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2 weeks ago i posted "cant stand my dad 
..."
my mum is now back and things have gone terribly (she went on holidays by herself)
my brother has just been disowned and i sense a divorce is just a few days away.
tonight my dad was about the punch me in the face and attack me because he thought i was lying to my mum about him. he was about to explode on me but i somehow managed to shout at him and invent something ("there has been a misunderstanding"). he wanted to beat my mum and had i not been there things would have been nasty.
i dont kno what to do. i am gona call childline soon.
he didnt touch me, but i have seen him touch my brother and i know he was about to do the same to me tonight.
my mum says that i shouldnt worry, but when my family is crumbling apart and i am right in the middle of it its difficult not to feel upset.
altho nothing has "happened", i am scared for my safety and for my mum's safety. i dont know where we can go. honestly i feel as if i will be attacked tonight (my dad is out right now).
maybe this post seems a bit vague but i am just so confused
..."my mum is now back and things have gone terribly (she went on holidays by herself)
my brother has just been disowned and i sense a divorce is just a few days away.
tonight my dad was about the punch me in the face and attack me because he thought i was lying to my mum about him. he was about to explode on me but i somehow managed to shout at him and invent something ("there has been a misunderstanding"). he wanted to beat my mum and had i not been there things would have been nasty.
i dont kno what to do. i am gona call childline soon.
he didnt touch me, but i have seen him touch my brother and i know he was about to do the same to me tonight.
my mum says that i shouldnt worry, but when my family is crumbling apart and i am right in the middle of it its difficult not to feel upset.
altho nothing has "happened", i am scared for my safety and for my mum's safety. i dont know where we can go. honestly i feel as if i will be attacked tonight (my dad is out right now).
maybe this post seems a bit vague but i am just so confused
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is there nowhere you could go? i really think maybe you should all try and go somewhere else, maybe to a friend's house or something? even to a nearby church or sports centre maybe? it would give your dad a little bit of time to cool down.. i think if it gets to the point where your dad hurts any of you, get away as soon as possible, and call the police, because even the people who regret doing this will do it again, you need to distance yourself from him before things get more serious, really i hope that helps..
i hope that helps..
my advice would be get yourself, your mum and your brother OUT of that house NOW. go to a relative or mayeb one of you mums friends. anywhere. a local hotel. please just go somewhere if you think he may be violent. i'm tempted to say call the police too. i hope ur ok x
You really need some help ... if you are that scared and frightened about your dad then you have to tell someone - NO-ONE should put up with domestic violence, not you, not your mum, not your brother.
There are places you can go if anything happens tonight - call Childline, look in the yellow pages for domestic violence support services ... If you don't want to go that far, do you have any family you could go to, like grandparents or aunts? I know that these situations can be difficult, but your safety has to come first - even if nothing happens you shouldn't have to live in a state of fear.
There are places you can go if anything happens tonight - call Childline, look in the yellow pages for domestic violence support services ... If you don't want to go that far, do you have any family you could go to, like grandparents or aunts? I know that these situations can be difficult, but your safety has to come first - even if nothing happens you shouldn't have to live in a state of fear.
Get out of the house with your brother and mum. Go to a friends house or relative, maybe one which your dad has no contact details for so he cant come and find you. Take some time to chill out and think about what you will do. The friend/ Relative should be able to comfort you. 
hope this helped.... take care
hope this helped.... take care 
sigh. i will talk to my mum in soon
the thing is my dad has disconnected us from everybody. we have barely any family here and my mum doesnt have many friends because for years my dad has prevented her from going out/geting a job. she also felt ashamed of inviting ppl cos my house used to be a dump.
i really wish he were gone ...
i am on my gap year at the moment, and i knew that if i were to stay i would have to face this. i think my mum didnt like the idea of a gap year in the first place cos she didnt want me to go thru this. now however i am earning money for my gap year projects/uni and i hope this situation will not ruin them.
as i said, my brother (another issue) has just been disowned and i cannot think clearly
the thing is my dad has disconnected us from everybody. we have barely any family here and my mum doesnt have many friends because for years my dad has prevented her from going out/geting a job. she also felt ashamed of inviting ppl cos my house used to be a dump.
i really wish he were gone ...
i am on my gap year at the moment, and i knew that if i were to stay i would have to face this. i think my mum didnt like the idea of a gap year in the first place cos she didnt want me to go thru this. now however i am earning money for my gap year projects/uni and i hope this situation will not ruin them.
