What should i do?

Im not sure why im posting this.. been debating about whether do it for a while but here goes.

In my first week of uni i met a really great guy. We get on really well, spend a lot of time together and talk about all sorts of wierd and wonderful stuff. The only thing thats the problem is his "ex" girlfriend... he was with her for a long time (3 years) and they only split up because they were both goin to uni. He says he loves her but isnt "in" love with her. hes been to see her 2 already, and shes visited him once and when there together they act like any normal couple. he sleeps with her still and it makes me feel really wierd. i know i cant compete with her.. shes known him years and ive known him a matter of weeks (5 to be accurate). i havnt sleept with him yet although hes stayed at mine a few times... i think its because i cant get my head round him ex - and if im honest its because im jealous.
all his mates say he thinks im "amazing" and people consider us to be a couple although our relationship is more of an "open" one. i know we will always be friends... even when this sizzles out, so im just after your advice as to what to do in the mean time.

o and my friends here tell me to forget about him and to give up on him -- i dont listen to them with that bit of advice so please no one tell me to just forget about him and find someone else! anyother advice is greatll accepted thou.

Reply 1

viviki

Tell him that if he wants to get with you he shouldn't still be doing his ex

Reply 2

xemilyx

i think u should tell him how you feel.

Reply 3

Love_Hearts

i think u should tell him how you feel.

except im not 100% sure what that is, plus i dont want to scare him off by going all deep on him!

Reply 4

naelse

he's clearly not over her yet and doesn't seem to want to be. If I were you I would keep your distance- he can't think that something serious if happening between you if he still is sleeping with his ex. By the sounds of it you do, and by continuing with this arrangement you're just setting yourself up for heartache. Don't just disappear with no explanation though. Talk to him and let him know how this is making you feel. It's not on that he thinks he can do this.

Reply 5

xemilyx

Love_Hearts

except im not 100% sure what that is, plus i dont want to scare him off by going all deep on him!

hmm... well its obvious he's not over her yet, but regardless of you being in an open relationship he should take into consideration your feelings when his ex is around. at the end of the day she is an ex and when she is around he shouldnt act like they are still together. im all for being friends with an ex but its not right for you to be feeling jelous! :hugs:

you dont have to go deep on him, there are ways of saying these things. maybe step your relationship up to the next level seeing as everyone views you as a couple.... i dunno.... maybe he is being clever and playing you two so that he wont end up alone... i dont know him though.
i think im talking rubbish. sorry.

Reply 6

Love_Hearts

thanks for the advice guys.... im a bit of an akward customer to be honest! think il talk to him... tell him not to mention his ex, and i wont talk about mine (im still good friends with mine - withouht the sex thou)
arhh wel my best mate is visiting this weekend..she'l sort me out

Reply 7

Lady Narcissus

I think that it is wrong of him to show interest in you and then remain sleeping with his ex. You cannot control love, but be aware of him if you catch my drift.