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    Basically, when I was young (about 5 I think) I was 'abused' (though I don't like to think of it like that, and it was only once) and now I'm an extremely horny person. I was just wondering whether anyone else has experienced this. There were various other experiences in childhood, a sleepover that got a bit heated when I was about 10 I think, an experience with my cousin when I was about 11. First tried masturbating when very young and started regularly when about 12.

    Now I'm horny all the time. I'd do virtually anything if I get with a girl that I fancy enough. My last gf was quite innocent when I met her, when we split up we had tried all kinds of dirty things that I'd learnt from porn. I would like to experience sex with a man, just because of the penis, but the thought of kissing, cuddling etc a man is horrible. I think about sex and masturbate too much and it's actually started to distract me, and I was wondering whether this was due to childhood experiences.

    in b4 not your therapist etc. Just want to know if others have similar experiences.
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    Well, this may sound obvious but have you considered seeing a therapist? They can offer help for a problem like that.
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    You like sex? I got news for you buddy, so do 99% of the population. I don't think the requirement for being horny as an adult is getting sexually abused as a child.
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    (Original post by JohnnytheFox)
    You like sex? I got news for you buddy, so do 99% of the population. I don't think the requirement for being horny as an adult is getting sexually abused as a child.
    But I think I'm more depraved than average. Go away with your blanket statements.
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    I do think your just a very horny person... nothing wrong with that... being exposed at a younger age might have helped influence this. But embrace it
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    As people can be totally relied on to lie and disguise their sexual urges, I don't think you can realistically say that you are really horney.

    There is no physical addiction t masturbation or sex - it's purely mental. You need some self control, that'll help you stop. Plenty of food/certain pills/diets stops you being horny, if it's that bad do some research.
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    Im not a physiologist but i do think that abuse at a childhood age does tend to make people go one way or another (scared of sex or obsessed with it). If it is impeding in your day to day life like your post suggests then you need to tackle it now before you urges encourage you to do something that you might regret. I am not saying you are going to turn into a rapist but if you need to push the envelope starts to hurt or distress your partners then it needs to be dealt with.

    I strongly suggest you see someone about it and talk it through. You might find it embarrassing and hard to deal with but surely in the long run that has to be better then you current state?

    God luck.
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    I think, aside from Jehovah's Witnesses and the Amish, the majority of people started masturbating around 12.
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    I've found it to be the opposite effect on myself :dontknow:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But I think I'm more depraved than average. Go away with your blanket statements.
    How do you know what average is? Got any sources to the extensive studies you've carried out?

    Trying things with your girlfriend that you've seen in porn isn't as sick and twisted as you seem to think it is, unless the porn you've been watching is "2 girls 1 cup."
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    I discovered masturbation at 5. No joke (of course I had no idea wtf it was, just felt good). Also had 'experience' with a cousin at like..9.

    Despite this I was never overly horny. I never even thought about sex until I lost my virginity (18). Now I'm 'horny'.. but no more than your average adult. So if you're wondering whether child sexual experiences reflect your sex drive later in life... in my experience it hasn't at all.
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    (Original post by Trigger)
    Im not a physiologist but i do think that abuse at a childhood age does tend to make people go one way or another (scared of sex or obsessed with it). If it is impeding in your day to day life like your post suggests then you need to tackle it now before you urges encourage you to do something that you might regret. I am not saying you are going to turn into a rapist but if you need to push the envelope starts to hurt or distress your partners then it needs to be dealt with.

    I strongly suggest you see someone about it and talk it through. You might find it embarrassing and hard to deal with but surely in the long run that has to be better then you current state?

    God luck.
    It's not a major thing, and it has good points. I would never do anything that would hurt anyone else! It's just I wanted to see if others have experienced this as well mainly
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically, when I was young (about 5 I think) I was 'abused' (though I don't like to think of it like that, and it was only once) and now I'm an extremely horny person. I was just wondering whether anyone else has experienced this. There were various other experiences in childhood, a sleepover that got a bit heated when I was about 10 I think, an experience with my cousin when I was about 11. First tried masturbating when very young and started regularly when about 12.

