I know this doesn't seem like your every day health problem, but it's something that's gradually starting to get me down.
I'm a 20 year old student and I find myself increasingly making faults in what I say. For instance, I know what I want to say and what I mean, but it doesn't come out right and I end up getting corrected by whoever it is I'm talking to in a tone that makes me feel totally thick for not getting it right in the first place. It's usually little things that aren't quite right when I say them, it's really hard to explain.
Say, if I'm talking about something that happened, as I describe it I make up what happened. I'll use one that's just happened about 20 minutes ago; I was asked by my mum to ask my sister to do something. My sister and I got a little heated and I said to her "when I got you to come down to do ___". I didn't go and get her to do it at all, she was next to me when I passed the message on. I'm not sure why I said something that I know didn't happen. I got a really snotty "You didn't come and get me to do anything" reply.
I know it doesn't sound bad, but they KNOW what I meant, yet I get corrected every time it happens. It's making me feel really bad because I'm always muddling these things up and it's making me really self conscious when I do it. I'm not even sure why I do it, or if it's an actual "problem" or whether it's just me...
Any help or ideas would be appreciated...
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- Thread Starter
- 22-12-2010 17:55
- 22-12-2010 18:03
No real advice for this problem of yours, other than the fact that you need to understand that your human, and everyone makes mistakes, if you keep dwelling on the previous ones you've made then your going to make more mistakes in the future, don't you see its a vicious cycle? For now though, just dont let anyone correct you If you can try and correct them, let them know how it feels, they'll eventually give in. And lastly, believe in yourself , you have the confidence, just be natural and let it show
- 22-12-2010 18:37
I think your anxiety about the problem may be largely responsible for the problem itself.
Perhaps underlying social anxiety is making this happen...?
I don't really know what the treatments for that are, hopefully someone else will post who has had a similar problem.