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    I have a girlfriend who's having depression and reoccurring nightmares from a sexual assault that happened to her around a year ago, we've been together 7 months, and she told me what happened properly around a month ago. At times she has been suicidal and I am very very worried.

    I want people who have been through anything remotely similar, who have been to counselling, to honestly post how counselling helped (or didn't) for them personally, and any ways they've found that helped them cope, and anything else that might be helpful/relevant.

    Thank you x

    Hi there, sorry to hear your girlfriends having a tough time. I was sexually assualted but have only just sought counselling and am waiting for my first appointment so cant really comment on whether its helped. If you are looking for a counsellor, I mentioned it to my GP who told me you can self refer to see a counsellor/psychotherapist so i filled in a form and sent it off. It might work differently depending on where you live and what NHS services there are.

    Most Cities will have a rape/sexual assault crisis centre which offer telephone counselling and in a lot of cases in person counselling.

    Good luck

    You can get help here, its normally quicker than going through your GP:


    Look up your local centre and give them a ring. Most centres can normally see people quite quickly but as it's around xmas time she may have to wait now, but they may be able to speak to her over the phone in the meantime if your girlfriend wants to - as a lot of them do telephone counselling.
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    Can I bump this?
    She point blank refuses to tell anyone else about what happened, I'm the only one she trusted to know.
    I know she NEEDS counselling, it's the only thing that could even come close to making her life more liveable, but it's going to take a lot of work to convince her it's good/safe/etc to go.

    What I'd like if, if anyone knows of any techniques or ways they've used to cope with memories of such things?
    She's has days where she has literally cried from waking up in the morning till going to sleep in the evening.

    I'm not a trained psychiatrist, and I feel so scared and out of my depth, she's been suicidal and I know she has pills in her room, .... until I can get her to counselling (months), I need to give the best substitute(s) I can...
    I started this thread hoping some people in similar situations might say the ways counselling had helped them, and so might help me convince her to try.

    I'm really scared, because I don't know what I need to do, and if I fail badly, I lose her forever
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