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    As the title says. In short, I crack girls up and I'm still not getting some, they treat me like a brother. I'm not taking that for granted, but will it affect my relationship chances in future with other girls I like?

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    I have no complaints about my social life and have many female friends. Before I start I'd like to clear up that I'm straight, can't get enough of hot women (which annoys these girls as they'd pay to see me turn gay) and I'm not a prick in general as a person. I do have a lot of male friends too. I'm also not saying I'm after a relationship with one of my female mates.

    Alright what happens is I tend to make girls laugh a lot with my humour and actions, basically every time I see them really. I do make the odd immature manly jokes exposing my typical pervertedness etc. so I'm hardly a saint (which I know girls aren't exactly blown away by anyway). Girls compliment me on my lazy rugged looks (to my surprise) so appearance I'd like to think is okay, confidence-wise I think that's gone alright and they talk to me quite a bit. But I get the feeling they consider me as a brother figure, No less since they call me their brother quite a bit.

    I really don't take this stuff seriously at all but I was prompted to look into it after my friend told me this:

    "When a girl treats you as a brother or friend, you have a very slim chance of bonding a relationship. "

    Now that view could have some truth to it or it could be complete rubbish as some girls are different to others, I'd like some people to elaborate on that.

    So do I have absolutely nothing to worry about?
    Or could I implement a few changes and additions to my personality here and there, to start attracting girls beyond just entertainment value, and more towards what traits girls are after?

    I'm very happy anyway but this is just preparing for the future too.


    I'm not tooooo fussed about this and there are people with far worse dilemmas than mine, but I guess it's worth hearing a few views.
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    You're being friend-zoned or whatever the **** it's called. How will it affect yo relationship with other girls though :curious: whut.
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    (Original post by mel0n)
    You're being friend-zoned or whatever the **** it's called. How will it affect yo relationship with other girls though :curious: whut.
    Well I mean, if these chicks take me in as a 'brother', what's to say other girls (that I would like to pursue for a relationship) won't? That's what I'm getting at. Is it an issue not worth worrying about?
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    Listen hassan, don't worry about it n ting bro.
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    your entertaining them in the wrong way
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    Just be yourself
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    (Original post by Absinth)
    I think people who are well known to be funny people can make others feel too comfortable. With attraction, I think there has to be some tension there...
    Yeah I've been thinking the same, hence my doubts really. It's a good point you've brought up here.

    Had a little Google search on "Friend Zone".
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friend_zone
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    When you meet a girl, be flirty, get her number. Text her a couple days later "Hey there, you looked amazing the other night should def meet up some time."

    Go out with her again, bang her. THEN when your in bed doing the cuddlying **** (and you want this girl as a girlfriend) BE FUNNY. I personally go for "lower-self-esteem comedy"
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    Being funny never works. If a chick digs mysterious ********s, all the pithy one-liners in the world aren't going to work on her. :dontknow:
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    You make yourself out to be immature and silly. Qualities girls don't want in a boyfriend. Grow up a little. Be more cool.
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    I like funny guys but if your jokes are immature, offending or sexist, I don't think girls will take you seriously. No girl wants to take a guy who makes immature jokes to home. Too keen or perv guys just seem desperate. I don't think that you are bf material at all right now. As someone said, you should grow up and act cool. Talking about sex (in jokes for example) all the time makes you look like a little boy who watches porn everyday and dreams about touching some girls boobs. I personally like guys who talk about their (mature) opinions and have interesting things to say. Not the guys who make jokes about everything. And I believe I'm not the only one.
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    Thanks for the feedback.

    (Original post by prescilla)
    I like funny guys but if your jokes are immature, offending or sexist, I don't think girls will take you seriously. No girl wants to take a guy who makes immature jokes to home. Too keen or perv guys just seem desperate. I don't think that you are bf material at all right now. As someone said, you should grow up and act cool. Talking about sex (in jokes for example) all the time makes you look like a little boy who watches porn everyday and dreams about touching some girls boobs. I personally like guys who talk about their (mature) opinions and have interesting things to say. Not the guys who make jokes about everything. And I believe I'm not the only one.
    Okay I think I haven't described myself well in this thread, I tried to make it as less of a 'life story' as possible. That's my fault, allow me elaborate further (I think I'm reading into this too much now but with regret I'll carry on)

    I'm not an immature person. At least I and my friends don't believe I am according to what they tell me. Infact, I suffered by being overly mature throughout my secondary school life as people believed I was too reserved, pretty quiet, very shy and hard to approach. After the minor depression over my social life that left wanting, I realised I needed to stop caring as much and socialise more and open out. I had fear and confidence issues and I've overcome that and am now a happy person. I knew I had it in me the whole time, but needed the fresh start and am now a happier person in general. I haven't done this by being immensely immature, if I was I don't think intellectual and smart girls would hang around with me so I must be doing something right in the maturity department.

