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    hey i am at uni and so far enjoying it. i have met loads of people and seem to get along blissfully. over a period of time i started to notice peoples personalities and how it can effect their success of socialising. what i have noticed is noted below=

    1. the guys in my halls who seem to act like monkeys and prouncing about like total knobs seem to get highly successful with the girls. at first a found it very strange when i noticed my bestmate at uni who acts kind of childish seems to be pulling the girls like hell, they all seem to fight for his attention and he just brushes them aside. in lectures he seems to chuck scrunched up paper around the room at people sitting below and the girls are loving it calling it banter and all sorts.

    in the other hand the less rowdy and queit guys seem to get no attention what so ever and get ignored most of the time by the hot girls. i heard them complain about it in a discussion in the pub a few days ago.

    by the way im a normal guy and seem to be perceived as a knob to as i hangaround with one but it certainly does help me pull so i hav nothing to complain about.

    so just wanted to know if anyone else have noticed this and girls why do you get attracted to the rowdy guys and not usually the average joe?? my mind boggles
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    (Original post by twistedmetal)
    hey i am at uni and so far enjoying it. i have met loads of people and seem to get along blissfully. over a period of time i started to notice peoples personalities and how it can effect their success of socialising. what i have noticed is noted below=

    1. the guys in my halls who seem to act like monkeys and prouncing about like total knobs seem to get highly successful with the girls. at first a found it very strange when i noticed my bestmate at uni who acts kind of childish seems to be pulling the girls like hell, they all seem to fight for his attention and he just brushes them aside. in lectures he seems to chuck scrunched up paper around the room at people sitting below and the girls are loving it calling it banter and all sorts.

    in the other hand the less rowdy and queit guys seem to get no attention what so ever and get ignored most of the time by the hot girls. i heard them complain about it in a discussion in the pub a few days ago.

    by the way im a normal guy and seem to be perceived as a knob to as i hangaround with one but it certainly does help me pull so i hav nothing to complain about.

    so just wanted to know if anyone else have noticed this and girls why do you get attracted to the rowdy guys and not usually the average joe?? my mind boggles

    Making a bit of a generalisation here, but ah well. Most girls are not attracted to the nobs you described. They're easy to get off with, to put it bluntly, because they are more confident and make the first move, therefore lessening the possibility of a girl getting turned down, and making her life easier.

    On a night out, of course you're attracted to rowdy people because they're the life and soul of the party. In a general situation, shyer boys can get a look in.

    Also, shyness is easily misinterpreted as stand offishness or snottiness, or disinterest.

    Girls can be very shy - so they like to let boys make the first move which more often or not tends to be by more lairy lads.
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    (Original post by twistedmetal)
    hey i am at uni and so far enjoying it. i have met loads of people and seem to get along blissfully. over a period of time i started to notice peoples personalities and how it can effect their success of socialising. what i have noticed is noted below=

    1. the guys in my halls who seem to act like monkeys and prouncing about like total knobs seem to get highly successful with the girls. at first a found it very strange when i noticed my bestmate at uni who acts kind of childish seems to be pulling the girls like hell, they all seem to fight for his attention and he just brushes them aside. in lectures he seems to chuck scrunched up paper around the room at people sitting below and the girls are loving it calling it banter and all sorts.

    in the other hand the less rowdy and queit guys seem to get no attention what so ever and get ignored most of the time by the hot girls. i heard them complain about it in a discussion in the pub a few days ago.

    by the way im a normal guy and seem to be perceived as a knob to as i hangaround with one but it certainly does help me pull so i hav nothing to complain about.

    so just wanted to know if anyone else have noticed this and girls why do you get attracted to the rowdy guys and not usually the average joe?? my mind boggles
    :rolleyes:
    i prefer nice guys...
    and sometimes lack a sense of humour so not all of us like the loud idiots
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    Personality? Pah.
    It works like this, son: are you attractive?
    If yes, you will be successful.
    If no... unlucky.
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    well funny cheerful guys unless they're too overconfident do attract girls simply cos we're more comfortable around them

    the quiet guys scares us off more..like some monester might pop up..plus it's worse if they answer back badly to you whereas the funny guy you can laugh it off
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    It's not a lie when girls say that they like guys who can make them laugh. Quiet guys usually just sit in the corner in parties and keep quiet. When you talk to them they just give you an awkward smile or maybe not even that. When they answer you get something awkward or boring like "I guess so", "yeah..." or they may just look at you like they are scared animals. Not always the case but I have seen those quite often. It's about the social skills. Funny guys usually may have better social skills. They give interesting or funny answers, just what the girls want. And ofcourse, it's about the looks. If it's ons or just casual, girls like good looking guys. You said something about hot girls, hot girls go to hot guys. Not quiet and average guys if they just want sex.

    And this whole "nice but average" talk. So if you met a nice and average girl, would you rather have her than a hot girl? I don't think so. Maybe in relationship the personality is more important but these girls can't even get to know these guys if they are too quiet. They have to introduce themselves, talk to girls, keep an interesting conversation up, make them laugh. If the conversation is like from my uncle's mouth in a family party, I won't me interested. Conversations need effort, you need to make the girl feel comfortable. Now probably someone is going to say that it's not fair. Maybe it's not but who goes for the second best (or the worst...) if s/he can go for the best? Girls want to have fun, I won't sit in a party next to a guy who is quiet, sitting far away from me (it looks really unconfident and girls like if the guy does the first move. Slowly moving towards her, touching, smiling), looking at his toes and saying something uninteresting every ten minutes.
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    Because they're not boring.
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    because they stand out.
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    It depends if he is painfully quiet to the point that even if a girl has tried to start a conversation with him, he can't relax and just talk naturally. Obviously it's not his fault - but then it's not the girls fault either so she'll not see any point in carrying on.

    I don't know about all girls but personally the really rowdy, childish boys are plain annoying, and I feel a lot better if a guy who seems quiet actually opens up to be a lot more sociable and confident than you thought - it's almost like a personal achievement and you know they're not the 'player' exhibitionist type.
 
 
 
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