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    So basically im in my first year of uni in halls, and me and my flatmate have kissed twice. I'd say ive gotten really close to him at uni, as we see each other everyday so hang out loads of the time. We talk all the time and being away from uni for Christmas has realised how much I miss him.

    I just dont know what to do, as were in the same friendship group in our halls (me, another girl, him and another guy) and were all thinking of living together in our second year. But if anything happened between us, it would be so awkward and it would mess everything up in the 2nd year.
    Also i'm worried that things will move too fast for me because we live together...I haven't had sex yet so I want it to be with someone special (sorry if that sounds really cheesy :p:) and I don't think i'm ready for it yet. Im pretty sure hes not using me just for sex, but I guess I can never be too sure

    So yeah im in such a dilemma, I really like him and I cant just turn off my feelings for him But then I dont want things to get really messed up and then my friendship with him ruined and nowhere to live in my second year!
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      So basically im in my first year of uni in halls, and me and my flatmate have kissed twice. I'd say ive gotten really close to him at uni, as we see each other everyday so hang out loads of the time. We talk all the time and being away from uni for Christmas has realised how much I miss him.

      I just dont know what to do, as were in the same friendship group in our halls (me, another girl, him and another guy) and were all thinking of living together in our second year. But if anything happened between us, it would be so awkward and it would mess everything up in the 2nd year.
      Also i'm worried that things will move too fast for me because we live together...I haven't had sex yet so I want it to be with someone special (sorry if that sounds really cheesy :p:) and I don't think i'm ready for it yet. Im pretty sure hes not using me just for sex, but I guess I can never be too sure

      So yeah im in such a dilemma, I really like him and I cant just turn off my feelings for him But then I dont want things to get really messed up and then my friendship with him ruined and nowhere to live in my second year!
      Right, what do you precisely want?

      Sex, friendship, relationship - what? :hmmm:
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      Right, what do you precisely want?

      Sex, friendship, relationship - what? :hmmm:
      I guess if we didn't live together and we happened to meet somewhere else, then a relationship. But as we live together, I think going into a relationship would be risky. I dont want to lose him as a friend and things to be awkward, but at the same time I really like him and cant stop my feelings for him :/
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      flatmate booty is bad booty come on everyone knows this.
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      I guess if we didn't live together and we happened to meet somewhere else, then a relationship. But as we live together, I think going into a relationship would be risky. I dont want to lose him as a friend and things to be awkward, but at the same time I really like him and cant stop my feelings for him :/
      You sort of answered your own questions, If you want to play it safe and keep him as a friend do so ( this could hurt you/him more if one of you enter a relationship with someone else as you are constantly around each other)

      On the other hand you could just try go out with him but if you do break up on bad terms this will wreck your future plans...

      In the end its for you to decide ..
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        I guess if we didn't live together and we happened to meet somewhere else, then a relationship. But as we live together, I think going into a relationship would be risky. I dont want to lose him as a friend and things to be awkward, but at the same time I really like him and cant stop my feelings for him :/
        Really like him you say?

        What if you never took the chance and the next day you see him on the arms of another woman knowing he could've been yours?

        Go for it, but explain your position. You know, I don't think he is going to lose you as a friend just because you fancy him. :lolwut:

        Depends if you want to take the risk or not - there's also the risk of not pursuing him.

        What if he secretly likes you and is worried about the same thing?

        Get in there girl!
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        If you really like him, find someone else to live with and then go for it. Simples.

        Although I'd probably try not to get to involved before the end of the year.
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        Get to know him a little better, if he seems to be the type to be quite sensitive about things, or dramatizes things, then you will know whether it will be a good idea to pursue something with him or not.
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        I can't always understand why people assume that a relationship will end on bad terms and you can't continue being friends. I'm sure living together would make things more difficult for a short time but you'd also get passed the awkward/difficult stage of the break up faster. I'm friends with, socialise and would happily live with the majority of my exs.

        What I'm trying to say is that you will not necessarily lose your friendship even if you had a relationship and it ended.
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        Dating my flatmate. A little risky, but we care about each other and its pretty serious so I don't really care anymore. However, we aren't living together next year - we need our own space.
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        Man being able to spend that much time with someone you care about is cool as ****, especially when you first start falling in love and you can't get enough of each other. If you're worried then find different arrangements for living next year but you should def. go for it
       
       
       
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