    Yeah I can't deny that I'm into hot girls, I don't go on about them or sex 24/7 though. I mean there's a fine line between coming across as a pervert and saying you think a woman is beautiful. I'm more towards the latter. Some girls will respond differently to attitudes anyway. You'd be hard pressed to find straight guys that genuinely don't watch porn and don't find women attractive. As I said I don't think I've crossed the pervert line, I think this is more down to being in the friend zone if anything really.

    I've had countless intellectual and mature conversations with girls about the world and we discuss things with one another about our interests and stuff. In a serious conversation I am serious and in a fun conversation I'm fun. I like seeing people happy. What it might be though as someone has said above, is me needing to take the initiative and get myself a date. If I don't show a specific interest in going out with a girl, I guess I can't expect to get one.

    I'm glad I made this thread now, a few things here have reminded me of a few important things and it should help me out in future.

    Thanks people
    I appreciate it.
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    He automatically boyfriend material for me.

    Unfortunately being funny's the top priority on my list, for potential boyfriends.. This does tend to bring trouble when I always fall for the arrogant, funny lad of the group though..
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    (Original post by hass147)
    Thanks for the feedback.


    Okay I think I haven't described myself well in this thread, I tried to make it as less of a 'life story' as possible. That's my fault, allow me elaborate further (I think I'm reading into this too much now but with regret I'll carry on)

    I'm not an immature person. At least I and my friends don't believe I am according to what they tell me. Infact, I suffered by being overly mature throughout my secondary school life as people believed I was too reserved, pretty quiet, very shy and hard to approach. After the minor depression over my social life that left wanting, I realised I needed to stop caring as much and socialise more and open out. I had fear and confidence issues and I've overcome that and am now a happy person. I knew I had it in me the whole time, but needed the fresh start and am now a happier person in general. I haven't done this by being immensely immature, if I was I don't think intellectual and smart girls would hang around with me so I must be doing something right in the maturity department.

    Yeah I can't deny that I'm into hot girls, I don't go on about them or sex 24/7 though. I mean there's a fine line between coming across as a pervert and saying you think a woman is beautiful. I'm more towards the latter. Some girls will respond differently to attitudes anyway. You'd be hard pressed to find straight guys that genuinely don't watch porn and don't find women attractive. As I said I don't think I've crossed the pervert line, I think this is more down to being in the friend zone if anything really.

    I've had countless intellectual and mature conversations with girls about the world and we discuss things with one another about our interests and stuff. In a serious conversation I am serious and in a fun conversation I'm fun. I like seeing people happy. What it might be though as someone has said above, is me needing to take the initiative and get myself a date. If I don't show a specific interest in going out with a girl, I guess I can't expect to get one.

    I'm glad I made this thread now, a few things here have reminded me of a few important things and it should help me out in future.

    Thanks people
    I appreciate it.
    Okay, this post makes it more clear for me. From your first post I got an image that you make immature and pervert comments all the time. But if it's not the case, I think it's fine. I didn't mean that guys can't watch porn or find women attractive. I was just thinking about the whole "immature concept" and how it can make someone look really inexperienced, too keen and desperate because I have seen guys like that. All the time looking at girls boobs and ass without even trying to hide the stare and saying immature comments about so called lady parts. It's quite hard to analyse people if you get only short description about them and words like immature or pervert give specific connotations that you have in your mind.

    If you can have mature and interesting conversations and you are funny, I think that's very, very good. Maybe it's just that you don't flirt with them? Some girls may even truly like you but they aren't sure if you like them because you may act similarly with other girls (making them laugh, having good conversations etc.). Most girls want the guy to make the first move. They may hope that you ask them to go to cinema with you or to hang out after school. If you are having a conversation with a girl you can just smile and look straight in her eyes - It's pretty hard to descripe that but you have to have that flirty spark in your eyes. And talking to that one girl more than to the others, making her feel special. If she likes you she will know that this means green light. But there is a difference between a pervert and a flirty. Girls like if guys say something like "your hair looks really pretty today" or "That dress looks really good on you".
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    Have you had a girlfriend before? If so, you have nothing to worry about. Relish in the fact you have a lot of girl mates, that is a good thing.
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    you sound like a nice guy....its just too bad girls don't like 'nice' guys

    they want to go for confident, go-getting guys who portray strength stability and power...nice guys seem like pushovers
 
 
 
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