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    I'm male, 19, never had a girlfriend.

    No use for instant messaging, no use for a mobile phone. I have like two close friends and I'm sick of seeing them ALL the time.

    In my first year of uni and I regretfully didn't live in halls. I NEED TO HAVE HUMAN CONTACT... is it going to be impossible to have a nice social life just because I've never had one before? I want what everyone else has... big groups of friends that they're constantly happy with... and a girlfriend.

    Seeing as I have minimum social skills is it even going to be possible to even have all of that?
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    Same...
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    By just getting out there and meeting people.
    There's no way you can just get friends without taking the intuitive.
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    just go out and meet some people it sounds like you have underlying emotional issues though try seeing your doctor maybe they can treat you for your possible anxiety and depression. You say you only have 2 good friends, well try to be more sociable go out etc find some people with the same hobbies as you
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    feel the same tbh. im at uni, but feel like im just wasting my youth not having many friends. I wish i had a big group of friends, always texting/calling me with plans and fun stuff. Hmmph.
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    (Original post by ChaoticSkills)
    just go out and meet lonely people it sounds like you have underlying emotional issues though try seeing your doctor maybe they can treat you for your possible anxiety and depression. You say you only have 2 good friends, well try to be more sociable go out etc find some people with the same hobbies as you
    What? :curious:
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    I'm not at university, but I do know exactly what you mean. I have always had social issues. I find it easy to make friends as I am approachable and kind, but I find it hard to keep friends (as in, after a while I realise qualities in most people that I can't accept - such as finding animal cruelty funny, or bullying)

    Sadly such things are just a part of life, and I find the easiest way to be happy is to find contentment within yourself. Be your own friend. Just explore, learn to love and appreciate yourself, and others will probably learn to appreciate you too
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    If you're at uni try joining some societies.
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    Put an effort to mix with new social circles, maybe join clubs/societies...just getting out more! Even something like going to the gym, you get to talking to people and before you know it...friends


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    (Original post by lonely14)
    What? :curious:
    Im speculating that perhaps the op has an underlying emotional issue which is preventing him from socialising. Come to think of it I didn't even read his post properly which made me reach such a hasty conclusion lol.
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    Just get out there and make it happen! No use telling a bunch of strangers on the internet about it, when you should be out there making friends.
    And don't worry about the girlfriend, it will happen first be happy and confident in yourself and a girl will come when you least expect it.
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    It's not hard to make friends. My socials skills suck, but I'm pretty happy with my social situation atm. Just don't lock yourself away in your free time, and try to start a conversation once in a while.
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    Join some societies at university, and just get out there and meet people! Friends don't come to you, you have to put the effort in. University is a great place to get new friends. If you don't want to go alone, try going to a social event with one of your friends and then let them help you network a little. As I said, societies are also a great way of meeting likeminded people, if you don't find anything you've tried before that you're interested in, just try something new.

    (Original post by ChaoticSkills;29067854[B)
    ]just go out and meet some people it sounds like you have underlying emotional issues though try seeing your doctor maybe they can treat you for your possible anxiety and depression. [/B]You say you only have 2 good friends, well try to be more sociable go out etc find some people with the same hobbies as you
    How the hell did you reach that conclusion from the first post? I mean sure, it's entirely possible but there's no way you can diagnose that over the internet from about two sentences COMPLETELY unrelated. Shyness isn't always caused by depression/anxiety.
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    Get out and meet people, join clubs, societies and anything you are interested in.
    Go out with your two friends.

    If you just sit at home you will never meet anybody.
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    On another note, I'm getting pissed tonight with all my mates. God bless - :suith:

    You're missing out OP, you just need to be more of a laugh and outgoing. Get out of the victim mentality, I've seen it so many times on TSR.
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    (Original post by lovely_me)
    On another note, I'm getting pissed tonight with all my mates. God bless - :suith:

    You're missing out OP, you just need to be more of a laugh and outgoing. Get out of the victim mentality, I've seen it so many times on TSR.
    Its worth remembering though that you dont have to go out and get pissed to have friends and such...
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    (Original post by Witchita)
    Its worth remembering though that you dont have to go out and get pissed to have friends and such...
    Erm...yes.
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    yeah you can stay in and get pissed too
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    You don't sound like you're trying that hard tbh. You don't get friends by magic, you need to get out and meet people and make sure you stay in contact.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm male, 19, never had a girlfriend.

    No use for instant messaging, no use for a mobile phone. I have like two close friends and I'm sick of seeing them ALL the time.

    In my first year of uni and I regretfully didn't live in halls. I NEED TO HAVE HUMAN CONTACT... is it going to be impossible to have a nice social life just because I've never had one before? I want what everyone else has... big groups of friends that they're constantly happy with... and a girlfriend.

    Seeing as I have minimum social skills is it even going to be possible to even have all of that?
    :sexface: Human contact? Ask for that in the Soho to any woman. A girlfriend? Open yourself.:cool:
 
 
 
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