    Now I'm horny all the time. I'd do virtually anything if I get with a girl that I fancy enough. My last gf was quite innocent when I met her, when we split up we had tried all kinds of dirty things that I'd learnt from porn. I would like to experience sex with a man, just because of the penis, but the thought of kissing, cuddling etc a man is horrible. I think about sex and masturbate too much and it's actually started to distract me, and I was wondering whether this was due to childhood experiences.

    in b4 not your therapist etc. Just want to know if others have similar experiences.
    This is really interesting. When I was 11, I was abused by two boys who were a couple of years above me in school. It only happened once and although I knew it was wrong, I didn't realise the extent to which it would cause me damage in later life. I was a bit flattered at first, because I was a pretty ugly 11 year old (I'd just started secondary school and hadn't yet discovered make-up, tweezers, hair straighteners etc.) and so although I felt uncomfortable with it, I let these two guys feel me all over because I thought it meant they thought I was attractive. I wouldn't let them touch me 'down there' because it scared me, even though they were persistent and tried holding me down; then they decided to take their trousers off and show me what was underneath, and I can vividly remember feeling sick and horrified. I think I tried to run away after that; I've blocked it from my memory. I was just a little naive girl, and I had no idea what was happening.
    The next few years of my life are a bit of a blur. I got drunk at every opportunity I had, I got with every guy that was willing, I got high, I failed school, I was self-harming and I was extremely depressed. At the time, everyone assumed it was because I was just a hormonal teenager who had 'gone off the rails' and needed some help. I thought the same. Looking back, I've come to the conclusion that my incident at 11 actually caused this behaviour. I was definitely horny from a young age, but it was really because I'd been led to believe that if a guy touched you, it was because he liked you, or thought you were attractive. I was desperate to feel good about myself, and to feel as though guys did find me attractive; getting with boys consoled me to an extent, though in the long-run it made me feel like absolute crap because I think I knew, deep down, that it wasn't me as a person that they were interested in- it was my body.

    I'm now 17, I'm in my last year of sixth-form and I'm going to university. I've sorted myself out and I've now got a wonderful boyfriend who looks after me. When I first told him about my past, he was absolutely disgusted and couldn't believe someone as innocent looking as me (his words) could have done those things. However, I told him what had happened when I was 11 and he now understands and says he just wants to protect me from my past. One of the guys who abused me has apologised and I've moved on, away from that phase I matured a lot and realised that alcohol, men and drugs weren't the answers I needed.

    However, I would suggest you see a therapist if it's really affecting you. Whether or not the abuse has damaged you, it's obviously left its mark and I think you need to get this excessive sexual feeling out of you. I also understand completely :erm:

    I hope you get it sorted out! x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is really interesting. When I was 11, I was abused by two boys who were a couple of years above me in school. It only happened once and although I knew it was wrong, I didn't realise the extent to which it would cause me damage in later life. I was a bit flattered at first, because I was a pretty ugly 11 year old (I'd just started secondary school and hadn't yet discovered make-up, tweezers, hair straighteners etc.) and so although I felt uncomfortable with it, I let these two guys feel me all over because I thought it meant they thought I was attractive. I wouldn't let them touch me 'down there' because it scared me, even though they were persistent and tried holding me down; then they decided to take their trousers off and show me what was underneath, and I can vividly remember feeling sick and horrified. I think I tried to run away after that; I've blocked it from my memory. I was just a little naive girl, and I had no idea what was happening.
    The next few years of my life are a bit of a blur. I got drunk at every opportunity I had, I got with every guy that was willing, I got high, I failed school, I was self-harming and I was extremely depressed. At the time, everyone assumed it was because I was just a hormonal teenager who had 'gone off the rails' and needed some help. I thought the same. Looking back, I've come to the conclusion that my incident at 11 actually caused this behaviour. I was definitely horny from a young age, but it was really because I'd been led to believe that if a guy touched you, it was because he liked you, or thought you were attractive. I was desperate to feel good about myself, and to feel as though guys did find me attractive; getting with boys consoled me to an extent, though in the long-run it made me feel like absolute crap because I think I knew, deep down, that it wasn't me as a person that they were interested in- it was my body.

    I'm now 17, I'm in my last year of sixth-form and I'm going to university. I've sorted myself out and I've now got a wonderful boyfriend who looks after me. When I first told him about my past, he was absolutely disgusted and couldn't believe someone as innocent looking as me (his words) could have done those things. However, I told him what had happened when I was 11 and he now understands and says he just wants to protect me from my past. One of the guys who abused me has apologised and I've moved on, away from that phase I matured a lot and realised that alcohol, men and drugs weren't the answers I needed.

    However, I would suggest you see a therapist if it's really affecting you. Whether or not the abuse has damaged you, it's obviously left its mark and I think you need to get this excessive sexual feeling out of you. I also understand completely :erm:

    I hope you get it sorted out! x
    I guess this will help our Anonymous friend. SHOULD HELP !!
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    When you say you were abused but don't like to think about it like that I'd really like you to elaborate on that. You're anonymous anyway.
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    Im one horny ******* as well and love some of the more dirty things. jack off to some weird porn sometimes to. But i was never touched by Pedo Kennedy when i was young
 
 
 
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