a lot
yes its an excuse. And reasoning. And much more. Its my question that I am trying to answer. CAN I Communicate with them on a human level? Can I communicate at all?
Im sure they dont regret it. Well see on my birthday. A fiver sais they dont send a card
Yes ive done my best. Ive done EVERYTHING I could think of to try and get thoguh. Ive knocked on the door and shoted throught he letterbox. Ive Emailed. I EVEN sent an apology int he form of my mothers burthday card. What the hell else cna I do?!?
Gem
mynameis, you're not helping at all, it seems you're going out of your way to make things more difficult for Mr_JR so I would suggest you refrain from posting anymore, obviously its your choice, but I can't think of any person who would carry on, knowing they're clearly upsetting someone.
you are right you are right.
i obviously dont want ppl to get upset.
its just how i see it.
you can absolutely ignore me.
its just, solution seems so simple where the problem is potentially huge.
thats all
gem, further to MSN, please do call me Jamie...
MR_JR
Pardon me for not speaking so explicitely
OK. Harsh Truthes. I was kicked out. I was told in no uncertain terms I was never to retrn to see them.
Getting worse any minute - its already terrible enough. Its started terrible. Thank you for pointing out that im hopeless. Thanks a lot
yes its an excuse. And reasoning. And much more. Its my question that I am trying to answer. CAN I Communicate with them on a human level? Can I communicate at all?
Im sure they dont regret it. Well see on my birthday. A fiver sais they dont send a card
Yes ive done my best. Ive done EVERYTHING I could think of to try and get thoguh. Ive knocked on the door and shoted throught he letterbox. Ive Emailed. I EVEN sent an apology int he form of my mothers burthday card. What the hell else cna I do?!?
OK. Harsh Truthes. I was kicked out. I was told in no uncertain terms I was never to retrn to see them.
Getting worse any minute - its already terrible enough. Its started terrible. Thank you for pointing out that im hopeless. Thanks a lot
yes its an excuse. And reasoning. And much more. Its my question that I am trying to answer. CAN I Communicate with them on a human level? Can I communicate at all?
Im sure they dont regret it. Well see on my birthday. A fiver sais they dont send a card
Yes ive done my best. Ive done EVERYTHING I could think of to try and get thoguh. Ive knocked on the door and shoted throught he letterbox. Ive Emailed. I EVEN sent an apology int he form of my mothers burthday card. What the hell else cna I do?!?
you obviously have no intention of disclosing what you've done to deserve such punishment.
so.........i dont know what to say now.... (not that anyones gonna listen to me)
i guess only time will tell.
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