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    I feel ready for sex but the thought of being so intimate with somebody whilst being naked is daunting. A lot of my friends are having sex and are thin and confident.
    I'm not fat, I'm tall and most of my weight is spread evenly over my body (i'm size 12) but I have wobbly bits and my stomach isn't entirely flat. Do guys really care about stuff like that? or am I being paranoid? I find it hard to commit to people I like because as soon as I become close to someone and the prospect of sex is likely, I shy away even though I want to.
    I'm embarrassed to discuss this with guys who I like because I'm worried they'll be turned off of me.
    any advice would be useful. thanks
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    Opinions will differ but I'd say you're being too paranoid, they really won't care, size 12 is hardly big.
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    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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    Nah your fine.
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    (Original post by wangelo)
    Beauty is in the eye of the beer-holder.
    Fixed it for you

    OT: Your feelings sound completely natural. It's ok to feel shy at first, talk to the guy if you're worried. Failing that, find a dominating guy who won't take no for an answer lol! (but not a rapist...)
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    If a guy is interested in you, they don't really care about the body. Personally I hate having sex with really skinny people, especially since I'm quite thin, it's not really that great. My girlfriend is a size 10 and I think she's absolutely perfectly shaped. She's not fat and neither are you, just get down on it and the LAST thing he'll be thinking of "there's a bit of chub here and there."

    Make that guy will only be thinking "HOLY **** THIS IS AMAZING."
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    i'm witholding sex because i'm insecure bout my body too... annoying 'cause i feel i'm ready otherwise. Just too uncomfortable with myself though
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    size 12 aint fat . even if you were fat the guy aint probably gonna see you fully naked in reality anyway. real sex isnt like a porno flick where they play with her ass for 10 mins and make her crawl on her knees to get all the best shots lol. he probs wont see your full body naked so chillax
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    Well you don't necessarily have to be naked, or even mainly naked. Just go with it like that 'till you feel confident.
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    guys really won't care. most of them aren't picky when it comes to sex.
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    It depends who you're with. You'll begin to feel more comfortable with yourself the more sex you have, but tbh some people will inevitably say they don't like 'wobbly bits' etc.
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    If any guy really cares about something like that they're totally gay.


    You don't wanna **** a ****** do you? ;ooooo
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I feel ready for sex but the thought of being so intimate with somebody whilst being naked is daunting. A lot of my friends are having sex and are thin and confident.
    I'm not fat, I'm tall and most of my weight is spread evenly over my body (i'm size 12) but I have wobbly bits and my stomach isn't entirely flat. Do guys really care about stuff like that? or am I being paranoid? I find it hard to commit to people I like because as soon as I become close to someone and the prospect of sex is likely, I shy away even though I want to.
    I'm embarrassed to discuss this with guys who I like because I'm worried they'll be turned off of me.
    any advice would be useful. thanks
    You've nothing to worry about, really.
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    well it burns caloriess...
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    most of these posts were really sweet and I feel slightly better about myself now thank you
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    I'm sure the guy won't mind. Just start getting naked and see where it takes you. :jiggy:
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    (Original post by fksie)
    most of these posts were really sweet and I feel slightly better about myself now thank you
    Anon fail... lol. But good for you x
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    He won't mind, if anything you can discuss it with him and I'm sure he'll have worries of his own that he might want to share.

    All the best.
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    You're being a bit paranoid. Most guys won't care about stuff like that, really. No need to worry.
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    This reminded me of this scene from The Edge of Reason....

    Mark Darcy: [Bridget gets out of bed covered in a sheet and begins to fumble around] What on Earth are you doing?
    Bridget Jones: Getting dressed.
    Mark Darcy: Why're you dancing around in that tent business?
    Bridget Jones: Because I don't want you to see any of my wobbly bits.
    Mark Darcy: Well now that's a bit pointless, isn't it? As I happen to have a very high regard for your wobbly bits. In all circumstances.
    Bridget Jones: [Bridget's head emerges from the sheet] Really?
    Mark Darcy: Absolutely. I think it's high time we had another look.
    [Bridget drops the sheet on the floor]




    Men like some wobbly bits!

    At size 12 you have nothing to worry about
 
 
 
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