as i said, my brother (another issue) has just been disowned and i cannot think clearly
iwait4u
sigh. i will talk to my mum in soon
the thing is my dad has disconnected us from everybody. we have barely any family here and my mum doesnt have many friends because for years my dad has prevented her from going out/geting a job. she also felt ashamed of inviting ppl cos my house used to be a dump.
the thing is my dad has disconnected us from everybody. we have barely any family here and my mum doesnt have many friends because for years my dad has prevented her from going out/geting a job. she also felt ashamed of inviting ppl cos my house used to be a dump.
iwait4u
sigh. i will talk to my mum in soon
the thing is my dad has disconnected us from everybody. we have barely any family here and my mum doesnt have many friends because for years my dad has prevented her from going out/geting a job. she also felt ashamed of inviting ppl cos my house used to be a dump.
i really wish he were gone ...
i am on my gap year at the moment, and i knew that if i were to stay i would have to face this. i think my mum didnt like the idea of a gap year in the first place cos she didnt want me to go thru this. now however i am earning money for my gap year projects/uni and i hope this situation will not ruin them.
as i said, my brother (another issue) has just been disowned and i cannot think clearly
the thing is my dad has disconnected us from everybody. we have barely any family here and my mum doesnt have many friends because for years my dad has prevented her from going out/geting a job. she also felt ashamed of inviting ppl cos my house used to be a dump.
i really wish he were gone ...
i am on my gap year at the moment, and i knew that if i were to stay i would have to face this. i think my mum didnt like the idea of a gap year in the first place cos she didnt want me to go thru this. now however i am earning money for my gap year projects/uni and i hope this situation will not ruin them.
as i said, my brother (another issue) has just been disowned and i cannot think clearly
seriously, you need to get yourself out of there. it doesn't matter where you go but all 3 of you should go. and yeah, i think that if you sense any change in his attitude/think he is going to hurt you, call the police immediately. if you have nowhere to go, there are refuges you can go to. i know this sounds wierd, but perhaps stay in a hotel for a few nights? you can't stay in there if you are in fear that your dad may turn violent. honestly, you need to get yourself out. i'm sorry i can't say much else, take care of yourself. x
You could go to the police station and they will help you, tell you who to contact and where you could stay for a while. If you get away from him and the house for a while you might be able to think clearer.
Hurry up and pack belongings in suitcase and take all your cash with you and also bring a baseball ball with you, call a cab and go somewhere safe etc. friends, relatives, police station and try not to go to somewhere obvious where your father might find you, i would definetly go to a police station and call in a domestic violence officer and remember the baseball bat (comes in handy to defend against anybody, only protect yourself and dont hurt anybody unless being provoked. Good luck and god speed. I wish i could do something else then give you advice. Make Haste
my mum told me that that i shouldnt feel upset ... but then why did she hide the kitchen knives?
has someone been through this before?
im pretty sure that there are places to go/ppl who can help. i noticed that my mum is clueless about these and has kept it all inside for ages... she believes that the only way would be if she left ... as if she were the bad one ...
does anybody know, from past experience what could be done. my mum is not in the wrong.
lets the divorce came along, then what could she/us do to support ourselves?
curently is only me who still lives at home. i feel kinda bad cos i know that my mum will need to support herself. i will soon be starting a job where i will actually be earning more than her (money for my gap year/uni) and think that maybe this money could be handy for other reasons now.
ugg why is my life so messed up? i am physically exausted (from work) and emotionally drained
thx
has someone been through this before?
im pretty sure that there are places to go/ppl who can help. i noticed that my mum is clueless about these and has kept it all inside for ages... she believes that the only way would be if she left ... as if she were the bad one ...
does anybody know, from past experience what could be done. my mum is not in the wrong.
lets the divorce came along, then what could she/us do to support ourselves?
curently is only me who still lives at home. i feel kinda bad cos i know that my mum will need to support herself. i will soon be starting a job where i will actually be earning more than her (money for my gap year/uni) and think that maybe this money could be handy for other reasons now.
ugg why is my life so messed up? i am physically exausted (from work) and emotionally drained
thx
iwait4u
2 weeks ago i posted "cant stand my dad ..."
my mum is now back and things have gone terribly (she went on holidays by herself)
my brother has just been disowned and i sense a divorce is just a few days away.
