Would you take back a 'cold feet but now sure' ex??

Nah, I wouldn't either. I'm sceptical about these things; I'd always expect history to repeat itself whenever he fancied dipping it into other chicks. You can't just go and break your girlfriend's heart in order to bang some crusty hoes and expect her to be waiting with open arms.. And of course he will use every trick in the book to get what he wants. Move forward with your own life and wait for a better guy who is perhaps a little more mature.

If you absolutely can't help yourself, however. At very least make sure he's tested for STDs before you let him near you again.

You sound EXACTLY like one of my friends! As I told her only you can decide whether he is worth the risk or not. As for the romantic gestures it isn't really surprising because he's trying to charm you to bring you round.

My own personal point of view is that I wouldn't take him back because I want someone who knows they want me not someone who uses doubts as an excuse to go off and sample other women. It would also make me worry that he might freak out again in the future which would make me question if we were going in the same direction. I would also have a nagging feeling that I'd somehow be going backwards by giving in after working so hard to move on and get over him. But hey less pessimisitic people than myself would maybe look at the whole thing differently.

I don't think it's right to say you should never get back with your ex because people can change. That doesn't only apply to the person who caused the break up, two people can both change into a very well suited pair after time apart. There are plenty of examples (both good and bad) of ex's getting back together, so it isn't black and white.

As for your situation, you know him best. You went out for two years! Do you think he's just lonely and wants the safety net of the relationship again? If you're not sure, maybe suggest a kind of test run/probationary period where you date a little. Keep it a bit distant so you don't get sucked in though.

Ex's are ex's for a reason. Although it's flattering that he's realised he's made a mistake, the fact that the realisation dawned upon him AFTER he shagged around devalues it. If you take him back he knows that he has 100% control of you and to be honest, I would expect another thread from you within the next year asking what to do in the same scenario.

Don't be a doormat and move on.

He broke up with you basically so he could get some easy pussy, don't give him the satisfaction of getting you back. Make him suffer because he lost out and now he's realised what an idiot he is, forget him and find someone who will appreciate you more than he did.

I know deep down you guys are right! But I still feel like I know him, and some people are immature and need to make mistakes, and I guess everybody makes mistakes, and it's not the mistakes you make that matter but what you learn from them?! Slap me if I'm being a naive idiot!

Seriously sweets, people don't change in 4 months, especially not at this age. You will waste another 2+ years pleasing him and then BAM,he will break up with you again. And then you will wish you never took him back in the first place. If he was that much into you then he would have avoided a break up and sleeping around afterwards.

You deserve a better person who respects you more. Go out, enjoy hanging out with your friends and rediscover yourself and what you like in life. When you're talking to him you will always feel like you should get back together so you should be cutting contact for a good 9 months so you can discover what YOU want from a relationship rather than going back to a broken one. Trust isn't just about the cheating aspect but also the future security of a relationship. You will get paranoid that there's always that possibility that he will break up with you again.