fears of violence

hey, this is going to sound weird, but here goes anyway. about 6 wks ago some people from where i lived were violently murdered by one of their friends- i didn't know them v well but had met one of them a few times, and the 2 victims were very good friends of my friend and her boyfriend. even though this hasn't really had much to do with me i've been feeling very disturbed by the events and keep getting freaked out by the fact one of their friends did it and how we're all at the mercy of other people's trust as they are at ours, which scares me. an apparently perfectly normal teenager turns on their friends and does that, and it terrifies the hell out of me in a really abstract way that potentially any of us could behave like that and i keep imagining my friends getting attacked or even me going psycho and attacking them. am i going crazy? i really hate thinking about this and don't know how to get it off my mind :frown:

bear in mind this is coming from someone who has never been violent towards anyone or thought of it until this event

Reply 1

~NC~

11

I think the best course of action you can take is to talk to someone about it, its always better after a talk. Could you perhaps see a councillor at school/college/uni. They might be able to offer you help, im sure its not abnormal to feel like that after a big event, its probably shock. I really think you should talk to someone, when im worried about something getting it off my chest always helps. I hope you feel better soon :hugs:

Reply 2

Lirael Abhorsen

OP

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thanks for your advice, really appreciated it :smile:

, the thing that gets to me though is that the people who are much more affected by it than i am - ie my friend's bf - seem to be coping much better than me who didn't know the victims very well - (one of them i didn't meet although i went to school with his sister) i'll try and talk to someone about it but the thing is i don't want them thinking i'm some sort of insane person or trying to get attention for myself...

Reply 3

~NC~

11

Look, you are definatly not going crazy, its just your bodies way of dealing with it. Different people cope with things in different ways, councillors are trained to talk to people about all sorts of things, im sure they won't think your mad :hugs:

Im sure they will know how to deal with you, i wouldnt worry about people thinking you are drawing attention to yourself, there are probably others feel;ing like this. It sounded like a major thing, therefore its probably better to talk to someone as after all they may be able to help you :P

Reply 4

Logan

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wont you believe it, i havent got a good night sleep because i was thinking about a horror film that i just saw last night?? thats more freaky than what fear you have now. =)

Reply 5

Lirael Abhorsen

OP

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aww, i know what you mean, even before this i got freaked out quit easily. in a much smaller scale way it reminds me of when i did jack the ripper coursework for history in yr 10 i was freaked out looking at knives for weeks after that.. i think i'm far too sensitive and have too much of an imagination..

Reply 6

~NC~

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Maybe so xD I was freaked out about Jack the Ripper coursework aswell, i wouldnt walk around on my own for ages :frown:

Its just your bodies natural instincts i suppose :smile:

Reply 7

zooropa

Call the police. Simply live with the fear.

Reply 8

Ariel4

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Lirael Abhorsen

aww, i know what you mean, even before this i got freaked out quit easily. in a much smaller scale way it reminds me of when i did jack the ripper coursework for history in yr 10 i was freaked out looking at knives for weeks after that.. i think i'm far too sensitive and have too much of an imagination..

no, jack the ripper is scary, even though the guy is obvioulsy dead now. i read a book on it about a year ago, and it scared the hell out of me. it had pictures of some of the bodies in there, which was the most disgusting thing i have ever seen.

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