tonight my dad was about the punch me in the face and attack me because he thought i was lying to my mum about him. he was about to explode on me but i somehow managed to shout at him and invent something ("there has been a misunderstanding"). he wanted to beat my mum and had i not been there things would have been nasty.
i dont kno what to do. i am gona call childline soon.
he didnt touch me, but i have seen him touch my brother and i know he was about to do the same to me tonight.
my mum says that i shouldnt worry, but when my family is crumbling apart and i am right in the middle of it its difficult not to feel upset.
altho nothing has "happened", i am scared for my safety and for my mum's safety. i dont know where we can go. honestly i feel as if i will be attacked tonight (my dad is out right now).
maybe this post seems a bit vague but i am just so confused
..."my mum is now back and things have gone terribly (she went on holidays by herself)
my brother has just been disowned and i sense a divorce is just a few days away.
tonight my dad was about the punch me in the face and attack me because he thought i was lying to my mum about him. he was about to explode on me but i somehow managed to shout at him and invent something ("there has been a misunderstanding"). he wanted to beat my mum and had i not been there things would have been nasty.
i dont kno what to do. i am gona call childline soon.
he didnt touch me, but i have seen him touch my brother and i know he was about to do the same to me tonight.
my mum says that i shouldnt worry, but when my family is crumbling apart and i am right in the middle of it its difficult not to feel upset.
altho nothing has "happened", i am scared for my safety and for my mum's safety. i dont know where we can go. honestly i feel as if i will be attacked tonight (my dad is out right now).
maybe this post seems a bit vague but i am just so confused
Childline
Police
has to be one of them 2 its one of these situations where you got no other choices.
I'd prob go for childline first, but if something does happen: straight to the police!
xXMessedUpXx
my advice would be get yourself, your mum and your brother OUT of that house NOW. go to a relative or mayeb one of you mums friends. anywhere. a local hotel. please just go somewhere if you think he may be violent. i'm tempted to say call the police too. i hope ur ok x
That sounds like a good idea to me. Dont worry about the divorce, that's nothing, just make sure you're ok tonight.
iwait4u
my mum told me that that i shouldnt feel upset ... but then why did she hide the kitchen knives?
Still, getting as far away as you can from your dad would be the way to go. The last thing you want to do is hang around a person with violent tendencies who apparently has a short fuse, which would seem to describe your dad.
Is your Dad a violent man? Has he punched anyone, any family recently?
It's easy to jump to conclusions and assume that everything corresponds to the typical stereotype of the woman-beater. Having seen my parents go through a divorce and some nasty times, I'd say there's always two sides to the story.
You definitely seem to take your Mum's side and your Dad seems to be isolated. You don't get anywhere my taking sides. That's not how one sorts out issues, especially not issues like this. Try to understand both of their grievances instead of jumping to the typical conclusion that your Dad is a violent nasty man. You don't need to know everything (I think that in such cases, if you really knew the whole story, you wouldn't like what you hear), just try to let them express their grievances. I must admit that's a lot easier when you have a good relationship with your parents but it's essential.
If you're scared that your Dad is becoming violent, tell him he's scaring you and that you've got the impression he's going to hurt someone. He needs to realise how he's behaving. If you just leave him in his violent state, he'll stay there.
Just running anyway is not going to sort out anything. Of course, once your Dad starts breaking things and hurting people, then you have to resort to other solutions.
It's easy to jump to conclusions and assume that everything corresponds to the typical stereotype of the woman-beater. Having seen my parents go through a divorce and some nasty times, I'd say there's always two sides to the story.
You definitely seem to take your Mum's side and your Dad seems to be isolated. You don't get anywhere my taking sides. That's not how one sorts out issues, especially not issues like this. Try to understand both of their grievances instead of jumping to the typical conclusion that your Dad is a violent nasty man. You don't need to know everything (I think that in such cases, if you really knew the whole story, you wouldn't like what you hear), just try to let them express their grievances. I must admit that's a lot easier when you have a good relationship with your parents but it's essential.
If you're scared that your Dad is becoming violent, tell him he's scaring you and that you've got the impression he's going to hurt someone. He needs to realise how he's behaving. If you just leave him in his violent state, he'll stay there.
Just running anyway is not going to sort out anything. Of course, once your Dad starts breaking things and hurting people, then you have to resort to other solutions.
He isn't going to suddenly stop, it wqill only get worse. Get out now.
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