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    Ok, I'm hoping this isn't too explicit for TSR - I'll try to tone it down a bit anyway... [I've even made a new account to ask about it - don't want it associated with my normal one.]

    I'm currently seeing a great girl. We're not really going out as such, it's more just a case of having sex - but we go see the occasional film, have the odd drink out, etc.

    Anyway, the sex is great - she's experimental, enthusiastic, hot, etc. She's quite submissive and I've slapped her ass a fair bit, pulled her hair, and I generally 'take charge' while we're ****ing.

    So... out of the blue the other day she told me that she wanted me to slap her across the face while we were 'at it'. I did it and really enjoyed it (although seemingly not as much as her!) Afterwards she said I should have done it harder...

    She also told me to put my hand around her throat and choke her.

    I don't really mind doing it - in fact, like I said, I actually find it quite a turn on. But... I also have a nagging feeling in the back of my mind. Is it messed up? Could it constitute assault, etc?

    So... people of TSR... preferably not the nerdy virgins... is this (slapping / choking) acceptable bedroom behaviour? Or should I stop? Have you engaged in it? What would you think if your partner suggested it?
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    She likes it rough :sexface:
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    (Original post by Tommy_)
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    apparently choking can enhance the female orgasm but anyway ill write this in bold becauses its important last year a boy in my old school and a famous person both died whilst choking themselves in a kinky way, i think during masturbating. dont risk it we originally thought it was suicide but turns out otherwise. bad enough dying let alone your parents living with cause of death: experimenting during masturbation. how embarassing
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    (Original post by PapaShmurff)
    She likes it rough :sexface:
    No ****.
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    (Original post by jamesman13)
    apparently choking can enhance the female orgasm but anyway ill write this in bold becauses its important last year a boy in my old school and a famous person both died whilst choking themselves in a kinky way, i think during masturbating. dont risk it
    Yeah, I read about this. I think it's quite different; they're probably using rope (or similar) and therefore end up accidentally hanging themselves. Not much fun, but a bit different I think.
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    Holy ****, that is HOT.

    I promised i wouldn't w*nk on Christmas day...but

    Everyone look away! :innocent:


    Edit: i've only ever watched this sort of stuff in porn. It will be a while before i ever engage in it - i'm a nerdy virgin )
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    (Original post by jamesman13)
    apparently choking can enhance the female orgasm but anyway ill write this in bold becauses its important last year a boy in my old school and a famous person both died whilst choking themselves in a kinky way, i think during masturbating. dont risk it we originally thought it was suicide but turns out otherwise. bad enough dying let alone your parents living with cause of death: experimenting during masturbation. how embarassing
    David Carradine? A few have to be fair.

    Whatever, do what you want! It's between you two. This forum sucks.
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    (Original post by shygirl92)
    Holy ****, that is HOT.

    I promised i wouldn't w*nk on Christmas day...but

    Everyone look away! :innocent:
    Damn right it is...

    I'm worried what future girls would think about it if I get used to it.

    Take it you wouldn't be freaked out if some guy told you he wanted to do that then?
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    She's trying to frame you for rape :laugh:

    I'm kidding. Do what feels good and ignore the nagging **** known as a conscience
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    You sir, are one lucky SoB
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    (Original post by Tommy_)
    Ok, I'm hoping this isn't too explicit for TSR - I'll try to tone it down a bit anyway... [I've even made a new account to ask about it - don't want it associated with my normal one.]

    I'm currently seeing a great girl. We're not really going out as such, it's more just a case of having sex - but we go see the occasional film, have the odd drink out, etc.

    Anyway, the sex is great - she's experimental, enthusiastic, hot, etc. She's quite submissive and I've slapped her ass a fair bit, pulled her hair, and I generally 'take charge' while we're ****ing.

    So... out of the blue the other day she told me that she wanted me to slap her across the face while we were 'at it'. I did it and really enjoyed it (although seemingly not as much as her!) Afterwards she said I should have done it harder...

    She also told me to put my hand around her throat and choke her.

    I don't really mind doing it - in fact, like I said, I actually find it quite a turn on. But... I also have a nagging feeling in the back of my mind. Is it messed up? Could it constitute assault, etc?

    So... people of TSR... preferably not the nerdy virgins... is this (slapping / choking) acceptable bedroom behaviour? Or should I stop? Have you engaged in it? What would you think if your partner suggested it?
    But we're all nerdy virgins :rofl:

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    (Original post by Tommy_)
    Damn right it is...

    I'm worried what future girls would think about it if I get used to it.

    Take it you wouldn't be freaked out if some guy told you he wanted to do that then?
    Judging by the heat between my legs right now: hell no. I'd be well chuffed

    Out of bed i'm a complete feminist, don't plan on marrying and never want a relationship. But in the bedroom, i just love subtle (or not so) psychological inferiority imposed on me.

    Now i sound mental. Thanks for the description by the way - saving for teh **** bank :yep:
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    I guess what you two do consensually is your business but it is abnormal behaviour to want to be dominated, abused etc. so I guess you could be letting yourself in for hassle emotionally. Sometimes people that like that kind of **** are perfectly normal outside of the bedroom but other times it's a sign of overarching craziness. But then it's also abnormal behaviour in my view to get off on being the abuser so whatever, maybe you two are right for each other.
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    I'm not a fan of slapping... or slapping my kids when I have them, even.

    maybe there's a correlation here??
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    (Original post by shygirl92)
    Judging by the heat between my legs right now: hell no. I'd be well chuffed

    Out of bed i'm a complete feminist, don't plan on marrying and never want a relationship. But in the bedroom, i just love subtle (or not so) psychological inferiority imposed on me.

    Now i sound mental. Thanks for the description by the way - saving for teh **** bank :yep:
    Haha, not so shy...

    No worries - I actually toned it down for TSR though. :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by defuzion)
    I'm not a fan of slapping... or slapping my kids when I have them, even.

    maybe there's a correlation here??
    Between what and what?
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    (Original post by shygirl92)
    Holy ****, that is HOT.

    I promised i wouldn't w*nk on Christmas day...but

    Edit: i've only ever watched this sort of stuff in porn. It will be a while before i ever engage in it - i'm a virgin
    You don't have to ****. I really can help you. :sexface:
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    I'm a girl and I approve of everything you mentioned.

    Very very much.
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    It's not weird, it's what she likes and you're providing that, so it's a good thing!


    Just make sure you both make up some sort of safe word just in case, or tell her to 'tap out' if you're choking her too hard.
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    Nothing wrong with it imo
 
 
 
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