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    Hi guys,

    I'm a final year student at University who has just returned for Christmas. My mum in particular is still drinking heavily and most of my childhood memories involve drink. She is probably a binge / problem drinker. She says that she has no responsibilities and can therefore do as she pleases. She said this even when I was a teenager. Many of her friends are a poor influence, but we each take decisions for ourselves. I've tried to explain that we are a family. She measures love in terms of material possessions, when all I want to do is spend time with my parents. I don't drink for religious reasons.

    What should I do?

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    Hi guys,

    I'm a final year student at University who has just returned for Christmas. My mum in particular is still drinking heavily and most of my childhood memories involve drink. She is probably a binge / problem drinker. She says that she has no responsibilities and can therefore do as she pleases. She said this even when I was a teenager. Many of her friends are a poor influence, but we each take decisions for ourselves. I've tried to explain that we are a family. She measures love in terms of material possessions, when all I want to do is spend time with my parents. I don't drink for religious reasons.

    What should I do?

    Merry Christmas
    Well I would advise some form of interventionism, but it would seem that you are at university and as such have begun to live your own life. Unless you have younger siblings who will otherwise be caught in the furore, I would recommend simply just leaving it. Whilst she did have a responsibility as a parent when you were a child (and neglected it), that time has ended. What's done is done, irrespective of what is healthy for her both in a health context as well as family context.

    I would advise you leave her to her devices (unless you have younger siblings), and offer her help with her drinking problem if necessary, giving her NHS contacts etc.

    I hope I've helped.
 
 
 
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