What am I gonna do?

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Ok, I really never thought I'd start one of these 'My relationships are ****' threads but here we go...
I've known this girl for about 4 or 5 years, and we went out about 4 years ago for a few months but broke up coz we were both too immature, and since then we've kind of seen each other off and on, but she's always been more into it than me, coz I was scared coz of the whole sexuality thing and so on.. so I always ended it.
Now, ****ing ironically, the tables have turned and she's pretty much all I think about. Every time we see each other we end up making out and stuff, and it's great, but I only see her every few weeks....
Last monday she stayed over and it was great, but we both decided (I'm not sure how) that we're too busy for a proper relationship, and I haven't heard from her since. I don't think it's really true, and its just so crap coz I would make time to see her if I could, and she says she feels the same way but I don't think she doe,s and its all sp screwed up and I don't know what to do!!!!
I just rang her and she said she couldn't really talk and she'll ring me on wednesday, but I don't think she will and even if she does its so far away...
I'm sorry for this ridiculously long post that probably no-one will read, but I just feel so **** right now and I have no-one to talk to... ****.

Reply 1

Gem

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Aww Raven hunny :hugs:

Sorry this is making you feel really bad :frown:

I don't know what to suggest, other than to talk to her, even though you've already tried. Maybe write her an email telling her how you feel? Even if you don't send it least you've got your feelings out, and it might make you feel a bit better.

What makes you think she's not interested? It could be that she's scared of getting hurt, by you ending it? If you can just talk to her and tell her your serious but you're worried too, then she might understand and take the chance with you. I don't think she's say she felt the same way, if she didn't.

Sorry I couldn't be much help :frown:

but I'm here if you need a hug :hugs:

Reply 2

~Raven~

OP

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Thanks Gem, maybe it is a good idea to tell her that I'm worried. I'm just scared that she'l say she doesn't want to see me again, but at this point, even that would be easier...

Reply 3

Gem

14

Sounds like you need to know one way or the other Raven. Even if (big if) she's not interested, at least you can get closure and move one, and if she is interested, then yay! :biggrin:

Good Luck

Reply 4

Logan

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time is always gonna tell, thats what i did to my relationship... but it ended up badly, but its worth the wait anyway

Reply 5

Indu.Mitra

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~Raven~

Ok, I really never thought I'd start one of these 'My relationships are ****' threads but here we go...
I've known this girl for about 4 or 5 years, and we went out about 4 years ago for a few months but broke up coz we were both too immature, and since then we've kind of seen each other off and on, but she's always been more into it than me, coz I was scared coz of the whole sexuality thing and so on.. so I always ended it.
Now, ****ing ironically, the tables have turned and she's pretty much all I think about. Every time we see each other we end up making out and stuff, and it's great, but I only see her every few weeks....
Last monday she stayed over and it was great, but we both decided (I'm not sure how) that we're too busy for a proper relationship, and I haven't heard from her since. I don't think it's really true, and its just so crap coz I would make time to see her if I could, and she says she feels the same way but I don't think she doe,s and its all sp screwed up and I don't know what to do!!!!
I just rang her and she said she couldn't really talk and she'll ring me on wednesday, but I don't think she will and even if she does its so far away...
I'm sorry for this ridiculously long post that probably no-one will read, but I just feel so **** right now and I have no-one to talk to... ****.

AWWWW!
look take it one day at a time. Theres no rush. Just see what happens on wednesday, see if she rings u or not. If she doesnt then don't be so eager to contact her, girls to like guys that are too into them, its a put off like it is for a guy when a girl is too serious about them. Im guessing if she doesnt contact you then definately by sunday contact her.. or just drop her a random txt.

Reply 6

MNBStyle

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Talk to her about it. You both obviously really like eachother and sound right for eachother.
Perhaps deep down your both worried about the what others may think due to the sexuallity issue, so perhaps thats why your both looking for reasons not to start a proper relationship???
If you find out thats the problem then dont give a crap what others think, your happiness comes first an your not harming anyone
:smile:

good luck anywayz

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