Guy who's scared of commitment

Is there any way to convince a guy who's scared of relationships because he has a failed marriage and who also sleeps around to be in a relationship with you?

Bare in mind he does like me, we talk everyday, have had sex etc.

Thanks.

No

He'll get tired of being a slut eventually...... maybe.

Reply 3

Law123mus

11

Sounds like me. Apart from the marriage and the sleeping around, and all the other stuff. But yeah I can totally relate!

Reply 4

Yawn11

20

Sounds like you'rejust another name added to his list.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Yawn11

Sounds like you'rejust another name added to his list.

Not true. We have gotten pretty close. I just couldn't be bothered to give a summary or our relationship in my post, just want an answer to my question.

Reply 6

Fire_eyed_boy

1

It seems like the kind of thing you'll find out on your own with time, I know that doesn't help much. I don't think fears of commitment last forever so you may just have to wait it out a little while, and if he doesn't budge even a little then you probably want different things in life.

Reply 7

dalo

I dont know, show him your boobs maybe?

Reply 8

member520746

Weld your faces together.

Reply 9

8086

7

Oh just stop whining and find someone else. There's plenty of men out there without such problems.

Reply 10

jumpingjesusholycow

18

If he doesn't want to be in a relationship, then that's his call to make. Deal with it, rather than asking for advice on how to change his personal choices.

Reply 11

Angela_Beth

9

I'd say no. Generally you can't change people.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Well I just think this is something he's going to have to over come, cause his reasons aren't healthy.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

Bump

Reply 14

Coldplaydoh

16

If you were an outsider to the situation, then I think you could let him have a whack at it, but I don't think you have much moral high ground to get him to stop if you're already sleeping with him - I'm not judging you or him, but I think you have pretty much set out the tone for your relationship - sorry to be blunt, but he doesn't need a relationship cos it sounds to me like he's already getting what he wants anyway.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by isawsparks89

If you were an outsider to the situation, then I think you could let him have a whack at it, but I don't think you have much moral high ground to get him to stop if you're already sleeping with him - I'm not judging you or him, but I think you have pretty much set out the tone for your relationship - sorry to be blunt, but he doesn't need a relationship cos it sounds to me like he's already getting what he wants anyway.

I'm not actually 'sleeping' with him. I've slept with him once and that was 2 months ago. So that's not just what our relationship is about.

Reply 16

WhuTom

10

Lol, he's failed a marriage and now spends his love life sleeping around.

I'm sure you've realised this but those two things might be/are probably related. They aren't the type of blokes you want to be hanging around if you don't like being hurt.

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by WhuTom

Lol, he's failed a marriage and now spends his love life sleeping around.

I'm sure you've realised this but those two things might be/are probably related. They aren't the type of blokes you want to be hanging around if you don't like being hurt.

Well he's a nice guy and I like him, that's all I can say. I don't think he necessarily slept around when he was married. It may be his way of getting over it.