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    I really need to let this out, and have no one else to turn to. V. recently I found out my parents are homophobic and won't allow me to have a relationship/talk to my gf. She's now my ex-gf simply because we can't be together as my parents have insulted her and actually hit her :indiff: In a rant dad also threatened to kill her.

    My dillema: do I move in with my gf and risk violence from my parents; not affording uni, ending up nowhere

    or do I take the awful family atmosphere at home, and have to hide talking to my ex/gf, and act like someone i'm not, for the sake of security of home and finance?

    I'm desperate seriously.
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    Your dad hit your girlfriend?!

    Do him for assault
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    (Original post by Firaila)
    Your dad hit your girlfriend?!

    Do him for assault
    This!
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    I really need to let this out, and have no one else to turn to. V. recently I found out my parents are homophobic and won't allow me to have a relationship/talk to my gf. She's now my ex-gf simply because we can't be together as my parents have insulted her and actually hit her :indiff: In a rant dad also threatened to kill her.

    My dillema: do I move in with my gf and risk violence from my parents; not affording uni, ending up nowhere

    or do I take the awful family atmosphere at home, and have to hide talking to my ex/gf, and act like someone i'm not, for the sake of security of home and finance?

    I'm desperate seriously.
    To be honest, I would take the 2nd option till you are secure. That is only if there is a very little chance of them finding out about your girlfriend.

    Seriously, in the long run it will place more strain on your relationship if you are unable to get a job or a decent paying job if you have do not have the correct qualifications.

    Just make sure you do well at Uni.



    By the way, doing your Dad/Mum for assault won't do much apart from satisfy any desire for revenge. Nothing serious will happen. The police don't seem to take assault seriously, unless you end up in Hospital with a fractured skull most of the time.

    It will make your situation worse.
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    (Original post by DorianGrayism)
    To be honest, I would take the 2nd option till you are secure. That is only if there is a very little chance of them finding out about your girlfriend.

    Seriously, in the long run it will place more strain on your relationship if you are unable to get a job or a decent paying job if you have do not have the correct qualifications.

    Just make sure you do well at Uni.



    By the way, doing your Dad/Mum for assault won't do much apart from satisfy any desire for revenge. Nothing serious will happen. The police don't seem to take assault seriously, unless you end up in Hospital with a fractured skull most of the time.

    It will make your situation worse.
    thanks, that makes sense. I'm not gonna report assault, it's pointless. Sometimes I feel a big urge to just leave...
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    thanks, that makes sense. I'm not gonna report assault, it's pointless. Sometimes I feel a big urge to just leave...
    You can leave. I wouldn't say it was an insane thing to do.

    There are charities out there, that look out for young people like you.



    If you can, just make sure you can go to Uni and get a decent job. You can then do whatever you want.

    However, Uni is a very a long time. Obviously don't put your own well being at stake over that.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    thanks, that makes sense. I'm not gonna report assault, it's pointless. Sometimes I feel a big urge to just leave...
    Don't report the assault, but you can always use it as a thread against your parents if you need to.
 
 
 
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