Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free

friction at work - medics please help Watch

    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    i've posted it here because i want to remain anonymous, but in particular, i'd like help from any doctors.

    i've just started working as an F1, and have had some problems with my f2. i started my rotation in the beginning of dec. he seemed really nice at first, but i knew to be wary of him because my best friend was his f1 during the previous rotation. when there was an undesirable job, he would let it be known it was undesirable and say immediately it is in an f1 job. he also makes 'jokey' comments about how rubbish i am at my job. now if it was true, i'd like to know about it, but when i question him later, he says he's only joking. problem is he makes these comments in front of all the multi-disciplinary team and medical students. then in the next breath he says oh i'm your SHO but i'm so nice to you.

    i think i look like a naive impressionable girl who is easy to boss about so i try to stand my ground. i've had a talk after work with him about how i don't like it, and he says he doesn't mean to upset me.

    however it came to a head last week when he said something i wrote was wrong, so i corrected him. then he brought up something else that he already told me was wrong the day before and i accepted it was wrong. this lead to a huge argument and he said we would only be strictly professional from then on. we didn't talk about it later, and he was super nice to me.

    the next day we had another argument. he is really patronising to patients and takes their food and teases them. i half joked he shouldn't do that. then he went crazy and shouted at me about how i was being unprofessional - in front of the patient. It was so unexpected I actually thought he was joking. At this point the registrar walked in and asked what was wrong, but my f2 just dismissed it and was really nice to me for the rest of the day.

    i really want to sweep it under the carpet and forget about it. i don't want to get him into trouble, but i don't want to get into trouble myself if he makes a complaint against me...my friends said i should tell my educational supervisor. he is on holiday for 3 weeks and is consultant for both of us. my registrar is a locum. i don't want to make a big deal out of it! any advice? (thanks if you read it all!!!)
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    'however it came to a head last week when he said something i wrote was wrong, so i corrected him.'

    sorry that should read - 'he said something i wrote was wrong, but i was actually right and proved it to him.'
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i've posted it here because i want to remain anonymous, but in particular, i'd like help from any doctors.

    i've just started working as an F1, and have had some problems with my f2. i started my rotation in the beginning of dec. he seemed really nice at first, but i knew to be wary of him because my best friend was his f1 during the previous rotation. when there was an undesirable job, he would let it be known it was undesirable and say immediately it is in an f1 job. he also makes 'jokey' comments about how rubbish i am at my job. now if it was true, i'd like to know about it, but when i question him later, he says he's only joking. problem is he makes these comments in front of all the multi-disciplinary team and medical students. then in the next breath he says oh i'm your SHO but i'm so nice to you.

    i think i look like a naive impressionable girl who is easy to boss about so i try to stand my ground. i've had a talk after work with him about how i don't like it, and he says he doesn't mean to upset me.

    however it came to a head last week when he said something i wrote was wrong, so i corrected him. then he brought up something else that he already told me was wrong the day before and i accepted it was wrong. this lead to a huge argument and he said we would only be strictly professional from then on. we didn't talk about it later, and he was super nice to me.

    the next day we had another argument. he is really patronising to patients and takes their food and teases them. i half joked he shouldn't do that. then he went crazy and shouted at me about how i was being unprofessional - in front of the patient. It was so unexpected I actually thought he was joking. At this point the registrar walked in and asked what was wrong, but my f2 just dismissed it and was really nice to me for the rest of the day.

    i really want to sweep it under the carpet and forget about it. i don't want to get him into trouble, but i don't want to get into trouble myself if he makes a complaint against me...my friends said i should tell my educational supervisor. he is on holiday for 3 weeks and is consultant for both of us. my registrar is a locum. i don't want to make a big deal out of it! any advice? (thanks if you read it all!!!)
    Well it seems you have already tried to negotiate with him and that has failed. You essentially have two options that I can see:

    (1) put up with it; or
    (2) report him

    Personally I would report him. You have tried sorting it out with him yourself and that has failed. If he gets in to trouble, well that's his fault for being un-professional in the first place. If you don't report him, this behaviour will go unchecked and the next person will suffer from it and the next and on and on until someone does report him.

    The key reason why I would report him is because you said he has been teasing patients and messing with their food. 'Evil prevails when good men do nothing.'
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: December 28, 2010
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • Poll
    Will you be richer or poorer than your parents?
  • See more of what you like on The Student Room

    You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

  • The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

    Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

    Quick reply
    Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.