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    i started going out with my boyfriend dan in august, we had sex soon after (had known him for three years before and been close to him for a long time) here i am, 4 and a half months later, asking my parents if i can sleep at his house, he will be sleeping in his parents room floor and i will be in his room.... my parents still wont let me sleep round! they say they feel uncomfortable with it....... im 17.. and am on both the pill and the implant, however my parents dont know we've even had sex, never mind the pill and the implant stuff.......

    how can i convince my parents to let me?!

    also, he has already slept at my house once, and i slept on my parents floor and he was in my room....

    my parents are really old fashioned, and my older sister who is 22 is incredibly... perfect daughter ish.. never asked to do anything that may even cause my parents to think, and has never had a boyfriend. -.-
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    I am 18 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and still am not allowed to sleep over his...
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    Uh, if you're not even going to be sleeping in the same room, why do you care so much? I don't get what the appeal is for you. :confused:
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    Yeah the appeal kind of gets killed if you're not even in the same room :erm: although I used to do this at my ex's house and on occasion we would sneak into the same bed, at the very least we'd fall asleep together then one of us would move and come back in the morning.

    I sleep at my current boyfriend's place all the time now, I guess my parents just kind of accepted it and decided I was grown up enough or whatevs (17 now). But at the end of the day it's the parent's rules and you can't do much about it unless you intend to outright break them. The most you can do is just maturely persist with your side of the argument and hope that one day they see your viewpoint, but until then you may just have to be patient.
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    What sort of boyfriend do you have that lets you take the floor!?

    RIP chivalry.
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    they probably think that despite you saying you'll be in his parents' bed and he'll be in his that you won't, you'll be sleeping together, particularly given as you've definitely implied his parents won't be there by saying you'll be in their bed...if that's not true set that straight for starters, parents being there to 'enforce' what you've said might help...even if in reality they'd let you sleep together!

    also, why do you want to sleep at your boyfriend's house if you won't be sleeping in a bed with him? i.e. is it a convenience thing because he lives a long way away, or you'll be there both days so may as well stay over...or something else...giving a practical reason might help...

    (also i'm curious as to why you want to, are you planning on bunking in with him anyway? sleeping in another room when you know he's next door is so annoying! or is it just because you want to make your parents say yes to something they don't like...)

    it'll be hard to convince them to be honest if they really don't like it. but a practical reason why you should be allowed to plus giving them all the facts and acting responsibly will help your case...maybe don't drop the fact that you're having sex in!

    (on that note, is being on both the pill and the implant safe? very protected i grant you, but surely a major hormone overdose?!)

    hope you have a reasonable discussion about it.
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    I wasn't allowed by my parents until I reached 18, not that it stopped me :P

    I told my parents that I'm having a sleep over at a friend's house, when really was with my boyfriend! The secrecy and danger of getting caught made it exciting!
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    Just go over during the day and shag him then instead.
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    Well first off, you're pretty much talking crap saying that you're taking the pill and on the implant at the same time. Or if you are on both then you've not got both from the same GP as it's next to useless really. If you had said that you were on the pill and using condoms then the story would be more believable.
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    To sleep or...?
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    (Original post by Danielle89)
    Well first off, you're pretty much talking crap saying that you're taking the pill and on the implant at the same time. Or if you are on both then you've not got both from the same GP as it's next to useless really. If you had said that you were on the pill and using condoms then the story would be more believable.
    Well it is believeable if she isn't on the pill for contraception but for periods/acne/Pcos
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    I don't see the point in sleeping over if your not going to be sleeping in the same bed =/
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    (Original post by natashapt)
    Well it is believeable if she isn't on the pill for contraception but for periods/acne/Pcos
    Considering it is the same hormone used in the pill as the implant, it's unlikely she'd be given the implant if she was already taking the pill. The implant, presumably, would take care of the acne as well as the pill would.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am 18 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and still am not allowed to sleep over his...
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    (Original post by natashapt)
    Well it is believeable if she isn't on the pill for contraception but for periods/acne/Pcos
    Thank god someone said that! It was driving me nuts! I know quite a few people who went on the implant, but get constant periods so take the pill to control it (doctors are reluctant to take out the implant until its been in a year).

    Anyway OP, my parents don't like me and my boyfriend sharing a bed when we're at home, despite being together a year, he's not my first boyfriend, I live away from home, and stay at his almost all the time too. Oh, and I'm 21. Unfortunatly, its their house and its their rules. Oh wait... its not their house. You're just 17. Ermm... tell them that they can talk to your boyfriends parents if they'd like to check it out and make sure people are in their correct beds?
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    (Original post by Danielle89)
    Considering it is the same hormone used in the pill as the implant, it's unlikely she'd be given the implant if she was already taking the pill. The implant, presumably, would take care of the acne as well as the pill would.
    There are different hormones in each pill because they target different things. Yasmin and dianette have anti-androgens to fight against PCOS, etc.
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      (Original post by Danielle89)
      Well first off, you're pretty much talking crap saying that you're taking the pill and on the implant at the same time. Or if you are on both then you've not got both from the same GP as it's next to useless really. If you had said that you were on the pill and using condoms then the story would be more believable.
      Sometimes people end up taking the pill whilst having the implant to help sort out problems with irregular bleeding which can be really bad with the implant so it is possible.
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      (Original post by Danielle89)
      Well first off, you're pretty much talking crap saying that you're taking the pill and on the implant at the same time. Or if you are on both then you've not got both from the same GP as it's next to useless really. If you had said that you were on the pill and using condoms then the story would be more believable.
      You can be put on the pill and implant at the same time but you're right if you mean the GP would not give them to her to 'double up' on contraception. They can however give you the pill alongside the implant to help with periods
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      It's just a parent thing I'm afraid. It will probably still be the same when you're 30!
      I'm allowed to sleep in the same bed as my boyfriend tonight, purely because there's nowhere else for him to sleep as we have a lot of family over.
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      (Original post by Danielle89)
      Considering it is the same hormone used in the pill as the implant, it's unlikely she'd be given the implant if she was already taking the pill. The implant, presumably, would take care of the acne as well as the pill would.
      You've got everything mixed up. It's not the same hormone as ALL the pills, its progesterone only. You wouldn't go on the implant if you were still on the pill, but the implant could give you some side effects, such as near constant bleeding, which means that the doctors put you on the pill to control it. Also, when I had my implant put in, I was told to continue taking whatever pills I had left (3 months supply) so my body could adjust. Doctors don't like to remove the implant under a year of having it in.
     
     
     
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