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    I'm a straight male. I just can't fathom how people can be gay. I mean, the idea of kissing another man is utterly disgusting. Whenever I see a gay man, I always think of how they'd kiss another man and the anal sex and I mean, it just grosses me out. I don't hate gay people, but I'm very uncomfortable around them.
    I really want to get over this though. Any suggestions?
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    Maybe you should try it.
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    Just accept people for what they are. They're not hurting you in anyway. Let them enjoy their lives as they let you enjoy yours


    EDIT: Way to go to the homophobe who negged me.
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    (Original post by [Shadowplay])
    Maybe you should try it.
    *throws up*
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    Don't think about it. They're probably just as revolted by the prospect of straight sex.
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    I just feel sorry for the ***** in relationship.

    My arse is sore just after huge dump. can't imagine it.
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    I think you need to disconnect gay people from anal sex. I don't see a straight person and think "VAGINAL SEX!!1!!!", so you just need to stop thinking about people's love lives.

    Obviously nobody is asking you to find anal sex appealing, so as long as you don't imagine it, I guess there's no problem. Basically look at gay people as people, rather than people-with-dodgy-sex-lives ..?
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    I don't think gay people are disgusted by heterosexual sex as some straight are by gay sex. I consider myself bi, mainly gay, but I think straight sex is 'beautiful', it just doesn't really arouse me I guess? I don't see what there is to be disgusted by.

    As for the OP, I don't see what's so bad about two men kissing? Many straight guys have kissed other guys casually, I don't see what's so bad with it. And as for sex, as long as you keep everything clean and safe, again there isn't much of a problem... If you mean you're uncomfortable because of the way they act, not all gay guys are camp (I can't stand camp guys), some are 'normal' and just like anyone really. There isn't a 'gay' type. I don't see what there is to feel so uncomfortable about. :confused:
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    (Original post by [Shadowplay])
    I don't see what there is to feel so uncomfortable about. :confused:
    Graham Norton. Nuff said
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    Stop thinking about them having sex and just see them as the person they are? Do you imagine all the straight guys you know having sex with women? And the way I understand homosexuality in women is by imagining the most beautiful woman I've seen and comparing her to an ugly man. I would much rather do a beautiful women than an ugly man, so if I was a man I'd rather do a beautiful man than a fat ugly hairy woman.
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    (Original post by [Shadowplay])
    Maybe you should try it.
    This. Don't knock it til you've tried it! :p:
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    (Original post by Arnotts)
    Stop thinking about them having sex and just see them as the person they are? Do you imagine all the straight guys you know having sex with women? And the way I understand homosexuality in women is by imagining the most beautiful woman I've seen and comparing her to an ugly man. I would much rather do a beautiful women than an ugly man, so if I was a man I'd rather do a beautiful man than a fat ugly hairy woman.
    Umm no if I had to choose between Enrique Iglesias or Susan Boyle, I'd rather have a ****.
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    If you're so bothered by it, poke your eyes out so you won't ever have to see gay men again.
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    (Original post by impressionist89)
    Graham Norton. Nuff said
    Yeah, well not everyone is like that.

    People should stop thinking that all gay people are the same... Some are just 'normal', and you can find straight freaks as well.
    Maybe if you care that much about how you view gay guys, you should try to find some who don't fit in the 'camp' stereotype and talk to/befriend them? If you're open-minded enough, that is.
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    (Original post by [Shadowplay])
    Yeah, well not everyone is like that.

    People should stop thinking that all gay people are the same... Some are just 'normal', and you can find straight freaks as well.
    Maybe if you care that much about how you view gay guys, you should try to find some who don't fit in the 'camp' stereotype and talk to/befriend them? If you're open-minded enough, that is.
    Are you guys just born like that? How does it work? How can you find another man attractive? Do you think like women?(with all the mood swings, emotional behaviour) etc?
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    I have heard at least one Gay man say the thought of going down on a woman is disgusting and I have heard girls says similar about doing that with another girl .so perhaps some of the really gay men find the idea of sleeping with a woman as disgusting or weird as some straight men do about sleeping with men . I have always believed that sexuality is quite fluid if thats the name for it. with more groups than just straight gay or bi.

    There are men and women who would never ever, consider sleeping with a member of the same sex, that is difficult for the Gay rights lobby to fathom, and also men who think what goes on in lesbian porn is reality,but it's a fact.In fact the numbers of people who identify as exclusively 'Gay' or 'lesbian' is actually lower than previously people thought. There are larger numbers than previously when these surveys were done that admit fantasising about the same sex, or a smaller number even fooling around with the same sex or indulging with transexuals .But the vast majority still consider themselves hetrosexual,not even BI.
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    Well if you are constantly obsessing over what they get up to in the bedroom it is hardly a surprise.

    Stop doing that?
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    well just bear in mind that just cos a guy is gay, they dont automatically want to hold u down and bum you

    i mean u don't think that every straight girl u meet wants to sex you right? so why should u be uncomfortable around gays?

    just act cool, bro...
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    (Original post by otilov)
    same its disgusting and should be illegal
    no it shouldn't be illegal. As I said, I don't have anything against them, just wondering how they can think like that.
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    (Original post by impressionist89)
    Are you guys just born like that? How does it work? How can you find another man attractive? Do you think like women?(with all the mood swings, emotional behaviour) etc?
    Well I could ask you the same thing, how do you find another woman attractive? There's no way to describe it, it's just 'taste'. Just because I'm gay doesn't mean I don't find women beautiful, gay guys are just not aroused by the opposite sex, and that's not something you have any control over. I think if any gay teen had a say in that area, they would decide to be straight.

    And no, we don't think/act like women, we're still men. We're still human beings and we all act differently. I don't see why just because we are attracted to the same sex, we automatically have to have our whole personality dictated by that sexual / emotional preference.
 
 
 
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