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    what is it exactly that gets us chucked into the dreaded friend-zone?
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    Generally, it's a lack of chemistry or sex appeal.

    Sometimes it's a physical thing - not finding the guy attractive in that kind of way.

    Other times it's just a case of a guy being lovely, but not exciting enough or just a bit 'boring' or not having enough in common for there to be a 'spark'.
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    - never taking things seriously
    - having nothing mysterious about you/ being able to read you like a book
    - many girls as friends - because you seem like your not exacly a prize
    - Overly friendly?

    Idk really just a quick brainstorm...hope this helps! :L
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    No spark.
    However, you can move out of the friend zone. I had no spark with a guy for years, then somehow we got a spark!
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    Not:

    good looking
    cheeky
    confident
    flirty
    funny
    exciting
    affluent

    enough.

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    It depends on the BMI of your wallet.
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    Lack of chemistry or sex appeal or being too nice or being too ugly.
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    Damn me and my niceness then!
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    Pretty much what the other guys have said - no spark.
    You can be funny, good-looking, interesting, sweet, caring and so on... but if there's no chemistry, it's going nowhere.
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    is chemistry one of those things that just happens and you cant really define? or is there something specific?
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    I think the friend zone is a myth. People start dating their friends all the time, its not really a barrier. I guess it means you either aren't brave enough to make a move on her or its clear she isn't attracted to you.
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    (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
    Other times it's just a case of a guy being lovely, but not exciting enough or just a bit 'boring' or not having enough in common for there to be a 'spark'.

    LOL!

    I advise you to avoid doing this at your peril.

    Some guys who were considered 'boring' turned out to be great Bfs and great lovers. Dont rule a guy out completely or else he will figure you out to be quite shallow.
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    (Original post by HARRY PUTAH)
    LOL!

    I advise you to avoid doing this at your peril.

    Some guys who were considered 'boring' turned out to be great Bfs and great lovers. Dont rule a guy out completely or else he will figure you out to be quite shallow.
    It's not like it's a concious decision a girl will make. It just turns out that way. You can't force attraction. Someone may sound perfect for you in terms of their personal attributes if written on paper, but that doesn't guarantee good chemistry.

    Sure, give a guy a chance, but some of us ladies are pretty perceptive in what we want from a relationship. Some guys just don't cut the mustard, sadly.
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    (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
    It's not like it's a concious decision a girl will make. It just turns out that way. You can't force attraction. Someone may sound perfect for you in terms of their personal attributes if written on paper, but that doesn't guarantee good chemistry.
    Yes you're right but attraction can develop, even if there was none there before because lets be honest here, women are fickle and change their minds all the time.

    Sure, give a guy a chance, but some of us ladies are pretty perceptive in what we want from a relationship. Some guys just don't cut the mustard, sadly.
    Women do not perceive anything, they demand and make judgements quicker than any man ever could unless he is Stephen hawkings. Why do you think men are absolutely clueless most of the time about whether or not he is friend-zoned by a girl he has barely been in contact with?

    That then leads to other things such as the a-hole magnet women seem to have and a myriad of other stuff I cannot begin to fathom in one post.
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    (Original post by HARRY PUTAH)
    Yes you're right but attraction can develop, even if there was none there before because lets be honest here, women are fickle and change their minds all the time.



    Women do not perceive anything, they demand and make judgements quicker than any man ever could unless he is Stephen hawkings. Why do you think men are absolutely clueless most of the time about whether or not he is friend-zoned by a girl he has barely been in contact with?

    That then leads to other things such as the a-hole magnet women seem to have and a myriad of other stuff I cannot begin to fathom in one post.
    You say women, but what do you mean by women? Do you mean females aged 17-20 or actual women in their twenties?
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    (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
    You say women, but what do you mean by women? Do you mean females aged 17-20 or actual women in their twenties?
    Well, I have experience of older women and they are generally less stuck-up about men unless they've had a terrible love life but generally those sorts of women haven't learned a valuable lesson in life such as missing out on THAT guy who they overlooked.

    Ask around and see how many women over 30 say they missed a great opportunity with a guy but missed it due to their 'overlooking' tendencies as a young woman.
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    (Original post by DarkSenrine)
    It depends on the BMI of your wallet.
    that and the BMI of your body divided by how lookable-at your face is.

    Oh, and what her friends will think:rolleyes:
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    (Original post by ithoughtofthis)
    that and the BMI of your body divided by how lookable-at your face is.

    Oh, and what her friends will think:rolleyes:
    Haha!
    Good joke!
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    maybe you should kill them.
    if you kill them. no friend zone.
    no zone

    just questionable sexual acts =]
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    (Original post by Charm&Witt_93)
    - never taking things seriously
    - having nothing mysterious about you/ being able to read you like a book
    - many girls as friends - because you seem like your not exacly a prize
    - Overly friendly?

    Idk really just a quick brainstorm...hope this helps! :L

    Damn

    hmm....50/50

    DAMN

    GOD DAMN IT!



    However never fear OP, you can move out of the friend-zone, especially if the friend has actually liked you pretty much from the get go.
 
 
 
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