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    I cant help it. I was in a long term relationship with my ex, and we were like in our own little bubble. If either of us got a text we would tell eachother who it was from and what it was about. If someone texted me she would look round and look at my phone screen.
    We broke up as it just ran its course. Im in a new relationship now and its much more healthy, only my old behaviour and habits are still there...

    If my gf gets a text, i ask straight away who it is. particularly if she reads it and laughs, or if she gets several texts. It drives her mad and she hates me when i do it. How can i stop doing this? If she goes to the pub with friends, her and her friends might meet some guys or something, and i just get paranoid she will cheat, even though she just has a harmless conversation.
    She told me she was talking to a 23 year old guy last night, but as a group including her brother and her cousins. The guy supposedly told her brother that he thinks my gf is fit. She told me about this and i kicked off because she seemed really happy that some guy told her shes fit. But the guy has a girlfriend and a child as well :/ and my gf has never cheated in her life, so its just me being paranoid again.

    I feel like im destroying my relationship and if i cant change ill never be able to keep a girl.
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    Do you go out and chat to girls harmlessly? I'm guessing yes...

    This is the same in reverse..chill out. Just because someone finds your woman attractive does not mean they're shagging. I'd take it as a compliment :top:
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    Do you go out and chat to girls harmlessly? I'm guessing yes...

    This is the same in reverse..chill out. Just because someone finds your woman attractive does not mean they're shagging. I'd take it as a compliment :top:
    Yes and i know i'd never cheat. Its just like there is something in my head which wont allow me to think rationally
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    Yes and i know i'd never cheat. Its just like there is something in my head which wont allow me to think rationally
    You just have to keep telling yourself it's alright. My ex was like this, she would never give me a moments rest... in fact it got to the point where she banned me from seeing female friends of mine. After that it was downhill all the way.
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    Yea i dont want to be some psycho stalker, i feel so annoyed that im ruining everything i think she will dump me soon tbh. Talk about the worst time of year as well
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    Anyone else have any advice?
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    I saw the title and hoped it was my girlfriend, and maybe, maybe, we can work this out.

    But you're not.
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    great help
 
 
 
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