Gender issues.

If thats how you feel.. it must be torture really hope it works out for you.

What sort of clothes would you like to wear?

I do, haha. <3




I'm older than that, and I still feel this way. I've come to terms with it somewhat within myself, but dislike it due to the implications it may have. I'm not sure that i'll ever be able to settle down with someone if they know how I feel like this, and I worry that i'm going to be very lonely. It would feel wrong to explain this to friends, but if I do, they'll likely shy away from me, or think badly of me.

Above all though, I just want my parents to be proud of me, as they are my siblings (who have achieved far moreso than I have).




No, we are the same end of the scale, I believe. I am male, and feel androgynous/female inside. I feel strongly about this, but unable to express it due to boundaries and the prejudice within society towards how I am.

I will take your advice about exploring identities, but on the times I have been able to explore androgynous/female identities, I have felt happier, and more true to myself.

I envy your transition in University! You must be very brave to do such a thing- but it must have been very nice to start off true to yourself around people who have no former knowledge of you? Could you explain what the "Diversity advisor" is, and give more detail on what exactly he done?

And i'm glad that we feel the same on the feminine/androgynous Asian males

Sounds to me like you'd fit right in with an emo crowd. I had a 'male' friend who wore womens jeans, womens tops and make-up and got on just fine with them.

You have to make a descision. Are you brave enough to do soemthing about the way you feel? If not, then it's best to bury it now and move on and try and find a way to be comfortable as a normal man, or you're gunna end up unhappy.

Ah sorry, I meant I was the opposite end of the scale to most of the other posters who mentioned that might have had mild gender issues.

Actually everyone knew of my transition at university, as I did so 3 months into the first term. I wasn't quite ready to do so at the beginning of term and couldn't bear playing the paranoid guessing games of 'do they know or not'.

As regards the diversity advisor, they are normally somebody employed by the university for issues concerning discrimination based around gender, race, religion, etc... If you go to your advisor, they should normally be able to proceed with letting the relevant people (students and teachers) know of your transition and go about any kind of name/record change necessary. In my situation I was too shy to approach them directly about my transition, so I sent an initial email, which may be an easier way to 'break the ice'.

Also, for you, is it more about the 'clothes' or how you are perceived in the clothes? Questions like this may help you discover who you are and whether you feel you ARE androgynous/female or whether you merely like to take the image of such.

My views on it are: Don't let outside factors suppress or prevent you from being who you are. If you do, in the end, it'll just make things harder and harder, because such issues never go away fully, despite what efforts one might do over decades of suppression. In terms of parental relationships, or relationships with anyone that matter, it's better to have a relationship based on truth and openness rather than between them and a fake facade of yourself. I had a huge row with my mum when I first came out and it took years for her to come to terms with it, but I believe that with most parents, their love for you will overcome the difficulties of what such an issue might place on them.

It's perfectly possible to lead a happy, transgendered life, and alot of the universities in the cities have LGBT socieites, of which there is a trans community inclusive.

There are trans communities on the internet and in real life. Seek them out and involve yourself in them, the people there will provide you with acceptance and guidance. You don't have to explore this on your own

I'd love to find such communities, and hopefully when going to Uni finding them will be easier. As it stands, I live rurally and there is just nothing around.