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    Ok, so last night was my school's prom, and I went. It wasn't that great and nobody danced with me when the ceilidh band came on (17 year old guy btw). This put me in a **** mood, and I'm not the type for dancing at a disco anyway, but when the ceilidh band went off and the disco started, I just wasn't up for dancing much. I did at the start, and it was fun, but I quickly grew tired of it and just ended up sort of half heartedly half dancing with some people I know. Ok, that's fine, the prom wasn't great and it put me in a bit of a bad mood.

    There was an after party at someone's house, as shown in this thread:
    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=1495025

    Before the prom and earlier that day, I'd decided I would go and see what it was like. I even took a change of clothes and things to the prom and take a taxi with my mate up to his house. But I didn't. I got the taxi, yes, but I just decided to get it to drop me off home because the prom had put me in a bit of a bad mood. I don't think that was the only reason, my dad said he'd be worried sick and wouldn't sleep when I was out, seeing as it would have been my first party. Maybe this came in to play, I didn't want him worrying about me and I love my dad very much. He's like my best mate and we do stuff at the weekend when other people seem to go out with mates from school.

    When I started telling people at the end of the prom that I wasn't going to the party, they tried to persuade me to come but I didn't listen. Apparently lots of people got drunk at the party, so I'd just like to add that I've never been drunk before. When I was gonna go, I thought I'd only have one or two drinks, and that would be it, but I just couldn't be bothered with everyone being pished and I was already in an irritated mood with no girls dancing with me (I've also never kissed a girl or held hands with a girl in any significant way).

    When I got home, my dad said he was glad I was back but kept on going on about how worried he was about me missing out on anything and he even offered to give me a lift up to the party. I thought this was an absurd idea because it was about half past midnight and he was in his pyjamas just got out of bed when I got in and I wouldn't want him missing any more sleep when he had work in the morning. Anyway, now I'm beginning to regret not going, maybe I should go out and have fun, most other people do but I've never done anything like that. It's a *****.

    So anyway, what do you guys think of this situation? I'm feeling a bit **** this morning about it so I just thought I'd put this on. Oh and also inb4 "cool story bro"...
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    (Original post by Bananas01)
    ......... He's like my best mate and we do stuff at the weekend when other people seem to go out with mates from school.

    When I started telling people at the end of the prom that I wasn't going to the party, they tried to persuade me to come but I didn't listen. ........ with no girls dancing with me (I've also never kissed a girl or held hands with a girl in any significant way).

    Do you ever see your friends from school or do you exclusively go out with your Dad on weekends? If the latter, this could be excluding you from socialising fully with your peers/classmates creating a bit of a social gap if that makes sense?

    People clearly wanted you to go to the party with them, yet you ignored them. That could come across as being a bit snooty/aloof which can be offputting for some people even if you didn't mean it like that.

    Did you ever think do dance with a girl? Generally (although there are a good few exceptions) girls will wait for a guy to approach them, by showing a little interest, you could well end up with a romantic situation going on .
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    (Original post by Ultimate_Geek)
    Do you ever see your friends from school or do you exclusively go out with your Dad on weekends? If the latter, this could be excluding you from socialising fully with your peers/classmates creating a bit of a social gap if that makes sense?

    People clearly wanted you to go to the party with them, yet you ignored them. That could come across as being a bit snooty/aloof which can be offputting for some people even if you didn't mean it like that.

    Did you ever think do dance with a girl? Generally (although there are a good few exceptions) girls will wait for a guy to approach them, by showing a little interest, you could well end up with a romantic situation going on .
    Well yes it's pretty much just my dad on weekends. I have two mates, and sometimes one of them will go to the football with us, or come round after but that's pretty much it.

    And there didn't seem to be much approaching - it just sort of seemed to be people grabbing each other to go and dance while I stood at the edge of the dancefloor like a spare wheel.

    I didn't really ignore them - I just made it clear I wasn't up for going. I don't see my self as above them in any way, it's just at that time I really wasn't in the mood for going.
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    (Original post by Bananas01)
    Well yes it's pretty much just my dad on weekends. I have two mates, and sometimes one of them will go to the football with us, or come round after but that's pretty much it.

    And there didn't seem to be much approaching - it just sort of seemed to be people grabbing each other to go and dance while I stood at the edge of the dancefloor like a spare wheel.

    I didn't really ignore them - I just made it clear I wasn't up for going. I don't see my self as above them in any way, it's just at that time I really wasn't in the mood for going.
    Maybe you could grab people too in future? (Just realised how creepy that sounds - but you know what I mean).
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    (Original post by Ultimate_Geek)
    Maybe you could grab people too in future? (Just realised how creepy that sounds - but you know what I mean).
    Where? There won't be a future :lol: It's not like there's another prom, and I'm unlikely to go to any parties so I'll just have to wait until university I guess.
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    I've been keeping track of this, you went against my advice. :P

    Fairplay though, it was your decision. But you should still have had the experience.

    In the past I have been apprehensive about situations such as this, but I just went ahead with them anyway and it resulted in having some of the best moments in my life so far.
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    (Original post by mathew551)
    I've been keeping track of this, you went against my advice. :P

    Fairplay though, it was your decision. But you should still have had the experience.

    In the past I have been apprehensive about situations such as this, but I just went ahead with them anyway and it resulted in having some of the best moments in my life so far.
    I know, next time I'm just gonna go for it. Although the party was supposed to be mental, there was people smoking cannabis and getting smashed :lol: Although the getting drunk was to be expected :p:
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    (Original post by Bananas01)
    I know, next time I'm just gonna go for it. Although the party was supposed to be mental, there was people smoking cannabis and getting smashed :lol: Although the getting drunk was to be expected :p:
    Wow, sounds like a good party lmao.
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    (Original post by mathew551)
    Wow, sounds like a good party lmao.
    Probably not for someone who's never even been drunk before :lol:
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    (Original post by Bananas01)
    Probably not for someone who's never even been drunk before :lol:
    But you never know, right?
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    To be honest, you can have perfectly good fun at a party without needing alcohol and drugs and all, don't feel pressured into it.

    To me, you seem a bit shy. With parties and stuff, I was the same in school (though I didnt really have any firm friends) and in hindsight, really regret it, cos people tried to get me to go to things and stuff, and I was kinda just...i dunno, socially awkward and felt a bit threatened by a lot of them (I used to be so shut in my shell due to this)

    Don't regret not going - after all, it is only one party of how many...? Just learn from this time and take opportunities as they come (though, don't give into peerpressure-y things, you'll find there are a lot of people in your year who lie about how 'hardcore' they are anyway)
    I wish I'd done it cos I probably would have made friends better if I'd actually just involved myself. I hope you can achieve it anyway Good luck!
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    (Original post by Bananas01)
    ... the party was supposed to be mental, there was people smoking cannabis and getting smashed :lol:
    Woooah that is SOOO MENTAL! CANNABIS! ZOMG!

    Haha just kidding man, but you seem very sheltered. It's nice you have a good relationship with your dad but you should probably try spending more time with people your own age, you'll be happier for it. And somewhere along the way you'll hopefully meet a nice girl
 
 
 
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